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Christmas 2016

Sleeping on the streets at Christmas time

Sleeping on the streets at Christmas time




I would like to wish you a very merry Christmas. I would like to thank you so much for reading and supporting our blogs over the years. David and I started writing our blog to support our book “Nourish the Flame within” . That book was published in 2012 and that seems like such a long time ago. Next year I hope to publish my second book and I am currently writing my third. So there are lots of exciting things ahead in 2017 for both myself and I hope my readers too.

I have to say that this last year has been something of a challenge for me personally. I have had many of life’s little difficulties thrown in my direction. Life is life and we have to expect these things in our diection from time to time. Where would we be without a challenge or two to stir things up? We are all human and walk a human path, with human experience. Sometimes those experiences will either make or break us.

We can never know exactly what will come our way in life. The spiritual take on experience is that ultimately all experience is good as it allows our soul to grow. I think experience develops us in many ways. Experience allows us to stretch through endeavour and misfortune. Experiencing negative things can be testing and hard to endure. I won’t pretend that people don’t suffer through experience as they often suffer a great deal.

Suffering is a part of life as is happiness and pleasure. It is the other side of the coin. Life has opposites. Each person experiences many things both positive and negative good and bad. It is the mix of experience that ultimately shapes the person. People are not static beings they learn through endeavour, circumstance and experience. However,  I know that many people are broken by hard circumstances.

Compassion is an ingredient of the Christmas spirit. Christ taught us to be compassionate. I personally find it very difficult to walk past any homeless person without emptying my purse of change and more. I do not like to see people with a lack of warmth, food  and shelter at any time of the year let alone at this, the coldest and most miserable weather wise. We have many homeless people in Britain. Homelessness is not restricted to our country it affects many people all over the world.

Young people who find themselves living on the streets at an early age will be more likely to die an early death. There is a part of my being that does not find this acceptable. When I pass a homeless person I wonder what brought them to that point in their life. Homelessness makes my heart sink. Society makes my heart sink. So many of the young people who find themselves homeless and living on the streets have fled abusive or violent homes and the streets as hard as they are seem preferable to what they leave behind. Isn’t that horrible, isn’t that terrible?

I understand that there will always be a small portion of people, who do not fare well at parenting for many reasons, but children are a blessing to us all a gift from life and deserve the best love and nurturing that society and parents can give. They are the next generation. People and life are both  very precious things. Each person and each life offers potential to society.

Homelessness seems to be a large and difficult problem. So once again this year in the bleakest mid winter weather there are too many people living on the streets trying to survive the night, the week the month and the season? I know that many of you will give as I do, help where you can, to these desperate people. Everyone deserves to have love, respect and a roof over their heads.

Lack of money and lack of housing is a difficult issue to address. We can all send our love to the homeless this Christmas. We can all send out our good thoughts and prayers. Thoughts and prayers are energy and energy can move mountains. As a collective energy force we impact and change life. Some people think that thoughts and prayers do nothing. This is not true they connect us to each other in a direct way. They connect us to the power of the universe. I am so fed up with walking through our city streets and seeing so many people living on the streets. If we really wanted an end to it I am sure there would be an end to this situation. I think the issue of the homeless in Britain 2016, is a disgrace to us all. I would  like to wish all who find themselves homeless this Christmas joy, happiness and a roof over your heads in 2017.

On a lighter note, I would like to wish you the warmest of Christmas greetings. I hope that Santa brings you all of your Christmas wishes, and may the angels walk through life with you.

Love and best wishes,

Creativity and the Soul or Sub-conscious mind

Positive interaction and the growth of the human soul

Positive interaction and the growth of the human soul

I consider myself to be a creative person. Creative activity and art gave me great pleasure as a child. I had an early encounter with art that had me hooked. As a babe in arms I was carried to the kitchen table by my mother and placed on it. She took a pen and paper and drew a cat for my amusement. My mother was no great artist and she drew the simplest of renderings. She had two circles placed one on top of the other. Two triangles for ears and dots for eyes and nose and a half circle for a mouth. Lines for whiskers, and a tail and that was it. I was amazed at that wonderful cat. I remember it so vividly to this day sixty one years later.

Often little things can inspire us. That day something was awakened inside of me. I know all children are awakened by many things. Our senses are awoken very early on in our development. This is a time of discovery of course and a time of wonder. New tastes, smells, touches and visual stimulation are all on offer on a daily basis at this time. From that first encounter with drawing I was hooked. I loved it. From that day on I would look at drawings and illustrations in books. Colour stimulated me as did design from an early age. That early encounter with drawing would be the starting point that would take me to Art College and many hours of my life spent in contemplation and learning of drawing, painting, design and art. So many hours of my life has been spent in this way. All of those hours that I have spent have been a joy to me. Some were painful, in fact very painful but as has often been said by many people, without pain there is no gain.
If my mother were alive today I don’t think she would agree that her humble efforts at drawing a cat had anything to do with taking me on my discovery of art. But it did. My mother encouraged my creativity. She always gave my sisters and me, the tools to be creative with. My mother encouraged drawing, colouring and sewing. In fact she was in favour of all creative activity.
Isn’t it strange how others can influence our behaviour and our path forward in life? Sometimes a chance conversation, a meeting with a person can make a huge difference to our life. Neither I nor my mother had notion of Art College and training when she drew the cat. What she wanted in that moment was to entertain her small child. But her efforts did much more than that. It awakened something deep inside of me. It stirred my soul.

