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Do Waves Create Matter?

Perhaps there are waves and vibration first and this in time creates form.

Perhaps there are waves and vibration first and this in time creates form.

I know this to be true- that vibration is the source of the diversity of our universe.  The energy that is the universe moves in waves, in constant motion and flux.  I have experienced this in meditation and I have read about it in religious texts: the Hindu story of creation beginning with the sound Om and; the Judeo- Christian- Islamic creation story that the word of god brought the universe into being.  I have also studied quantum physics, which tells

us that the nature of reality is energy and that all this energy moves in waves, even though much of it has the sensation of being solid and static or simply “empty” space.

But knowing something to be true is not the same as proving it.  I have not set out to prove anything here, simply introduce some ideas that may inspire discussion and understanding of this mystery that is the universe.  I am a scientist by training.  I like proof.  I am not sure that this concept can be proved scientifically.  Perhaps experience is all any of us really have when it comes to our perception of the universe and what we believe is the truth of reality.  There is some scientific evidence that points to this energy vibration being the foundation of reality.

I don’t know about you, but when I think of vibration, I think of an object radiating vibrations of energy out.  Like a pebble in a pond, the action of the pebble hitting the water creates ripples.  Until recently, I had always thought of these energy vibrations in this way.  Then it came to me in meditation that perhaps the opposite is true.  Perhaps there is vibration first and this in time creates form.  Maybe that is what was meant in the Hindu and Judeo- Christian- Islamic stories of creation?  When you have an idea, the thoughts are just vibrations in your mind.  In time, these thoughts become actions and action produces results in form.  Perhaps all there is in the Universe is an accumulation of vibrations, creating intricate patterns- some we see, others we feel and still more we are completely unaware.

Intrigued by this topsy- turvey notion, I investigated and discovered some fascinating scientific research to support the idea.  In the late 18th and 20th centuries, two scientists used vibrations on metal plates and created different patterns (see the works of Ernst Chladni and Hans Jenny).  They placed sand on fixed plates and used different sound frequencies to make the plates vibrate.  The sand would move to the parts of the plates that remained still.  Change the sound frequency and the shape of the pattern changed.  The sound created patterns made from sand on the plates.  In the patterns, the sand represents where the energy of the vibration is static, implying that the vibrations make an energy pattern of waves.

There are a number of different types of waves.  One form is a standing wave.  I will not go into the details here (you can find more information here if you are interested), but a unique quality of standing waves is that they have a region, or regions, that remain still.  The vibrating plates in these experiments would have produced standing waves so there would have been regions on the plates that were still which is where the sand would have collected.

So where does this leave us?  Well, one of the characteristics of matter is that it takes up three- dimensional space (i.e. it has length, depth and breadth).  What if matter is formed where three standing waves, each coming from a different plane, intersect at their still points?  The energy in these waves coalesces at this point, the energy is confined, and in some way matter is formed.  Matter is also sustained by the waves flowing to create these points.  Matter is connected beyond the physical boundary of the physical form, through the waves that go to create it.   This might help to explain how we are influenced by the ambience in a room, how we can be healed by energy healers without them touching us and why our mood influences and affects others, as we are influenced and affected by them.

For me, this is a step in trying to bring together different experiences from many disciplines and finding an explanation that might fit all of them.  Rather than discount some and accept others, perhaps we can find an explanation that encompasses the diversity of human experience.  I feel that thinking of the universe as being waves of energy that vibrate at different frequencies that come together to create not only matter, but also the forces of the universe as well, we can begin to include experiences that science would normally encourage us to discount.

I invite you to discuss this with us in the comments below.  I am not saying I am right.  I want to open this up to discussion so that we can all move forward and have a better understanding of our magnificent and mysterious universe.

Actions are Energy

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This week has been a shocking and difficult one. It left me shaken and shocked. The recent events in Paris have left a lot of people both disturbed and upset. I have spoken to a few people this week that have expressed to me sentiments that I am feeling myself. I feel that these events have touched people in a way that the occurrences in the past maybe have not. Perhaps it is because it seems so unreasonable that so many people died for what seems to the western free mind as a simple innocent little thing. The cover of a magazine should never provoke such rage and hatred in anyone. I cannot see that anything can justify the depraved slaughter of people.   The Charlie Hebdo magazine had a legal right to publish the cover and so as far as I can see they legally did nothing wrong. Did they do anything morally wrong? That is the question now I feel?

