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Creativity and the Soul or Sub-conscious mind

Positive interaction and the growth of the human soul

Positive interaction and the growth of the human soul

I consider myself to be a creative person. Creative activity and art gave me great pleasure as a child. I had an early encounter with art that had me hooked. As a babe in arms I was carried to the kitchen table by my mother and placed on it. She took a pen and paper and drew a cat for my amusement. My mother was no great artist and she drew the simplest of renderings. She had two circles placed one on top of the other. Two triangles for ears and dots for eyes and nose and a half circle for a mouth. Lines for whiskers, and a tail and that was it. I was amazed at that wonderful cat. I remember it so vividly to this day sixty one years later.

Often little things can inspire us. That day something was awakened inside of me. I know all children are awakened by many things. Our senses are awoken very early on in our development. This is a time of discovery of course and a time of wonder. New tastes, smells, touches and visual stimulation are all on offer on a daily basis at this time. From that first encounter with drawing I was hooked. I loved it. From that day on I would look at drawings and illustrations in books. Colour stimulated me as did design from an early age. That early encounter with drawing would be the starting point that would take me to Art College and many hours of my life spent in contemplation and learning of drawing, painting, design and art. So many hours of my life has been spent in this way. All of those hours that I have spent have been a joy to me. Some were painful, in fact very painful but as has often been said by many people, without pain there is no gain.
If my mother were alive today I don’t think she would agree that her humble efforts at drawing a cat had anything to do with taking me on my discovery of art. But it did. My mother encouraged my creativity. She always gave my sisters and me, the tools to be creative with. My mother encouraged drawing, colouring and sewing. In fact she was in favour of all creative activity.
Isn’t it strange how others can influence our behaviour and our path forward in life? Sometimes a chance conversation, a meeting with a person can make a huge difference to our life. Neither I nor my mother had notion of Art College and training when she drew the cat. What she wanted in that moment was to entertain her small child. But her efforts did much more than that. It awakened something deep inside of me. It stirred my soul.

Rules, stories and limiting beliefs
I have many clients who come to me for therapy who have beliefs of unworthiness. These beliefs often start in childhood. They are given deliberately, unconsciously or passively by individuals or society. They are all around us in the media, in the home in families, in education and in society as a whole. People are segregated one from the other on many differences. They may be social, financial, sexual, intellectual, visual, interact, or many more separating factors. We all take some of these separating factors on board to a degree. The roots of feelings of unworthiness can come from the family, school, peers, society the media and are always buried somewhere in the past experience of the individual. It will be from some form of interaction with someone or something that they will have been gained.
Even as quite a young child I understood that society had rules and a story worked out for my life path. I understood what was expected for my future and allowed for me. It is funny how we just absorb unspoken and spoken messages. I remember such sayings as know your place, respect your betters and elders. messages about our self are given to us from an early age. Each generation has their person expectations about what is on offer in life for them. I know my generation did not have it as badly as my parents and grandparents generation, after the war we all got richer and had more options open to us than our parents had in their youth. However limiting interaction was there although perhaps watered down. My mother told me stories of her childhood and how she was made to feel deliberately unworthy and stupid by her teacher at school. She was made to stand in a corner of the school room and called a dunce. my mother was not a dunce at all but that experience scared her on many levels. That was in the 1920’s. I know that today teachers take great pains to encourage their students to be people who aspire and feel worthy.
I have been watching a programme recently on T.V. It was about Victorian Britain and the harsh conditions that the Victorian poor had to endure. They did not have very many options. We all take so much for granted these days. They were kept in their place mainly by economic difference. People with money were considered better than people who were poor. The poor were often portrayed in a very negative light. They were seen as lazy and feckless and the masters of their own circumstances. The Victorian rich did not seem to grasp the fact that economic poverty was created by a lack of funds in the direction of the working classes. By keeping wages unreasonably low they kept these people in economic poverty as well as emotional poverty.