Rules, stories and limiting beliefs
I have many clients who come to me for therapy who have beliefs of unworthiness. These beliefs often start in childhood. They are given deliberately, unconsciously or passively by individuals or society. They are all around us in the media, in the home in families, in education and in society as a whole. People are segregated one from the other on many differences. They may be social, financial, sexual, intellectual, visual, interact, or many more separating factors. We all take some of these separating factors on board to a degree. The roots of feelings of unworthiness can come from the family, school, peers, society the media and are always buried somewhere in the past experience of the individual. It will be from some form of interaction with someone or something that they will have been gained.
Even as quite a young child I understood that society had rules and a story worked out for my life path. I understood what was expected for my future and allowed for me. It is funny how we just absorb unspoken and spoken messages. I remember such sayings as know your place, respect your betters and elders. messages about our self are given to us from an early age. Each generation has their person expectations about what is on offer in life for them. I know my generation did not have it as badly as my parents and grandparents generation, after the war we all got richer and had more options open to us than our parents had in their youth. However limiting interaction was there although perhaps watered down. My mother told me stories of her childhood and how she was made to feel deliberately unworthy and stupid by her teacher at school. She was made to stand in a corner of the school room and called a dunce. my mother was not a dunce at all but that experience scared her on many levels. That was in the 1920’s. I know that today teachers take great pains to encourage their students to be people who aspire and feel worthy.
I have been watching a programme recently on T.V. It was about Victorian Britain and the harsh conditions that the Victorian poor had to endure. They did not have very many options. We all take so much for granted these days. They were kept in their place mainly by economic difference. People with money were considered better than people who were poor. The poor were often portrayed in a very negative light. They were seen as lazy and feckless and the masters of their own circumstances. The Victorian rich did not seem to grasp the fact that economic poverty was created by a lack of funds in the direction of the working classes. By keeping wages unreasonably low they kept these people in economic poverty as well as emotional poverty.

There are many ways to keep people in their place. We can do so by economic means we can do so by emotional constraints. Sometimes they are spoken other times unspoken. Language has great power. The way we use words and the words themselves have great power. Words convey information but they also convey much more. They have a vibrational power that can impact the very heart of the individual. Words are both information and vibration. Something as simple as “who do you think you are.” This sentence can be a put down of the person it is aimed at. Many of us will have had someone say that to us. I know I have and in recent years it has been said about me. Well my response to that question/statement was this: “I know I am Lynette, I am an artist, spiritual teacher, Reiki master, holistic therapist, wife mother and more importantly myself.” The sentence “who do you think you are” has a negative vibrational power, depending on how it is given to the person. If the person is not strong enough or wise enough to understand where the sentence is coming from in the person and their agenda it can be very damaging to the receiver of the sentence. That of course was the point of the sentence in the first place. It was meant to be damaging and destructive to the receiver.
I understood from a very early age that there was something very negative going on in society and some of it was directed at me. Although during my childhood I understood there were negative influences coming in my direction from society, my father gave my sisters and I a very different story of what we could and could not be. He tried to instil in us self-belief. It is not surprising how many people just don’t have it. In my work as a therapist I meet so many people who are left broken people because of limiting negative language that they received as children or young adults. Sometimes they receive it as adults at the hands of other adults such as work colleagues, parents, siblings, friends or spouses.
Great things can come from a place of self-belief. When self-belief is not nurtured or is attacked by others we shrivel and die inside. Our soul or sub-conscious mind is affected as it stores that story of limited self-belief, as our reality. Our soul/sub-conscious mind believes without question what we tell it. In that way we create our reality.
Giving someone a story about themselves to believe can create their reality if they take it on board and act it out. The same applies to oneself. We can also give ourselves a story to believe and act out. That is self-belief, if we give our self a positive story. If we give our self a negative story to act upon that is lack of self-belief.
Mantras are a great tool to help nurture self-belief. In a mantra we can give our self over and over again a positive statement that if give many times we will in time believe.

Art touched my soul
Art uses the intellectual, visual, auditory and emotional capacities of the person. The produce of art touches the soul of people. It does not matter what art it is, music, dance, theatre, drawing painting etc., it all touches us.
We touch our own soul first. We first touch our own soul in the creation of art. For in that touching we understand the soul of others. My mother stimulated my intellectual awareness, my visual and emotional awareness by drawing the cat. She also touched my soul. I knew what a cat was. The drawing gave me a paper representation that expressed the experience I had of cat. That touched my soul on some level. It still does.
My mother and I connected in the moment she drew the cat, and also beyond that time through that act. Of course my mother and I had many connections, both positive and negative, but none carried by me in the same way as the drawing of the cat.
We sometimes touch each other with simple things. Those simple things may pass without question or notice. However they can have great impact on the giver, receiver or both. The quality of our interactions with others is important as we all leave each other with something through those interactions.

Negative Careers Officer
When I was in my teens and still at school, I had to see the careers officer. My encounter with this woman was not good. She asked me what I wanted to do and I said go to art college. Her reply to that was we can’t all be doctors and dentists. She then gave me a list of very unsuitable alternatives to Art College. None of which gave me any hope of fulfilment. I am not sure why she thought I should not go to Art College as I always had talent at art and an aptitude for it. There was not a moment of encouragement from that woman. I am so pleased I did not listen to that woman for a moment. I remember coming out of that interview thinking, “rubbish.” I will not forget that awful woman till the day I die. My mother had awoken my love or art and this woman wanted to crush it.
As we can awaken talents and interests in each other so too we can quash them. For every person that awakens another’s soul there are those who would send it to sleep. Often this is done with the use of negative opinions and expressions. Fear is a big driver of this kind of behaviour.
• Fear of the other person.
• Fear of the other person developing self-power.
• Fear of the other person improving.
• Fear of being overshadowed.
• Fear if being left behind.
• Fear of being no longer equal.
• Fear of being considered less than.
• Fear of the person breaking out of their allotted place and story.
• Fear of not measuring up.

I don’t think the careers officer’s opinion of me came from a place of fear. Although I am not too sure what she was basing her opinion, I have a theory or two.

Nurturing, support and development of the human intellect, soul, spirit, and emotions take humanity forward. Crushing of those elements at best keeps people and society static. At worst it causes frustration, dissatisfaction ill health or worse. Many people who we consider geniuses came from unlikely backgrounds. Many defied society’s rules and stories for them to bring us all their personal brand of creativity, whatever that was. The human soul must be nurtured and not crushed. The human soul has a right to be free to express and be creative. All souls have a right to grow and a need to grow. All humanity benefits from positive human interaction and expression. I celebrate creative expression for it is the expression of the human soul.




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Emotion in the Body

Have you wondered what people mean when they refer to the mind- body connection?   How does this relate to energy? What role does energy play in this connection between body and mind?