Beliefs are strongly held ideas that are thought to have weight and truth.  At the end of the day they are still only ideas. They have fluidity. Even a fixed idea that is a firmly held belief can be changed in an instant. It merely requires the desire to change that idea. Ideas are thoughts. Thoughts are energy.

Brutal actions however cannot be changed so easily. Once we commit a brutal act it unleashes something negative into the world and it will then have a life of its own. We let a Genie out of a bottle and once out it will not go back until it has reached its own allotted time. We never know what that time is as the Genie will keep going as long as people give it the energy and power to do so. With every malicious or murderous act that follows, the genie is given more power, until people have run out of energy and the pain of so much death takes its toll on the hearts, minds, souls and lives of those who are witnessing or experiencing the negative forces that are at play.

I had to spend some time thinking about the events that have led up to this disturbing time. We had 9/11, Iraq, Al Quieda and now ISIS.  I tell you straight as a person of peace I really try not to allow all of this turmoil into my life on any level.  The human race is a warring race. They kill each other at any opportunity. They separate on the grounds of any old rubbish.  Ideas are fluid and not fixed. We move on emotionally and we change and develop daily. What we do is experiment with life trying to find perfection. There is no perfection.

Human beings will kill each other on the grounds of the most inconsequential things as well as deeply held beliefs. The trouble with beliefs is they are personal and subjective. It does not matter how deeply we feel that our beliefs are correct- there is always the possibility that they may not be correct. So if we kill a person over beliefs no matter how deeply we feel we are correct and in the right, what if we are not? What we are left with is a pile of dead people that we cannot resurrect. This is a futile and dangerous path.

We are one and we are free

All human beings are one. The binding force in humanity is its humanity. Religion will never bind us. It cannot. We will never all agree on religion, politics or any idea or ideology. I believe that in humanity’s current state and way of thinking it will not happen. It cannot be brought about by force either. As I said force will only allow something to be for a time. People have a natural need to be free in mind, body and soul. It is a natural condition to the human state.

Religious beliefs

Religious beliefs have a place, but not a murderous one. To be religious or walk any spiritual path it is one of peace. I just cannot reconcile blood on the hands of a person who has words of love and peace on his lips. The image and actions do not work. We are human and as such are capable of many things. We are capable of great things and have had many great moments in our history. Killing and fighting are never the moments that we have held or can hold up as our greatest achievements. They are always the lowest of what we can do to and for each other.

Freedom of speech is important as it allows all sides and all people to have a voice. However, we do not need to have religious, political or racial hate. Hate is hate no matter what umbrella it comes to us under. Each human being in my view should be allowed to worship or not and in the way they choose. It is good to have variety and possibilities.  They help one grow and keeps life engaging and unpredictable.  Options are a good thing. Everyone has a point of view on religion and all are equally valid. We must live together with the other person’s point of view and respect them and their right to have it. We must not silence their voice on the grounds that it does not fit in with our own.  Obviously if a person is being directly provocative and wanting to incite human hatred for the purpose of bringing harm to the person on any grounds of religion, race, or politics it must be stopped.

Keeping ourselves in check

Don’t get me wrong.  Beliefs have their place but we all need to keep them in check and if they are sacred, keep them so. If we sully our own sacred beliefs with the blood of another human being, how sacred are they now?

When is the human race going to learn from its past mistakes? There is no perfection of people.  Perhaps there is no perfection in God.  If perfection is an endlessly moving goal post, how can we say that anything is right or wrong?  Things are as they are in this moment, a chance for perfection and then the universe moves on. There is only the wish for perfection and the road to perfection. Perfection itself does not exist. In pushing forward on the road for perfection we change and develop. Hopefully we get development and something better for our efforts.