There are many ways to keep people in their place. We can do so by economic means we can do so by emotional constraints. Sometimes they are spoken other times unspoken. Language has great power. The way we use words and the words themselves have great power. Words convey information but they also convey much more. They have a vibrational power that can impact the very heart of the individual. Words are both information and vibration. Something as simple as “who do you think you are.” This sentence can be a put down of the person it is aimed at. Many of us will have had someone say that to us. I know I have and in recent years it has been said about me. Well my response to that question/statement was this: “I know I am Lynette, I am an artist, spiritual teacher, Reiki master, holistic therapist, wife mother and more importantly myself.” The sentence “who do you think you are” has a negative vibrational power, depending on how it is given to the person. If the person is not strong enough or wise enough to understand where the sentence is coming from in the person and their agenda it can be very damaging to the receiver of the sentence. That of course was the point of the sentence in the first place. It was meant to be damaging and destructive to the receiver.
I understood from a very early age that there was something very negative going on in society and some of it was directed at me. Although during my childhood I understood there were negative influences coming in my direction from society, my father gave my sisters and I a very different story of what we could and could not be. He tried to instil in us self-belief. It is not surprising how many people just don’t have it. In my work as a therapist I meet so many people who are left broken people because of limiting negative language that they received as children or young adults. Sometimes they receive it as adults at the hands of other adults such as work colleagues, parents, siblings, friends or spouses.
Great things can come from a place of self-belief. When self-belief is not nurtured or is attacked by others we shrivel and die inside. Our soul or sub-conscious mind is affected as it stores that story of limited self-belief, as our reality. Our soul/sub-conscious mind believes without question what we tell it. In that way we create our reality.
Giving someone a story about themselves to believe can create their reality if they take it on board and act it out. The same applies to oneself. We can also give ourselves a story to believe and act out. That is self-belief, if we give our self a positive story. If we give our self a negative story to act upon that is lack of self-belief.
Mantras are a great tool to help nurture self-belief. In a mantra we can give our self over and over again a positive statement that if give many times we will in time believe.

Art touched my soul
Art uses the intellectual, visual, auditory and emotional capacities of the person. The produce of art touches the soul of people. It does not matter what art it is, music, dance, theatre, drawing painting etc., it all touches us.
We touch our own soul first. We first touch our own soul in the creation of art. For in that touching we understand the soul of others. My mother stimulated my intellectual awareness, my visual and emotional awareness by drawing the cat. She also touched my soul. I knew what a cat was. The drawing gave me a paper representation that expressed the experience I had of cat. That touched my soul on some level. It still does.
My mother and I connected in the moment she drew the cat, and also beyond that time through that act. Of course my mother and I had many connections, both positive and negative, but none carried by me in the same way as the drawing of the cat.
We sometimes touch each other with simple things. Those simple things may pass without question or notice. However they can have great impact on the giver, receiver or both. The quality of our interactions with others is important as we all leave each other with something through those interactions.

Negative Careers Officer
When I was in my teens and still at school, I had to see the careers officer. My encounter with this woman was not good. She asked me what I wanted to do and I said go to art college. Her reply to that was we can’t all be doctors and dentists. She then gave me a list of very unsuitable alternatives to Art College. None of which gave me any hope of fulfilment. I am not sure why she thought I should not go to Art College as I always had talent at art and an aptitude for it. There was not a moment of encouragement from that woman. I am so pleased I did not listen to that woman for a moment. I remember coming out of that interview thinking, “rubbish.” I will not forget that awful woman till the day I die. My mother had awoken my love or art and this woman wanted to crush it.
As we can awaken talents and interests in each other so too we can quash them. For every person that awakens another’s soul there are those who would send it to sleep. Often this is done with the use of negative opinions and expressions. Fear is a big driver of this kind of behaviour.
• Fear of the other person.
• Fear of the other person developing self-power.
• Fear of the other person improving.
• Fear of being overshadowed.
• Fear if being left behind.
• Fear of being no longer equal.
• Fear of being considered less than.
• Fear of the person breaking out of their allotted place and story.
• Fear of not measuring up.

I don’t think the careers officer’s opinion of me came from a place of fear. Although I am not too sure what she was basing her opinion, I have a theory or two.

Nurturing, support and development of the human intellect, soul, spirit, and emotions take humanity forward. Crushing of those elements at best keeps people and society static. At worst it causes frustration, dissatisfaction ill health or worse. Many people who we consider geniuses came from unlikely backgrounds. Many defied society’s rules and stories for them to bring us all their personal brand of creativity, whatever that was. The human soul must be nurtured and not crushed. The human soul has a right to be free to express and be creative. All souls have a right to grow and a need to grow. All humanity benefits from positive human interaction and expression. I celebrate creative expression for it is the expression of the human soul.