One of the key forces of the mind is emotion, feelings that flow through the mind and body created by the release of hormones, neurotransmitters and other chemicals that affect the body and mind in a myriad of ways. These chemicals are released as a response to events and situations that occur in your life. There are many chemicals for the body to choose from. Which ones you choose are determined by your beliefs and values, so that you might be anxious about the prospect of talking in public because you believe it to be a threatening situation, or you might be excited by the idea because it is thrilling to be sharing your ideas to a group of people. The quickening heart, the shortness of breath, the strained voice are all symptoms of one emotional response. The steady beat of the heart, the calm breathing and the conviction in your strong voice are the symptoms of a different response. Neither emotion is right or wrong. It is just how you feel about it. Those feelings create an emotional response in your body. This cascade of events occurs because the mind and the body are connected.

Energy and emotion

Emotion is energy in motion (e- motion). All things are energy and all energy flows. Emotion is a particular energy flow that is part of the human experience bringing you the highs and lows of living. Emotions can be joyous and painful. That joy and pain is felt most keenly when it flows, as it courses through your body and you experience that flow of energy. Sometimes that flow can be over- whelming as you feel the intensity of it. The joy of loving and feeling loved and the pain of bereavement are two more common examples. These emotions are sometimes so powerful that you cannot stop them flowing.

Some times in your life you might have been taught not to express your emotions. As children it is common to be told not to cry or not to be so silly, to grow up when upset or not to display anger. These restrictions are sometimes cultural and can also be because the people around you cannot handle these emotions themselves and so feel uncomfortable with them. In a desperate effort to control the situation, children are told by parents to stifle their emotions.   Humiliation at school by peers can be a powerful learning ground for suppressing emotion.

When energy is trapped

So what is really going on inside of you when this happens? From the point of view of energy, the emotion you are feeling in that moment is energy in flow creating a response in your body that generates anger, sadness, jealousy or whatever, manifesting certain behaviour- you cry, shout, scream etc. When told to stop, you try to stem that flow, stopper it like a cork in a champagne bottle or holding tight onto the lead of your dog when it is trying to get away. This takes effort and energy of it’s own and the body tightens to contain it. Muscles stiffen to hold on to the energy as it tries to flow. Because the energy is contained, the bodily response subsides. Perhaps unknown to you, the energy is still inside you, trying to flow and held back by your body through muscle tension.

You know this if you have ever relived a past experience- the emotion resurfaces as if the event had just happened- powerful and emotional. Over many years, with repeated events such as these, the body becomes increasingly tense, limiting movement, strength, breathing, posture, digestion, presence and preventing relaxation that allows the body to act naturally. With so much emotion trapped in the body, the mind also becomes tense, as it has to monitor the muscles that are trapping this energy and make sure nothing gets released. Over time, this takes up more and more of your energy, splitting your mind and body, making it harder to focus on the present and relax into the moment.

Restricted energy in motion manifests as tension throughout the body

Restricted energy in motion manifests as tension throughout the body

The consequences of this learned behaviour over time can be severe. As well as reducing emotional range because you do not allow yourself to express more than just mild emotions, the mind and body become tight, increasing stress, accelerating the aging process, reducing learning and adaptability, preventing flexibility and agility of body and mind and affecting health as well as well- being.

When you release energy

How do you release this trapped emotion? What is most important here is to do so in a safe and appropriate way. Sometimes it might be important to seek professional support in dealing with emotions that are otherwise challenging to handle and work through. Meditation can be an excellent method for releasing tension and becoming mindful of your feelings when that emotion is released. Yoga too can be a brilliant method for stretching out tension throughout the body, creating calmness and relaxation in mind and body. Massage, reflexology, acupuncture and shiatsu are all methods of relaxing the body and therefore the mind as part of a programme to bring the mind and body into balance and towards well- being. There is another energetic advantage to relaxing body and mind and allowing the energy to flow through you rather than be trapped inside: that is connection. When relaxed you are more connected, more present and open to the fullness of the moment. Here you connect not just to your self, but to the world and humanity. Through doing this work, you reconnect to your natural state, connected to the expansive whole of the universe.

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How do you experience the mind- body connection? How do you allow your emotions to flow? What can you share about stifling and suppressing emotions? We’d love to hear from you and share in the discussion about energy, so come on over and post your comments in the box at the bottom of the page.

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The Full Human Experience

Have you ever questioned what it is to be human? Do you ever wonder whether there is more to this human experience? When you hear or read about people’s peak experiences do they seem familiar to you or are they totally alien, leaving you wondering what you are missing?


The work that Avis and Brown is engaged in is about energy. In particular the energy of the mind, body, soul and spirit. What does that mean and in particular what relevance does it have for the human experience? “Mind, body and spirit” is a phrase that has become common in our parlance and there are countless courses and books about these three aspects of life. The work that both Avis and Brown does  is about the three elements of the human experience: mind, body and soul, how they relate to the fourth element of our work, spirit, and the way in which these four are inter- related through energy.


As you can see from the diagram below it depicts that mind, body and soul are connected. Put all three of these circles in relationship with each other and you have the human experience. How full that human experience is depends of the size of the circles and how well balanced they are. You tend to favour one or two of the circles and neglect the others- which one’s they are depends on your upbringing, your training and your desire to develop and cultivate these circles. Speaking for myself I have worked hard throughout my life on the physical and mental circles and less so on the soul aspect of my being. I think Lynette would agree with me if we said she has worked hard on her mental and soul circles and less so on her physical. We work on all three to some degree- the question is how powerful is each circle and how well balanced the three are in relation to each other?


The human experience is more than just a physical journey through the world in which we feel the physical sensations of our environment. Neither is it simply a mental exercise to be intellectualized through or an emotional experience simply to be felt. Nor is life simply an ethereal experience in which you ignore the physical world and separate your self from others. All three of these aspects are essential to the human experience and life can feel stale, hollow and meaningless if you are lacking in any one of these. The ideal relates to what Buddha referred to as “The Middle Way”, towards connection and being centred- to your self, others and the world around you.


By all means enjoy the physical experience of the world as much as you wish- explore new places, meet new people, have new experiences. Enjoy food, physical exercise, sexual intimacy, stillness and movement. Become as physically strong, flexible and co- ordinated as you want, run marathons, swim oceans, wrap your leg over your head and dance the night away. The physical body is also a wonderful tool of sensation- the feeling of movement, thought, sensuality and emotion in the body is a powerful intuitive voice that could be referred to as Body Wisdom and requires a connection to, and awareness of, the body. To submit to your bodily experience connects you to something much larger, beyond thought and into pure movement and presence.