Violence has never solved anything. It has never helped us at all. It will quieten the argument for some time and then it re-emerges at a later date. People have grown more violent and oblivious to pain as far as I can see. I may be wrong but that is how it seems to me.  I don’t hear too many people saying let’s walk a road of peace. I hear people say let’s kill, and I am hearing more of that and it scares and unsettles me.

Doves of peace

I say let’s not kill. I say let’s have peace. I say let’s symbolically let 3,000,000 doves of peace loose to help this situation and as they fly away have their positive energy touch the world. That is what I will do. Please feel free to join me in your own way and spread your positive intent for peace. I shall go into my own personal peace and ask for this symbolically to be so. What harm can that do? Prayers of love and peace can do no harm. People do harm if they employ selfish, malicious, or murderous intent.

I hope the universe hears my request. Respect, Peace, and love to the entire human race. Walk a peaceful path.  It is the only one that is binding and lasting.

Health and Success in the New Year

529745947O.K., so the mince pies have been eaten and you have stuffed your face with as much turkey, Christmas pudding and cake as you could humanly manage. You washed it all down with as much alcohol as your liver would allow, without sending you to A&E. It is now after News year’s eve, where you partied to the wee hours and you now feel sick and want to throw up. To be fair, you have not yet, but you really do feel like it and your skin is looking a funny shade of green. Not to mention your throbbing head.

Your body isn’t looking good. Very bloated and round. You are trying to convince yourself that the mince pies got worked off on the short walk to the party, but somehow it does not cut it. Alright admit it you have eaten too much and it is now showing in the poundage of your body and you drank too much and you are green. Fat and green to sum it up, so now what?

Well there is the New Year’s resolution of course. Get fit, get healthy and you could join the local gym. But you have done that before and the enthusiasm does not last past the beginning of February. This is called after festivity depression; a reality check after the revelry.

It is good to have a good time and Christmas is just the best time for that as so many people are up for the party. Life has to be full of good and happy things as they are the most fulfilling to us. However, should we really be partying until we go green? Maybe a lighter shade of something more appealing would be better. Being excited and loosing ones inhibitions can be a good thing sometimes. We all have our shyness’s and insecurities at any age. So alcohol is good for that. It will take that away for a short time and allow a freedom in the moment.

However, the freedom was short lived; you now understand this as you stand in front of the mirror looking at your unappealing green pallor. You could have saved yourself all of this by not engaging in the fun and not being at the festivities or participating. There is no fun in that either. So what is the answer? May I suggest moderation?

If you were moderate you could have enjoyed it all without feeling sick and going green, with a fat body and a throbbing head. This sounds like brutal advice, and it is to be fair. This was something I learnt a long time ago. Moderation is the key to a happy life. Satisfy your taste buds but don’t pile on the pounds with large quantity. Large quantities of anything will have a negative effect on your health or oppress you in time.

Last year at about this time I met a really lovely young man. He came to me as a client for therapy. He had a cocaine addiction and he looked so ill. As a mother and a caring individual my heart went out to him as he said to me, this started as a party and now it is a nightmare.

Often we make our own nightmare. Part of life is joining in the party. The ultimate party is life itself of course, and so we have to weigh a great deal up. We have to weigh up what is the right path for us as individuals. If we look down the road just a little bit we can be more controlled and thoughtful about the decisions we take.  The party seemed a good idea at the time, and maybe it was. However in hindsight was it? Your party was your making. A long, healthy and happy life needs a wee bit of control on our part and appropriate decisions made for our future anything if we are to have one at all. Life is a learning journey and none of us have all of the answers at any one time. We learn many things along the way in life as we develop over time. It is good to have fun at any age but don’t pay for it with your life, or quality of life. That is too high a price for a party.

May 2015 be peaceful, content and filled with the good things of life for you.

All the best for the New Year, Lynette.

Miss Stress Ball

Miss Stress Ball

Miss Stress Ball

The My Story series continues with number three in the series, “Miss Stress Ball”.

 

I was a very quiet shy child. Life taught me to keep my mouth shut and keep a low profile. I was born in a time when you did not answer your elders and betters back. If you had an opinion you were to keep it to yourself as no one wanted to hear it from a child or teenager. That did not suit me as I was always a deeply thinking person.