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The Universe Influences

ThinkstockPhotos-177794827Mind body connection

There are many books on the market that talk about the mind and body connection or the mind and life connection. Books such as the Secret and authors such as Louise Hay have used and shared this mind- life, mind- body understanding. Hypnotherapy is a practice that centres on those connections and uses them for the benefit of the client’s health and well-being. The connection between mind and body and mind and life is very well understood by health and well-being professionals.

We also have a connection to the Universe. We are the Universe. We are not separate from the Universe. Every moment of every day we have a profound connection to the totality of the Universe. If you consider yourself separate from the Universe please answer this. Where did you come from? What made you? What are you made from?


You are energy

You are energy through and through. You are made of the stuff of the universal stars. You are no different to them. You have your place amongst them. They are energy and so too are you. The Universe came into being a long time ago and we can say it has a life of its own. It too lives and breathes as you do. Stars come and they go. The Universe experiments with energy on many levels, life forms come and go depending on how successful they are within the universal experiment. You are made of the stuff of the stars. The universe created you to live and breathe. It created you to live a life. Life can be challenging. Many things both good and bad happen within a life. People cross each other’s paths, sometimes those meetings and crossing are good and happy ones with fulfilling outcomes. Other times they are not so. If they are considered good or bad it will depend on the view points and agendas of those doing the analysis. Each person has free will and choice. Each person has a mind of their own. Each person has thought patterns and processes. These thought patterns and processes are unique to the individual. The individual ultimately gets to choose how they think. Their thought processes help them to make sense of the world and understand it to a degree.


Your life influence

It is not commonly understood by the general public that there is a mind connection with life itself. We think from the point of view that thinking and action will bring about a result.  It is true that thinking, decision and action will do that.  Results will be gained efficiently by using thinking decision and action and should not be underestimated as it plays an important role in taking the individual forward in a chosen direction. However what is not as easily understood by people in general is that they have another field of influence upon life. This is an energetic one. We can bring situations or people in our direction by our energetic connection to life and the Universe on all levels.


The Universe thinks and heals itself

The Universe is a thing. It lives, breaths and thinks. It has consciousness throughout. Human beings are also energy with consciousness. We too are energy that thinks. It is like two heart beats, the universal heart beat and the human heart beat. They can beat in synchronisation or out of synchronisation. So we can be conscious and energetically in tune with the Universe or out of tune with the Universe.

We all have influence on our lives, the lives of others and our thoughts and decisions through physical interaction, conscious thought and energy interaction and manipulation. There is an energy that permeates the Universe that influences everything. It is the catalyst that fires the Universe on all and every level. This energy is called Universal energy. It is known by many names and every culture has a name for it. It’s made up physically of a combination of electricity and magnetism. It is electromagnetic energy. It permeates all life on all levels. It is a carrier or information. It carries thoughts, ideas and beliefs around and throughout the Universe. It is a universal telegraph wire. It carries information everywhere. This background energy is known to science and they are calling it “The field”. Esoteric people and healers have called it Universal energy, Chi, Ki, Psychic, and Pranic energy amongst other names. It has been known to man for many thousands of years and the Chinese have understood its healing properties and how to exploit them for five thousand years.


Transferring Universal information

Everything you think and feel is carried into the world as energy. It is carried around the earth and out into the Universe on the back of Universal energy. Your thoughts are transferred through Universal energy to all parts of the Universe. We have all heard of the Aboriginal people of Australia and the fact that they have telepathic abilities. If what I have said holds water and it does, then this is a perfect explanation to those abilities.

You have both connection to and influence upon the Universe. You are part of the Universe and a part that makes up the totality of the Universe. Your thoughts and actions and deeds add to or take away from the Universe. You are important to the Universe. There is a responsibility to the Universe by you to it. Whether you consciously acknowledge that responsibility or not is your free will and choice.