Your mind allows you to perceive the world through the lens of your values and beliefs, built upon the foundation of your traditions, experience and culture. Emotion gives you a richness to life that can be both joyful and painful. There is much learning and growth that can come from these emotional experiences. How and what you learn depends on your mind- set. The depth of feeling and emotion becomes limited if you are not willing to connect within or outward towards others. If you feel isolated you do not feel part of the great community of humanity that is there for us all to take part in as actively and as consciously as we choose. The mind is also creative as well as logical and reason- based. Again, we tend to favour one aspect of the mind or the other. In my experience, cultivating both the logical and creative sides of the mind gives you a greater breadth of learning, productivity and engagement. Here the mind begins to touch into intuition, instinct and the ability to connect into energies and forces that are much larger.


The third circle, the soul, is part of the energy centres of the being such as the chakras and meridians. Connecting to your soul connects you to your self, another route to your inner wisdom and growing experience and learning. Cultivate this with meditation, yoga, chi gong, martial arts and Reiki. Our book, Nourish the Flame Within, is full of meditations that nurture the soul and make it more powerful. The soul allows you to connect to others, facilitating empathy, compassion and connection to humanity.

The full human experience is the total integration of mind, body and soul.

The full human experience is the total integration of mind, body and soul.

There are exercises you can practice that allow to you consciously cultivate connecting all three circles at the same time. Some forms of martial arts, yoga, Reiki and dance will do this. Often it is good to cultivate one circle at a time such as some forms of meditation that get you to calm the mind and body so that you can energise the soul of your being. Often, you can work with two circles, so a workout may well work the mind and the body, or a walk in nature will cultivate the body and the soul. In truth, it is impossible to separate the three circles, as they are an integrated part of the human experience. Activities will favour one or two circles over the others.


Perhaps the key is being aware and working on developing the weaker circle(s) so that you become more balanced and whole. Then, you will have a more integrated experience with all the activities you do, making your life more engaging for the body, mind and soul. Only by consciously working on these circles can you work towards having a progressively more fulfilling and meaningful human experience. Get this combination of three circles right and you have deep human experience, where you become aware of something much larger than your self, perhaps even larger than the people you are sharing the experience with. You are not just engaging one circle, or even two circles. In fact you are engaging all three circles. Access your connection to Spirit through any of the circles and it will power up all three. Now you know you are connected not just to your self and to others. You are also connected to something bigger that feels powerful and makes you feel energized throughout your being.


We’d love to hear from you and find out how you work on developing your circles and how this has lead to you living more fully, freely and in a more connected and peaceful way. Please leave your comments in the box at the bottom of the page and share your experiences, insights and knowledge.

The Universe Influences

ThinkstockPhotos-177794827Mind body connection

There are many books on the market that talk about the mind and body connection or the mind and life connection. Books such as the Secret and authors such as Louise Hay have used and shared this mind- life, mind- body understanding. Hypnotherapy is a practice that centres on those connections and uses them for the benefit of the client’s health and well-being. The connection between mind and body and mind and life is very well understood by health and well-being professionals.

We also have a connection to the Universe. We are the Universe. We are not separate from the Universe. Every moment of every day we have a profound connection to the totality of the Universe. If you consider yourself separate from the Universe please answer this. Where did you come from? What made you? What are you made from?


You are energy

You are energy through and through. You are made of the stuff of the universal stars. You are no different to them. You have your place amongst them. They are energy and so too are you. The Universe came into being a long time ago and we can say it has a life of its own. It too lives and breathes as you do. Stars come and they go. The Universe experiments with energy on many levels, life forms come and go depending on how successful they are within the universal experiment. You are made of the stuff of the stars. The universe created you to live and breathe. It created you to live a life. Life can be challenging. Many things both good and bad happen within a life. People cross each other’s paths, sometimes those meetings and crossing are good and happy ones with fulfilling outcomes. Other times they are not so. If they are considered good or bad it will depend on the view points and agendas of those doing the analysis. Each person has free will and choice. Each person has a mind of their own. Each person has thought patterns and processes. These thought patterns and processes are unique to the individual. The individual ultimately gets to choose how they think. Their thought processes help them to make sense of the world and understand it to a degree.


Your life influence

It is not commonly understood by the general public that there is a mind connection with life itself. We think from the point of view that thinking and action will bring about a result.  It is true that thinking, decision and action will do that.  Results will be gained efficiently by using thinking decision and action and should not be underestimated as it plays an important role in taking the individual forward in a chosen direction. However what is not as easily understood by people in general is that they have another field of influence upon life. This is an energetic one. We can bring situations or people in our direction by our energetic connection to life and the Universe on all levels.


The Universe thinks and heals itself

The Universe is a thing. It lives, breaths and thinks. It has consciousness throughout. Human beings are also energy with consciousness. We too are energy that thinks. It is like two heart beats, the universal heart beat and the human heart beat. They can beat in synchronisation or out of synchronisation. So we can be conscious and energetically in tune with the Universe or out of tune with the Universe.

We all have influence on our lives, the lives of others and our thoughts and decisions through physical interaction, conscious thought and energy interaction and manipulation. There is an energy that permeates the Universe that influences everything. It is the catalyst that fires the Universe on all and every level. This energy is called Universal energy. It is known by many names and every culture has a name for it. It’s made up physically of a combination of electricity and magnetism. It is electromagnetic energy. It permeates all life on all levels. It is a carrier or information. It carries thoughts, ideas and beliefs around and throughout the Universe. It is a universal telegraph wire. It carries information everywhere. This background energy is known to science and they are calling it “The field”. Esoteric people and healers have called it Universal energy, Chi, Ki, Psychic, and Pranic energy amongst other names. It has been known to man for many thousands of years and the Chinese have understood its healing properties and how to exploit them for five thousand years.


Transferring Universal information

Everything you think and feel is carried into the world as energy. It is carried around the earth and out into the Universe on the back of Universal energy. Your thoughts are transferred through Universal energy to all parts of the Universe. We have all heard of the Aboriginal people of Australia and the fact that they have telepathic abilities. If what I have said holds water and it does, then this is a perfect explanation to those abilities.