Teachers

I am of mixed race and was born in the 50’s in London, Great Britain. Being mixed race was not an easy thing at that time. At school many of my teachers left me in no doubt that they did not want me in their class on the basis of my colour. Not all teachers where like that, I did have many kinds and lovely people who were my teachers and mentors along the way. However, the first teacher that made it clear to me that I was not wanted as a pupil by her was when I was five and first entered school. She made me cry most days until my mother had enough and went to the school and gave her what for. I remember hearing my mother say to the teacher if my daughter comes home one more day crying because of you, then you will go home crying. My mother was a tough woman.

Unkindness

Some of the children were unkind also and most would not play with me and did not include me. The boy next door threw a stone at me as I passed his house one day on the basis of my colour and called me all sorts of unkind names. The children who played in my street one day would not let me join in their game and said I t was because I was dirty. When I looked at my dress and hands, I showed the children and said no look I am clean. They replied with you are black and not white and you are dirty.

My Stresses

These were my personal early stresses in life. Times have got somewhat better with such things. Many people do try hard to be tolerant to all races now. Not everyone has this inclusive mind set even today. Life can be hard and cause us all sorts of stresses. Many of those stresses can start very early in our lives. As a hypnotherapist I know that most people when they come to me for help have had some sort of trauma/traumas at some point in their life. Stress always has a root.

I continued to gather stress as I went through life and as life dealt me many difficult situations to deal with. I had good ones too, but stress builds up in the body as negative energy and has to be removed. The body will accommodate an amount of it but when the sub-conscious mind and body becomes over loaded the person will break down in some way. It could be physical, emotional or even mental.

A Broken Body

My body broke down eventually and I fell into ill health, with M.E. The signs of stress were there in my life in my thirties and my friends joked and called me miss stress ball. I was a person who just would not give in to life and would just fight through the worst of it.

Everyone has a story and reasons why they become stressed. Life is stressful for all sorts of reasons. Stress must be dealt with and we all need to be mindful that we are impactful on each other in the things we do and say to each other. Why add stress to another person’s life. Life itself gives each of us enough of it.

Dealing with stress

I have dealt with my stress and ill health and the two things that help me the most are meditation and Reiki. I use both of those things to keep my stress in check. So effective have they been in my life that I teach these techniques to people when they need to manage stress in their lives in an effective way.  In the book “Nourish the Flame within” that I have written with David Brown I explore meditation and Reiki as means of combating stress.  If you would like to learn more about using Reiki and meditation to combat stress you can get a free e- book from our website or purchase a copy of our book “Nourish the Flame Within.”

 

 

No ones Perfect

509075791Perfection, what a perfect word! If you say it, it seems to roll off the tongue so nicely. It has an ease. We could say it has its own perfect vibration.

My father asked me

To be perfect- what does that really mean? Is it achievable? When I went to school perfection was encouraged. I did not understand why it was encouraged. It all just seemed to be taxing and challenging to me. To be honest as a child I could just not be bothered to deal with the subject of perfection. At that time in my life I was happy with whatever was the easiest option for me. I wanted an easy life. Why run harder and faster. That only puts a strain on the body. I hated sports with a passion. One day whilst watching Tennis my father posed the question to me. What sport do you like? It was not posed as a question but as a statement.  I asked him, what do you mean?  He said to me, you don’t like any.

I hated sport

This was true enough. I did not like doing them or watching them or even hearing about them. It was all hard work to me and therefore totally unenjoyable. Now as an adult I think what a waste. Also what a huge lesson I have learnt in life. With effort comes perfection. With hard work comes self-satisfaction and learning. These are some of the pieces of gold that life has to offer. It took me until my late teens and early twenties to understand the power of work and effort.

Work oh no

What I did not realise about work was this, that it is through work of any kind that we have an opportunity for perfection. Every time we engage with it we have an opportunity to perfect a skill, an interaction or production of something, either within ourselves or outside of ourselves.