Your Universal life

The Universe acknowledges you and the life it gave you. It will interact with you on many levels. It gave your life to you and in time it will take that life back. How you live that life is your free will and choice. If you interact with the Universe consciously, this is too your free will and choice. It is for you to understand that the choice is yours and you can exercise it at will. The Universe will respond to your thoughts and actions. Not with fire and lightening but with situations, people and circumstance to your ultimate benefit.

Benefit comes in many textures. Some rough and some smooth. What you may feel benefits you may not be the same thought and understanding to the Universe. However, it is not the point of living to give you a hard time to punish you. We are strengthened by being stretched. We always have the Universe’s ear when things are unbearable to us. Speaking your truth, thoughts, wants, needs and desires to the Universe is not seen as selfish but a necessary part of your right and growth. The Universe hears you. A word of caution here: please be careful of what you ask for. Harmful thoughts, deeds, and desires always have repercussions. We are all human and sometimes each of us may fall a little short. This is part of our learning and growth. To set our own boundaries of good and right is a good thing. To understand that our desires affect others is a good thing. To abuse our position in the world is a bad thing. Harm to others deliberately done is not acceptable to the Universe and should not be acceptable to you. Fairness and love is a good starting point in any situation. Selfishness, harshness and greed will not be seen well. You may have selfish and harmful desires in the short term as they may be part of your growth and growth to others. What feels bad to us we seldom engage in twice by choice. Basically what I am saying is this: we grow by experience and sometimes we do not get things correct. No one is perfect, we are perfecting ourselves daily. It also must be said that others feel our energy and thoughts by way of energy and if they feel bad, we will be seen in that light by those who engage with us.


Interacting with the Universe

We can ask the Universe for direct and positive input into our lives, health, and living situations. The Universe responds to those requests. We interact with the Universe every moment of the day and do so largely without conscious thought on the matter. If we give our interaction conscious thought and conscious interaction we have more of an influence upon outcomes.

We think things into being on either an energetic level or a physical level. For anything to come into being it must be preceded by a thought first. When I learnt how to design many decades ago one of the things that were drilled into me by the design process is the fact that change happens by my conscious thought. An idea comes into being by thought first then execution second. Along the way in the execution process the idea can be changed manipulated and honed. It is the same with the manipulation of energy. We have a thought or an idea and that is then communicated to the Universe and then the Universe responds by moving energy to bring it into being.

Whatever you want or wish for and even if it seems impossible; tell the Universe what it is. Ask the Universe to move situations in your direction to bring about the change that you desire. For your life to go in a certain direction you have to bring about the physical change or you have to ask the universe to do it for you. What the Universe will do will show you how to make the change by bringing people, ideas, or situations in your direction. Sometimes and more often than would be supposed it will just drop things in your lap. You can ask for many things from the Universe and material things are amongst those that can be asked for. They will not always be granted but if you don’t ask you probably will not get it unless you physically do it for yourself. The Universe makes the path to what you want and need easier and smoother for you.


Steering your life

You have a life that you can steer in this direction or that, according to your own desires. The Universe has a role in that life as it gave it to you. You are part of the Universe and it has a vested interest in you and your life. Day by day you live and grow and the Universe helps you to do that. It supplies the ingredients for life.

So what are your desires and wishes? Whatever they are as you think them whisper them to the universal forces and ask those forces for a direction toward them. The Universe points the way forward.

The Soul and the Spirit

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I read something said about Reiki recently. I read, “Reiki is said to be a spiritual practice. However it is more than that”.

That statement implies the description of “spiritual practice” does not express what Reiki is. It implies the idea of being a spiritual practice is in some way insignificant to other considerations of what that person thinks Reiki is. What they are basically saying I think, is that if we describe Reiki as a spiritual practice it does not tell us the true worth and ability of it.

Being a spiritual practice, is the very highest of what Reiki is. It does not make Reiki less in any way. We have to take a look at the word “Spiritual” and determine what that is. Recently someone said to me that they consider themselves to be Spiritual and not religious and I asked them, what is the difference? The person could not give me an answer because they had not thought about it thoroughly enough. It was a clever and fashionable statement but did not have substance for that person. They did not have an answer to my question.

To consider the word spiritual we perhaps to look at the word religious also and look at them side by side.