You have both connection to and influence upon the Universe. You are part of the Universe and a part that makes up the totality of the Universe. Your thoughts and actions and deeds add to or take away from the Universe. You are important to the Universe. There is a responsibility to the Universe by you to it. Whether you consciously acknowledge that responsibility or not is your free will and choice.


Your Universal life

The Universe acknowledges you and the life it gave you. It will interact with you on many levels. It gave your life to you and in time it will take that life back. How you live that life is your free will and choice. If you interact with the Universe consciously, this is too your free will and choice. It is for you to understand that the choice is yours and you can exercise it at will. The Universe will respond to your thoughts and actions. Not with fire and lightening but with situations, people and circumstance to your ultimate benefit.

Benefit comes in many textures. Some rough and some smooth. What you may feel benefits you may not be the same thought and understanding to the Universe. However, it is not the point of living to give you a hard time to punish you. We are strengthened by being stretched. We always have the Universe’s ear when things are unbearable to us. Speaking your truth, thoughts, wants, needs and desires to the Universe is not seen as selfish but a necessary part of your right and growth. The Universe hears you. A word of caution here: please be careful of what you ask for. Harmful thoughts, deeds, and desires always have repercussions. We are all human and sometimes each of us may fall a little short. This is part of our learning and growth. To set our own boundaries of good and right is a good thing. To understand that our desires affect others is a good thing. To abuse our position in the world is a bad thing. Harm to others deliberately done is not acceptable to the Universe and should not be acceptable to you. Fairness and love is a good starting point in any situation. Selfishness, harshness and greed will not be seen well. You may have selfish and harmful desires in the short term as they may be part of your growth and growth to others. What feels bad to us we seldom engage in twice by choice. Basically what I am saying is this: we grow by experience and sometimes we do not get things correct. No one is perfect, we are perfecting ourselves daily. It also must be said that others feel our energy and thoughts by way of energy and if they feel bad, we will be seen in that light by those who engage with us.


Interacting with the Universe

We can ask the Universe for direct and positive input into our lives, health, and living situations. The Universe responds to those requests. We interact with the Universe every moment of the day and do so largely without conscious thought on the matter. If we give our interaction conscious thought and conscious interaction we have more of an influence upon outcomes.

We think things into being on either an energetic level or a physical level. For anything to come into being it must be preceded by a thought first. When I learnt how to design many decades ago one of the things that were drilled into me by the design process is the fact that change happens by my conscious thought. An idea comes into being by thought first then execution second. Along the way in the execution process the idea can be changed manipulated and honed. It is the same with the manipulation of energy. We have a thought or an idea and that is then communicated to the Universe and then the Universe responds by moving energy to bring it into being.

Whatever you want or wish for and even if it seems impossible; tell the Universe what it is. Ask the Universe to move situations in your direction to bring about the change that you desire. For your life to go in a certain direction you have to bring about the physical change or you have to ask the universe to do it for you. What the Universe will do will show you how to make the change by bringing people, ideas, or situations in your direction. Sometimes and more often than would be supposed it will just drop things in your lap. You can ask for many things from the Universe and material things are amongst those that can be asked for. They will not always be granted but if you don’t ask you probably will not get it unless you physically do it for yourself. The Universe makes the path to what you want and need easier and smoother for you.


Steering your life

You have a life that you can steer in this direction or that, according to your own desires. The Universe has a role in that life as it gave it to you. You are part of the Universe and it has a vested interest in you and your life. Day by day you live and grow and the Universe helps you to do that. It supplies the ingredients for life.

So what are your desires and wishes? Whatever they are as you think them whisper them to the universal forces and ask those forces for a direction toward them. The Universe points the way forward.

The Relationship between Mind, Body and Subtle Energy

What is the relationship between the mind, body and subtle energy or energetics? We speak about them separately, when in fact they are intertwined, each merging into the other, fuelling one another, fed by each other in an endless flow of energy and power.

The Mind

The mind is a complex combination of conscious and subconscious processing, driven by cells stimulated by hormones and neuropeptides that create electrical impulses. These impulses act in a coordinated way that allow your body to work as a whole as the electrical activity spreads from the brain throughout the body allowing you to breathe, balance, pump blood around the body and so much more. Activity of the brain and the central and peripheral nervous systems are forms of energy that create networks and fields that pass through the body and beyond.

The body is energy too.

The body is energy too.


The Body

The body itself is energy too. Every protein, carbohydrate and fatty acid is energy converting from one form into another in the more than 100, 000 chemical reactions happening in each of the 50 trillion cells of your body every second. Somehow these reactions are co- ordinated in a way that keeps you alive, functioning, learning, growing, repairing, fending off infection, maintaining health and solving problems.



Subtle Energy or Energetics

You also have the subtle energy networks, like the meridians and chakras. These systems of electromagnetic energy run through the body supporting, energising, nourishing, balancing and communicating within the body and beyond.

How do they interact?

All three of these systems, the mind, body and subtle energy are entwined and impossible to truly prise apart. These systems are in relationship as each one feeds and is fed by the other.

The complexity of this arrangement was recently brought home to me in a workshop I ran in which I tried to get participants to experience each of these in turn and separately from each other. There was no way to do this because of this connection and relationship between them. What we did discover is that placing your awareness on one brings the sensations and feelings of say the body, to the fore and allows you to focus on it and gain insight into the wisdom residing there.

This happens in all three areas and we found that some participants favoured the mind and body over the subtle energy, or subtle energy and body over the mind, or mind and subtle energy over the body. Each combination works and has value and is necessary from time to time and in different circumstances.

In discussion we decided that the energy of the three systems , mind, body and subtle energy could be brought into balance through attention, intention and awareness. This balance generates, enhances and maintains perfect health.

In truth the model is more fluid, like a triangle hovering in the air, tilting and moving according to where the attention, intention and awareness are placed. Predominantly we are out of balance, moving in certain directions then readjusting by focussing on others.

For example, you can study or work very hard for long hours which tilts your triangle on one corner, pulling the body and subtle energy off centre. A workout or gentle exercise brings the body to centre and meditation brings the subtle energy to centre and you have balance. This is over simplistic and demonstrates how you can take daily action to serve each energy system and by doing so keep the whole in balance. There are many combinations.

Life is a complex combination of all these relationships. Having a sense of balance of these three energy systems is important so that you are aware of where you are lacking and in need of attention, rejuvenation and recuperation.