It is not just about money but more than that. It is the perfection of the self through time, effort and experience. It is the nourishment of the self that leads to perfection. Perfection is something that we can all strive for but in reality is not achievable. We gain from the pursuit of perfection the rewards that are there to be had not from the attainment of perfection.

Perfection is not possible

Attainment of perfection is not possible, as people perceive perfection differently even though they may be observing the same circumstances. Perfection is subjective, and even if it is agreed upon by many at a particular time, the goal post will always change, both inside and outside of the self. So by who’s definition is perfection perfect anyway? The purpose of striving for perfection is to gain experience. The masters of music, art, dance, acting and sport have a depth and breadth of experience that allows them to get close to that pinnacle of perfection and they may even touch the summit, for a moment, and then it is gone.

If I had run around and pursued a life of sport I would have had a positive outcome no matter how much or little I put into it. Or how much or little of it I did, as it has its own rewards. I would have improved my physical fitness and maybe gained some increased self-esteem perhaps.

I spent my time drawing and painting instead and still gained a lot from that. So in reality I gained anyway. I just gained from something other than sport. I had my own vehicle for seeking perfection.

 

The Magic

510536519The natural forces of the earth flow along natural pathways as do the forces of the universe. The earth and the universe are one. They are each part of a whole that makes the universe. All forces of the universe are natural to it as they are all part of it. Energy takes many forms. All is fluid energy and solidity is an illusion. There is magic in that. We see something with our eyes and we say it must be so as I have seen it for myself. Life is an illusion. It is here for the briefest of moments and then it is gone. It is not set in stone. It is not permanent. The permanence is an illusion. That is a part of the natural order of life. We are born we live and then the body dies. There is a natural flow of energy forces at work in that plan.

Not all that we see with our naked eye is real. We say there is nothing there because we cannot see anything there. We know that all is not seen with the naked eye. There is a world of energy and energy forces that are unseen to the naked eye and they are there and at work none the less. Just because I cannot see a micro-organism with my naked eye does not mean it is not there.

Air surrounds us. Wind is the force of moving air. We feel the force of air rushing around us. We can’t see air. We can feel it sometimes. We feel it as it enters our lungs and gives us sustained life. This is all part of the magic of life.

There are other energy forces around us that are unseen. These forces can be felt and seen in certain circumstances. They are subtle energy forces that can be interacted with. These energy forces are both positive and negative.

There is an electromagnetic energy around us that we can draw into our bodies. This happens naturally and we can amplify the energy intake at will. This energy feeds  our body like air feeds the lungs. It is gentle and subtle and is not easily felt.

Each person has an electromagnetic energy field that surrounds and penetrates the body called the aura. We all feel each other’s aura, but we don’t all see it. Some people can see the aura of other people but not many can do so naturally. With some teaching and practice it can be seen as fuzzy energy about an inch or two from the outside of the body.

There are other unseen energies that are always around us. We can feel them often but as we don’t see them with our eyes those feelings are often dismissed. If you go into the quiet of your being and concentrate by sending your aura out to those forces you will feel them.

As there are positive energies so too there are negative ones. There are always opposite forces. They exist because the universe must be balanced. As there are energies that are good for the body’s health and well-being so too there are energies that are the opposite. Positive and negative exists throughout the universe on all levels.

People are an energy force within the universe and they too can be positive or negative. Our influence upon the universe can be one or the other. We send energy out into the universe and the quality of that energy will have an effect upon the whole. We are part of the universal whole as an energy force. We often think of the elements of the earth as being separate from each other. We say that people are separate or that countries are separate. Are they? Where does that separation lay? If a person, an area or a country sends out large amounts of poisonous energy waste it affects the whole. It pollutes the immediate and the wider environment, of which people are a part. We do not understand all that there is to understand about the universe or even our own environment, the earth and so how can any of us say how much we affect the whole. We only understand a part of the workings of the earth and the universe.

All is explainable with logic and reason as long as we take into account all the facts that come from experience, intellect and intuition. There is nothing that does not have a logical explanation. Sometimes the true explanation does not tie in with our own understanding of how things are in reality at this moment. Life and the universe are full of illusion. What we think we see sometimes we do not and what we think is not around us is. That is the magic of the universe.