Let’s start with the word religion. I feel that many people today have a negative view of religion and use the idea of spirituality in its place so as not to be associated with any particular religion but showing some reverence to something greater. Maybe religious history is partly to blame. This negative view maybe in part due to all of that fighting back stabbing, killing, abuse and downright dishonestly that many religions have engaged in over time, that have caused so many of us to just not wish to even hear the word religion spoken. It could be said that which is meant to nurture the human soul and spirit have thrown dirty water on the task. So it is not surprising that many are left feeling cold at the very thought of the word religion. Religions main task is to throw light on the path to God; instead it too can be bogged down with earthly experience. Difficult indeed to heave one foot on the earth and on in heaven.

Now what do we mean by spiritual? To consider the word spiritual we first have to understand the word “Sprit.”  What is spirit? Often the word soul and spirit are used interchangeably to mean the same thing. They do not mean the same thing. Many people if not most people think of their body as who they are. “I am my body.” “My body must be beautiful because if my body is perfect and beautiful people will perceive a beautiful me.” Are we a sum total of our body or are we more than our body? The body becomes a mess in time because it ages, and so are we now not beautiful because our body may not be so?

To find the real beauty of a person you must look deeper. It is located inside of the person that is where the beauty lay. The beauty lay in their thoughts, ideas, actions, and personality. Those things allow the person to have interaction with the world on a deeper level. What are we to call those bits of the person as a collective expression? Are those things part of the mind or are they more than just mental thinking capacity of the person? The mind is a tool by which we make sense of information on an intellectual level. We analyse the world and life with the mind. We say we think thoughts and they happen in the brain which is the mind. The soul is not the mind it does not analyse at all it just is. We will come back to all of these words and ideas latter. So that leaves the word sprit and if spirit is not the soul what is it?

Let’s recap.

We have so far spoken about spiritual practice, we started with that and also religion and the differences in those two things. We have also spoken about the difference in the soul and the spirit. We further touched on the body and what is that and our ideas of the body and who we are. What a muddled mine field it all is. Please let me give you my take on this it may help you to make some sense of it all.


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That defiantly is where the analytical processes of the person take place. We all think our thoughts in the brain. All information about our external life will be filtered by this part of us through the  senses. We make sense of what is around us via the senses and the brain. We analyse that information with the brain and then that information is stored somewhere in us. We think about what is coming at us via life and our senses and then store that information. We do not think consciously about every bit of information that comes at us form moment to moment as there is just too much of it for the brain to cope with. It thinks about some of it and analyses that which is new or different or previously unknown and unfamiliar. A lot of information that comes in our direction does not need the brain to analyse it as it is very familiar and  not consequential or threatening or different. It has been already stored and understood.


The Physical body

This needs little explanation, however it is not who we are. The body is not the person. ThinkstockPhotos-461277209The body houses the person and the person lays somewhere inside the body. I am not my body, but my body is the home that I inhabit. It allows me to move and live within the human experience on the earth. It is flesh and bone and it is easily damaged if I am not careful with it. I can work on my body to enhance its look and health. I need my body to live the human experience on the earth.


The soul

This part of the person is the person. The soul is who I am. I am my soul. The soul is my personality, it is my essence. I know that some of the person’s personality is governed by part of the brain. However the person is more than their brain functioning. They feel and when they feel they do not do so with their brain. It is at another part of their body that they go to for their feelings. It will be with their gut and the heart that they feel. Feelings painful and joyful go to these two places. This is where the person or the soul resides. The person resides in the gut mostly and in the heart also. The soul is the part of you that changes and develops over time. You are not the same person that you were ten years ago or even five years ago. In that time span you have had many experiences and those experiences good or bad happy or sad difficult or easy have moulded you into the human being you are today. It has given you your take on life. It has shaped your understanding of the world and what it can be to you and others. I am a therapist and very often it is this part of a person that is in the most distress when they come to me for help. I have to repair their soul, before the body will heal. Very often it is a case of sort the soul out and the body will sort itself out. This part of the person connects to all life on all levels and so it gets the biggest distress sometimes as it negotiates life.


The spirit

Now what is the spirit? If the brain governs the analytical process of the person and the soul is the person, what is the spirit?