The mind can be balanced through creativity (writing, art, sculpture) and learning. Meditation can bring the mind to a more calm state and away from the frenetic pace of daily living.

Subtle Energy is electro- magnetic, flowing within the body and beyond

Subtle Energy is electro- magnetic, flowing within the body and beyond

The body can be balanced through exercise, stretching, strengthening and for awareness to be brought to it. Sometimes relaxation is important so meditation can be great for the body too. Holding tension on the body is a common experience in our modern age. Tension limits movement and energy flow in mind, body and subtle energy systems so it is important to address issues of tension that build over time.

For subtle energy, activities of connection are essential for balance such as meditation, chi gong, martial arts, yoga etc. Depleted subtle energy can be brought to balance using reiki and other energy healing modalities. The meditations in Nourish the Flame Within specifically address drawing universal energy (white light energy) into the body to increase the subtle energy levels and flow in the body.

Over to You

We’d love to hear from you and learn what you have discovered and experienced about keeping your health and energy in balance. We encourage you to share it as well to provide answers to common questions people have about health, well- being and connection to themselves, others and the world at large. If you have read our book Nourish the Flame Within and you have done any of the exercises that improve health, connection and well- being we’d love to hear your feedback.

Diet, environment, the company you keep, your everyday activities and the mind set you have as you are doing them as well as the job you do all affect the energies of the mind, body and subtle energy systems. How do you keep balance? Do you know when you are out of balance? What are the signs? What do you do to bring your self to balance?

The Continuation of Life


I am sure that many people will have had the usual round of New Year’s greetings at the stroke of midnight, seeing out the old year and welcoming in the New Year. Dubai saw the old year out with an unfortunate fire that spread through one of its tall hotels. Mercifully no one was seriously hurt. However the fire did put a slight dampener on the celebrations as they had to be little scaled down due to the unfortunate occurrence. The following day I am sure would have seen many people who were connected with the hotel and the incident either as employers, employees or residents, dealing with the devastation that the fire would have left. A great deal of loss of one sort or another would have followed such an incident.

We look to the New Year to bring us new and better things, emotionally, financially, physically, and health wise. In reality our life does not begin a new as the old year passes. Our life is a continuation of events, one event building upon another. Accidents such as fires are due to poor decision making. I do not know what caused the fire in Dubai. It was possibly an accident. Accidents happen all of the time, people take a wrong turn, make a wrong decision, may have been carless in an action, decided something without care, all of these things may bring about an accident.

Our choices and decisions fashion future outcomes. Lives are built one day at a time one decision or choice at a time. If you feel that 2015 was not a good year for you, then ask yourself what you did in 2015 to ensure that 2016 is that very good and prosperous year that you desire. Our life is not something that just happens to us. We create our lives one day at a time one decision at a time.  At the end of your life you will look back over those days that made your life and what you will see is a pattern. A thread that runs through your life. Whatever ill that you may feel has happened to you that you don’t like, you have the power to change it. A desire to change the pattern is the first step to change. The next step is action. Change can sometimes happen in an instant. However more often than not change is slow, but slow change is change and will take the person forward on a new path to their desire.

Everyone suffers painful events.

Everyone suffers painful events.

Everyone suffers painful events. Bad life experiences are not particular to you however you may feel. They are particular to everyone. Everyone suffers some pain in their life at some point in their life. Pain is a part of life as is joy also. Everyone has something of life’s mix. Each person will experience both pain and pleasure within their life. One experience must be balanced by the other. We are here to live and grow. We live to experience, and we are not here to have pleasure alone.  Struggle is at the heart of living, as is love, laughter and happiness also.  All conditions exist and all conditions go to make a life. A balanced life is a healthy mix of it all. I have no idea if 2016 will bring you the things that you desire and be a good one for you. Only you will know if your 2016 was a good one or not as you are the person who will get to experience it. Once it is done you will look back over 2016 and decide what you feel it was.

Many things will have touched your year. It may have been romantic love and the pain that can go with that. With each passing relationship we learn something about life and our self. If someone walks away don’t take it personally, you were not right for that person and neither were they right for you. It was just a miss match, but a valuable experience. Take stock and know that you were the best that you could be at this time. Annalise the situation and find the reason for the closure of the relationship. Did the relationship just come to a natural conclusion with no real fault on either side? There will be a lesson to be learnt so look for the lesson.

Finance always has its positives and negatives. We all need financial security. I have always found the remedy for lack of money is earn more spend less and save at least 10% of earnings. This seems such a simple philosophy. Life is rarely that simple as life always throws its twists and turns. However I have found that to be sound financial planning.

Greif comes to each of us given time. We all lose people as loss is a part of the condition of living. We live and then we die. Death will come to each of us given time. Everything dies. Everything passes in time. There is movement to life. Life moves. Life is energy and energy moves. There is a natural order in that. The death of the physical body is one thing but the soul of the person transcends life. I am a spirit medium and there is a real comfort in that knowledge for me. I know  many people  find comfort in that understanding.

When a family member passed two years ago she had not been gone two days and she came through to talk to me via a friend who is a medium also. My friend did not know my relative had died. It was quite a shock for us both as she invaded out telephone conversation. However it was also nice as being newly deceased was not going to stop her getting some things sorted before her funeral.


All conditions are a part of life.

All conditions are a part of life.

All conditions are a part of life. There is a thread that runs from one situation to another always. Examine the thread of your life and you will learn a lot about change.

I would like to wish all of our readers a very happy New Year and thank you all for supporting our blogs for the past few years. I hope you have enjoyed them, however  if not I hope that they have at least challenged you or stirred your thought in some way. 2016 will see the publishing of my New book “Feel the Power” and I hope that you should be inspired to buy it. Both David and I wish you a very Happy and peaceful New Year.


Free Meditation

A free meditation for the enhancement of human connection.

Meditation, peace and calm.

Meditation, peace and calm.


Meditation is a beautiful practice. It can do so many things for the person. There are many reasons to learn to meditate. Meditation can be used for the enhancement of health, emotional balance and life awareness amongst other things. In the West we do not have a culture of teaching or appreciating this beneficial practice. We are largely skeptical and suspicious of it. We often view it as something a bit wacky and “out there. It is something that is not commonly of our culture and seen as a bit pagan even. It is none of those things as it is a very useful tool. I am a meditation teacher and a Hypnotherapist amongst other things and it surprises and saddens me when I come across these views of meditation or even Hypnotherapy. Meditation and Hypnotherapy are very similar practices. They both employ deep relaxation of the person for the enhancement of health and well-being.