Taken from “Feel the Power” a first steps guide to connecting to the universe. Which is to be published shortly by The Hancock Press. Written by Lynette it is a guide to connecting to the energy forces of the universe.

 

 

Alive, Well and full of Good Vibration

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We are all alive in this moment. However how alive is alive? Each person must put effort into their lives to gain the most from it. It is not that living is hard that is the problem or that the effort that is put into things goes un-noticed. It is really the quality of that effort that is the key. If we put a low quality of effort into our projects then less will ensue from that effort. Effort and quality of effort has its own particular vibrational signal.

For instance everything has a vibration and all things have a particular quality of vibration. Laughter has a high vibration and sadness has a lower vibration. If we attack our lives and days with laughter and happiness then we bring a high lighter vibration to all of our situations. Laughter and lightness is expansive and it is engaging to all. Whilst misery is engaging to no one as it is contractive.   Think about it, how many miserable people do you like to be around? Not many I bet. We are only around these people for a short a time as we can manage. These people bring our own mood down and are draining to us. Everything has a vibration. All people places and things, including emotions and states of being have their own vibration.

Happy People

Who likes to be around happy people? Hands up! Everyone does. That is because these people feed our own energy system and raise our vibration. They mostly have a positive impact on us. We all like to be at happy social occasions as they feed out soul. However there are some people who do not like to be around happy people. This is usually because they feel out of their comfort zone due to shyness or social awkwardness, or perhaps because they are out of sorts themselves. These people either feel resentful of happy people being happy as they are not in that place themselves.  Or they just find them tiring due to the high energy levels that happy people exude.  This will be the case if the person is physically ill with low energy levels usually.  Rest, peace and quiet will be more likely what you need.

If you are emotionally depleted and just a little out of sorts then happy people are what you need. They will raise your low vibration and be infectious to you. They will have energy for you to sap as they will be giving off energy in abundance.  Have you ever met a person who was a little fed up or even depressed and after talking to them you found yourself feeling low on energy or emotionally drained? Well there is your reason. They sapped your energy levels.

However if you are very unwell or really very lacking in energy happy energetic people can be more draining to you in the short term. As maybe what you need is just rest and peace and quiet. As I said before everything has its own vibration and we are affected on all levels of our lives by vibrations and the quality of each and every vibration.

Social Gatherings and Personal Vibrations.

People who do not like to be amongst vibrant people tend to hate social gatherings. These tend to be people who find engaging with others difficult. The difficulty of social engagement lays in the differences in vibrational levels of the people. If a person has a weak vibration then they will be less likely to like being around people with a strong vibrational signal. They will feel engulfed by that as well as perhaps threatened by it. People who are shy have a weak vibrational signal. Think about it, most of us have encountered someone who’s shy. Close your eyes and think about that encounter. Were you intimidated by that person? No you were not. They were non-threatening and maybe you found their demeanour a little irritating and maybe even pathetic depending on who they were and the circumstances of the encounter.  Don’t get me wrong I have had my moments of shyness as probably many of us have.

These attributes can be overcome with a little self-confidence, experience and knowledge. Shyness has its own vibration and it is a weak vibration. What is required is a change in mental state to raise the vibration of the person. All vibrations are responded to by others who are feeling that vibration. In the main most people find social gatherings especially family gatherings a blast and love to be invited to such gatherings.

Raise the Vibration

It is partly to raise our own vibration and to make ourselves feel good, that we all go to social gatherings. We can also raise our own vibration by just thinking of happy things. Good memories of past happenings and occurrences will do the trick and raise our vibration. The brain does not know what is real and in this moment or in the past. It does not differentiate between happy things that have actually happened to us and happy things that we have seen and understood. So you can make anything up and your brain will accept it as true for you. I am happy right now. Say it and tell yourself it often and it will become true for you in reality. You will raise your vibration and you will understand the truth of what I am saying here to you now. In time you will feel happier and other people will respond to you in a positive happy way. Life will change and that change may be fast or slow but positive happy thoughts will bring positive change.