We can all meditate as we all go through the place of meditation each time we go to sleep. So we can all do it. People over think what is needed and put a lot of does and don’ts on the practise of it and often make it too complicated. They also try to analyse the process whilst doing it and that should not be done. That will make the process very difficult.  Keep it simple and know that it is just deep relaxation without going to sleep.


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Before starting to meditate find a safe and comfortable place. You do not have to adopt any kind of complicated posture. Just sit or lay comfortably in a chair, on the floor on a bed.

Go down into relaxation breathe deeply to a pattern of three. So breath in 1, 2, 3 hold he breath 1, 2, 3 and slowly breathe out 1, 2, 3. Keep doing that until you are very deeply relaxed and then follow the instructions on the meditation. May I suggest you record the instructions in real time on a voice recorder and then listen to it? You have to allow yourself time to go down into relaxation and that generally will take ten minutes. Talk yourself into relaxing by saying things like relax your feet, your legs, your arms etc. Take your time and realise that it will take you time to gain a deep relaxation. You could practice on a friend first before recording to see how long it takes you to get them to relax. They key to relaxation is the breath.

Make sure you do not listen to the recording whilst driving as you will be going off to sleep and that will be dangerous to do. This may seem like the obvious but you will be surprised how many of my students and clients say “oh I can listen to this in the car.” No you can’t.

If you need further instruction on meditation then purchase Nourish the Flame Within and it will give you more instruction on it.


Universal connection through this meditation

This meditation does what it says and it will help to change the person’s outlook.  They only have to do the meditation a  few times. Even just doing it once will change a person to a degree. It connects you to the universal forces and just by doing this meditation those forces will balance the person and they will gain an enhanced perspective on connection as this meditation is for that purpose.



If you are a meditation teacher and have violent or aggressive pupils this maybe a meditation to give them as it should have a calming effect on them. Any one of that imbalanced state should gain great benefit from this meditation. It is also good for anyone who just wants to enhance their connection to others. This meditation helps the person to feel others on a deeper level that they do at present. This is the meditation to do to enhance connection to the rest of the human race. There are many reasons to want that. To be more in tune with the rest of the human race as a collective or people as individuals can only be a good thing. Anyone dealing with people on a collective or one to one basis will gain great insight and benefit from this meditation. That has to be just about all of us. The insights may take many forms and will be individual to the individual doing the meditation. This meditation connects you to everyone. Well that is not strictly true as you are already connected, what this meditation does it give you deep insight into that connection on a intellectual and energetic level.


The Meditation has been taken from, “Nourish the flame within: a guide to connecting to the human soul for Reiki, Marital arts and Life.”142600546





Meditation 2: Connecting into Others and Knowing their Needs.

  1. Take yourself down into relaxation. Now take many shallow slow breaths.

Concentrate on the rhythm of your breathing. Know your own breath pattern. Listen to the rhythm of your own breath. Feel the calmness feel the beauty of each breath.


Know you are an individual.

Know that you are not separate.

Know that you have connection to others of your kind.

You are human and of the human kind.

Know that you have brothers.

Know that you have sisters.

Know that you are one of many.

Know that you are not alone.


  1. Now bring white light energy into your body. Bring in the source. Ask for the hand of God to guide you. Connect to all that there is.


Send out the vibration of healing. Know that it is in your power to do so. Send out to your brothers and sisters. Understand their needs.


As they hurt, so do you.

As they bleed, so do you.

Send out the ray of compassion; send out the ray of love.


Bring your attention to your own body. Now connect your spirit to others.

Understand that you are one of many.

Understand that you are connected at source.

This is universal law. This is universal truth.


Now send out the vibration of connection. You know this connection on a soul level. Send it out, and stay aware and connected. Walk with your brothers as one.


From this moment on, understand all that is.

Understand you bleed as they do.

Understand you are one of many and walk together as one.


  1. Now feel the thread of connection and hold in that place for ten minutes.

Now let the connection slowly diminish. However, always hold this knowledge.


This meditation changes you for all time.

Come back to the here and the now.


This meditation is taken from Nourish the Flame Within and may not be transmitted, stored or retrieved unless with written permission of the authors Lynette Avis and David Brown.

© Lynette Avis and David Brown


Nourish the Flame Within


:A Guide to Connecting to the Human Soul for Reiki, Martial Arts and Life

By Lynette Avis and David Brown



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Heart Energy

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In the previous blog David Brown talked about the heart and its condition in relation to compassion and love. He explained how we can make sure we keep our own heart in good order. He talked about our feelings and emotions and the link they have with the heart.  He felt compelled to discuss this in the light of the recent killings in Paris. We talk in terms of being “stone hearted” or “broken hearted” and “cold hearted” in relation to emotions. This is because we store our emotions in the heart. The heart keeps our blood pumping around our body but it has a much more important job to do than that.


Universal Energy force of nature

The focus of the discussion that David and I are having with our readership is one of energy and the importance of it to the mind, body, emotions and spiritual aspect of the person. We have tried to illustrate the fact that universal energy is impact on all levels of your being and life. No more so than the emotional and spiritual aspect of the person.

We have said in many blogs that we take universal energy into our body and this energy feeds all aspects of our person and being. This may seem confusing, ridiculous, inconsequential or just plain not important to you. This single truth is of immense importance to your life and being. This subtle energy of which I speak, which you can just ignore if you so choose, will do many things for your being and life condition. To understand this fact and to act on it means that you have control over many aspects of your life, health and future.


A gift from the Universe

On a physical level this energy is electricity and magnetism but on a spiritual level it is the breath of life itself and a gift from the universe. It feeds your body, your life and being on all levels. David talked in his blog about taking this energy into your heart. I understand that for some people reading this, what he is saying to you may escape you.

In the wake of the Paris atrocities that blog and its message may well seem trivial. There is nothing trivial about that message, it is far more profound a message than it may seem at first glance. We are taught to see ourselves as separate one from the other by society and religion. We are separated on so many grounds. We separate on ideas; ideals, religion, politics, country of origin; ethnicity and skin colour are some of the factors that are used.