Look for the things that will feed your soul and make you happy. Look for people who are on that high vibration and are positive and happy to feed your soul. Settle for nothing less than that which will enhance your situation. We all meet people who are in a down or depressed state from time to time. Please share this knowledge with them and try to get them to do affirmations each day. I am happy fulfilled and in a good space….that kind of thing. Train your brain and get these people to train theirs. I know depression is an illness but it is also a choice for some people.  Take active steps to alleviate states of depression with positive actions and thoughts.

We all from time to time become down for one reason or another but there is no need to feed these states. There is a lot that we can do personally to change our mood. Life does not just fall into our laps. Or at least for most people it does not. So we all have to go out there into life and carve it for ourselves. This takes time effort and self-belief on our part. That is a story for another day. The message for today is know that you can change your mood by raising your own vibration.

 

Stress and Strain

Stress Free

Stress Free

 The life of inner peace being harmonious and without stress is the easiest type of existence.

~~Norman Vincent Peale~~

A stress free life

Life How do we find a stress free life? Is this an impossible dream for us all? Is there any part of our lives that is truly stress- free? I am not so sure that there is. For is I look at our entry to life all I can see is stress. The mother is certainly stressed, the baby about to be born must be stressed for he or she is about to be thrown out of its cosy existence into a world unfamiliarity. It has spent the past nine months very cosy and warm and nourished thank you very much. So why should it want to be thrust into life at all. If we look around the delivery room there will be a few anxious midwives rushing around doing the things that mid wives do at these times of uncertainty and new delivery. Calming the parents to be the best they can and stabilising their own nerves I am sure. The very thought of that environment is stressful. Of course there is joy to follow for when the little chaps or chap-ess arrives there can be nothing but joy.  The poor little thing enters a world of stress and joy and then is slapped on the bottom for good measure.

More stress

Well this is the start of life for human beings and there is much of more of all that to follow in the years ahead. Stress and joy, to come in life and not in the same measure unfortunately. No one knows how the little new little person’s life will be. We all wish the new born the best and hope its life will be a good one. There is such hope pinned on the new born for its parents want it to be the embodiment of all of their hope and dreams.  A lot is placed on the shoulders of the new arrival. Already it has to live up to the parents expectations and it has only just arrived. No one tells the poor thing that this will be its start to life and if they did the child would probably say no thanks to life.

The start of life is not easy and it does not get any easier for as we travel through our lives and the twists and turns that it throws in our path life can sometimes be crushing for many people.

Of course not every one’s life is a crushing affair for many if not most it is an OK affair that is travelled through with a reasonable amount of dignity and grace. There are many lives and many kinds of people living those lives. All are different one from the other all have both the people and the lives. Do we make our life or does our life make us? I think that is an interesting question. In the industrialised west life is a fast paced noisy existence for all.

Life in the fast lane

As most people in industrialised  societies live their lives in the city, noise, people and stress are unavoidable. Life is fast paced and about productivity in all things. The cry of the city is fast more and more. It does not matter how fast you are you must be faster still and there is no end to the striving for an ever increasing pace in all things. I wonder to what cost this fast paced life we all must live is. For whom does it serve? Does it serve the person living this fast paced life does it truly serve society at large? I wonder this often and I am not sure I have the answer to this question. For it is true that the industrialised life we all live brings benefits to us but is that at a large price. Well time will tell of course if all of this stress will have been worth it. When I was a young child of the fifties modern medicine was the golden child of the twentieth century. It was going to eradicate disease and put all to rights. Well I am not sure that it has. It has done marvellous things of course we all are in no doubt about that. Many diseases that were the blight of the nineteenth century have almost been removed totally and that is a good thing.

Life of ease

If I look around at life I do not see this life of ease that was the promise of the twentieth century. Machines and objects were to bring us ease. The vacuum cleaner, the car, the electric lawn mower all are labour saving devices. People are as stressed and worried about life as they always were. They are still worrying about their economic position personal, national and global.

In amongst all of the financial uncertainty that we have all endured in over the past few years I see many stressed uncertain people trying to make sense of their lives life in general and what will happen to them in the future. I think rightly so, for who wants an uncertain future. Who wants to feel that they may lose their home or not be able to put food on the table?

An Interesting ride

I have seen many things come and go, mainly prime ministers and world leaders. Some have been good and some have been bad. Some have shouted for fairness equality and change and others have shouted for the status quo. All have had something to say on how life should be organised for the masses to the best effect.

Well it has been an interesting ride watching and listening I must say. However it seems to me that things do not change so much really. The same issues tax us all. We want to go about our lives unhindered in relative safety and peace. We want our basic needs met and a holiday or two on top. We all want normal things but those things come at a price. Those things come through the daily grind. The daily grind can do just that grind at you and grind you down if you let it.

Relax

So if life does not change much and we can expect the same amounts of stress what do we do? What is the trick to a stress free life? The first trick is to understand that stress is a necessary part of life.. The next is to learn to manage the stress that life throws at you. Now this is the tricky one. For how do we do that? Well what I can tell you is there are tools that you can learn to help with stress.  Things like meditation and hypnosis are good ways of managing stress. As well as breathing correctly and taking adequate sleep and rest. All help with levels of stress. The best one is to avoid stress as much as possible be walking away from stressful situations and not causing stressful encounters to be in your life. For stress causes many illnesses. It does so slowly over many years mostly. You will not notice the effects of stress on a day to day basis, but it builds up within the body slowly eating away at your health and vitality turning you into a grey shadow of your former self.  Oh how horrible!

I am sorry to paint such a picture which is not at all pleasant but neither is ill health. There are many ways to combat stress and each person must find the one that suits them the best.  Relax and do something nice and just don’t take life to heart or it may hurt your heart.

 

Life is a Bowl of Cherries

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Life is a bowl of cherries. Not necessarily for every one though. It depends on perspective. What is to one person good and happy circumstances would be the lowest of the low to another person. It is a bit like hot and cold water. Depending on our previous experiences the water temperature will be perceived differently.

Life is– vibrant and full of variety. Each cherry varies in colour, size and flavour and the enjoyment you derive from this variety depends on perspective.

Compare the colour of red cherries beside another red object or in front of a red background. How red are they? Now put them in front of a blue background. How red are the cherries now? In front of the red background, the cherries may seem to have lost their vibrancy. When placed in front of a blue background, the colour contrast renders their red colouring as vibrant and intense as can be. This is the power of perspective.119168579 - Copy

It is the difference in how we experience these everyday phenomena that informs our unique life perspective. The variety of experiences we encounter throughout our lives enrich us on a deep level – as they say, “variety is the spice of life.” If we resist opening ourselves up to different experiences, life is the same –same –same. Boring! To add vibrancy, we must embrace variety and recognise the power of perspective when tucking into life’s bowl of cherries.

Let’s take this analogy a bit further. How often do you think about how your life experiences impact you? Most of the time, we just experience without thought as to what experiences add to the quality of our lives. It is commonly thought that to be happy we must only have happy experiences. This is not true. We must have variety of experiences to make us whole, balanced people.

To achieve balance, the key once again is variety. Balanced people are whole because they are at one within themselves and not at odds with the variety of life’s experiences. A machine that is broken – in pieces – is not whole or in good working order. In seeking balance or restoration of “good working order” for ourselves, we must at some point come out of balance. We must tip one way and then the other to discover the correct equilibrium of experience and variety.

Going too far out of balance can cause trauma, but it is important to know that no one has to keep trauma. An individual decides within the fabric of their own being how much trauma they retain or release in any situation. When a trauma is so severe it has become deeply internalised, you must first decide that it is to be released and then set in motion the tools for implementing this release.

Meditation and hypnosis are excellent tools for such release. Hypnosis and meditation are bed fellows – they are very similar but offer direct benefits for the release of trauma.

Life can be whatever we wish it to be; as individuals we have power.  For the most part, each person is in control of their own ship. All is perspective and view point. Life’s cherries can look equally delicious set against a red or blue background. It is up to the individual to decide which background they prefer and why.