No Separation

In truth there is no separation between any of us. We are one people, the human people of the human family. That is our connection one to the other. We are one race, the human race. We have one home, the earth. This should be obvious to each of us but it is not so for most of us. Look around at the state we are all in at this point in time. So much hate, anger and killing on the grounds of things that seem important yet are inconsequential when looked at that through the lens of what truly connects us. Religion is not important unless you make it so. How we treat each other is important no matter what we may say or do. How we treat each other as part of the human family is of paramount importance. We have all been thrown into life for a time to live, love and grow. How we live, love and grow is important for at the heart of that importance is compassion for each other. Without human feeling and connection there can be no compassion.


Compassion starts with empathy

Compassion starts in the hearts of men. It is through empathy and seeing the other person as part of you that we have compassion. Seeing the humanity in the other person does not start and end in the intellect but it is more about a feeling in the heart of mankind.  When we connect heart to heart what do religion or ideas matter? We are connected by a greater force than any of those. We are connected through the energy of the heart.

If we feel others as part of ourselves and love them as ourselves we cannot harm them for we harm ourselves.

It is when we see others as different or less than ourselves that we can do harm. To separate the other person is to separate a part of ourselves. This is what “being spiritual” means. This is what spiritual connection is. It is a connection one to the other through the heart of you.


Heart connection is a wisdom and truth

Ideas and teachings come and go. There are some things that are universally valid and therefore unchanging.  Humanity’s connection through the heart is one such wisdom. It is a constant of the universe and will never change for man. When we go to pray, or talk to God or align ourselves with one religion or the other, we are seeking a strengthening of our human connection through God. I do not wish to get into discussion here on what God is or isn’t or if he exists. That is not the point of this blog. This blog is explaining there is a universal energy that ties us all together, and we can draw on this energy to strengthen our own connection to each other.

We must look to the condition of our own hearts first and condemn others if we must second. I read an article this week about a Muslim lady who was attacked verbally by a man who brought her to tears. How is this man any different from the terrorists? He was terrorising a woman who was peacefully and lawfully going about her daily life in her own country.

I remember and lived through racial abuse in the past in Britain. We have moved past that time and we should all be proud of that. We should all pat ourselves on the back for our own tolerance and sense of humanity. Britain has come such a long way. I have not walked down any British street for decades and been racially abused. To all of my country men and women who have worked hard so that I can have done that, I would like to say a personal and special thank you.


Taking care of freedom

Let’s all take care. Let’s all take care of each other and keep this the country we all wish to live in. Let’s keep our sense of humanity for that is part of what the terrorists hate about us; our wish for tolerance of each other because they have none. Freedom is an important part of a healthy human being. Being free to think and act in a loving and kind manner and to add positivity to life and the lives of others.

Let us make sure we keep our humanity and do whatever we need to do to stop this madness from taking a moment more of our precious lives. Life should be about love and laughter not killing and hate.  To keep the love in our own hearts healthy use meditation or just contemplation and bring in good energy into the heart.

Peace and Love Lynette.

In our next blog we are going to share a life changing meditation with you.



Paris Atrocities

ThinkstockPhotos-497189328At the time of the recent atrocities in Paris on November 13 2015, I was assisting on a training week. The participants of the training week and I spent part of the Saturday morning analysing the emotions that came up for the participants. We found that as well as the usual feelings of anger, hopelessness, powerlessness and despair, the events also brought up within us feelings of compassion and ideas about the power of human connection. I think that for there to be acts of kindness, humanity and compassion, there needs to be a connection to one’s heart. Being totally connected to one’s own heart facilitates connection to the hearts of other people.


When we are truly connected through our hearts one to another, there is no way acts like those of 9/11 or November 13th 2015 in Paris can ever happen as the connectivity one to the other and true love of humanity does not allow for it. Heart energy plays a huge role in compassion. To freeze the heart is to stem the flow of life giving energy that keeps the body healthy, and the person whole and connected.


Acts of terrorism come from frozen hearts. No one is born with a frozen heart and so it has to be gained over time. We have to ask ourselves what brings a person to this frozen place of a cold heart? How does it happen? With each person who gains a frozen heart the world becomes a progressively colder place.


We cannot let this happen!


We have to ask ourselves what will this do to our personal lives and health or the health of the planet if we allow the progression of an ever colder and disconnected humanity.


Opening our hearts and freeing its free flow of loving energy is essential. Free flow of loving energy is how we will heal the world. Not by bombing each other and blowing each other up. Negative or positive energy flow goes deeper than global issues. This goes to the core of our being and our humanity. I believe in the power of energy. It is a non-emotional force without morality or ethics. We give it those labels. What energy has is vibration, specific signatures that attracts more of the same. War breeds war. Hate insights hate. There is much fear in the world and the only thing that will combat it is a concerted effort towards love which resides in the energy of the heart.


This is my personal call to you to you to ask you to do one thing every day that may scare you! I am asking you to love in the face of fear and hate. Together let us halt the tide of fear and hate. This current situation of increasing hate that is growing on both sides may seem hopeless, and you may feel powerless.


Yet I promise you this: if we fail to connect to our hearts and allow the energy of the heart and love to flow there, there will be nothing to counter the growing momentum of fear and hatred in the world.


In our book Nourish the Flame Within, we talk at length about such themes of love and hate and there are meditations that connect you to your heart energy. By working on drawing energy into your body from above, you can power up the energy in your heart. Your heart is the place of emotion and your connection to others.  A healthy heart on all levels will ensure our connection to each other.


On my training weekend of which I spoke I opened my heart to the pain people must be feeling around the world with regards to the current situation of separation and hate that is playing out in terrorist atrocities. Normally I would not publically comment on these political acts but this time I felt compelled to do so.


We must all dig deep as the growing tide of anger takes us forward. We must all examine the condition of our own hearts and our position on humanity. For this situation will get worse before it gets better and each of us must make sure we stand on the side of good. Love, kindness and human connection is the only true good, for anything less than that must surely be negative and therefore wrong as negativity breeds negativity. None of us can ensure anyone but ourselves stays true to love and humanity. So let’s start with ourselves and see how the wave we create can change this terribly negative situation to one of love, human connection and hope!