The spirit does not do the same as the soul. It does not feel at all. It is dispassionate. The spirit of the person stands back and watches. The spirit part of the person is the observer. What does it observe? It observes you the person. It observes how you negotiate life. It takes note of everything and records everything about you and what you do. It is like a note book or a USB stick recording as you go. There is nothing that you ever do that you truly forget. It is all housed somewhere and this is where it is housed. We think that our memories come from our brain. In part they may, however it is in the spirit that everything about  you is stored. The spirit is like a filling cabinet and the brain retrieves the files from the cabinet. The spirit half of the soul records. The soul and the spirit of the person sit side by side within the person.

The spirit of the person is the part of the person that is pure energy. It is the part of your being that comes directly from the source of life itself. It is the part of you that on your demise will go back to the source of life. The spirit does not interact with life as the soul does. The soul is the messy part of you feeling everything and reacting to it all. The spirit just takes note of how the soul handles life. It is dispassionate.

These two jobs need to be separated. The soul very often is a mess feeling and reacting to everything that comes its way. There needs to be a part of you that stands back and is dispassionate to keep record of how you got in the mess in the first place. Your history needs to be housed somewhere. It is in the spirt that your history is housed. When you are done with life on the earth and the human experience your spirit hands over the spirit USB stick, if you will, to the source of life and your whole life is recorded in the universe for the source of life to use as information on life. Nothing is lost from the universe life takes note of everything and it is continually adapting to information. We know that life changes from generation to generation and there is development of all species that takes place within life. The universe keeps all information safe and uses it for the development of the universe and life. The spirit goes back to the universe or God. The spirit goes back to the source of all life and hands over its information to the source of life.



ThinkstockPhotos-177794827In every mystical or religious path we are told we need to recognise our oneness with God. What is that for heaven’s sake? Oneness with God! Many people don’t recognise God and so go into great debate about that. God is a word used to describe the source of all life. God is all powerful and the ultimate force of nature. It is the thing that brought all life and the universe into being. It is the universe. That force is given a human face by Christianity and in other religious paths it is given other faces, as an energy force, gods, or a god of some kind. All paths put that force above everything else and say all sprang from that force.

Now there is a clue in those words “All sprang form that great force”.

So if all sprang from this great force which some call God, that means you and I did and all things did. Mystical and religious paths say all is one and has oneness. All come from one to make many.

We can use the word “spirit” to mean essence of a thing. We are all from the main essence. We could say that the spirit and the main essence being one and the same. So the spirit can be said to be that bit of you and me and all things that came from the great source of life. It is the “God spark”. It is the bit of you and me and all things that come from the main ingredient of life. We can think of God in many ways but its essence is the source of all things. So now we can see the difference between the words soul and spirit. This is why these four words, the mind, the body, the soul and the spirit  are so important to us. They describe very different aspects of the human living condition that are of great importance to the human living experience.



So now what of spirituality and a spiritual path? Well spirituality is the path that nourishes both the soul and the spirit. How can we do that? How is that done if it is done at all? If it is done will be dependent on what the person has decided for themselves. Do I ignore the whole idea of the spiritual and just exist?

Do I live the earthly life to the full and experience all that has to offer to the exclusion of nurturing the spirit? In that experience I feed the soul aheavy diet.dv787002 I may well enjoy my self for many years but at the end of it some thing may well suffer.

Do I balance my experience by nurturing both soul and spirit? Walk a religious path alongside the earthly experience. So I can have an affair or two, drink loads of alcohol, take substances that are not good for me perhaps, travel the world and have a great time, then think about the spirit from time to time as is needed. I might think about it at my religious holidays and festivals, and at whatever ways and times that connects me to the “God source.”

Do I immerse myself in the spiritual path and just live my life exclusively nurturing my God spark, feeding the spirit with the best that living can give it? Do I then pass those learnings onto others and illuminate their path to the best spiritual nurturing they can have?

Do I sit back and analyse it all using my brain to assess the validity or futility of all of these paths?

As you can see there are many paths and each path has its own merit. No path is better or worse than the other. Each path has its merits as each path will bring something positive to the person. Each path brings experience through the living experience to the person. All paths are a road back home to the ultimate force. We all return to dust or at least our body does and our soul and spirit go home. The ultimate power of the universe, that which some call God wants back that which it gave us, that piece of itself called the spirit. A spiritual path is one that nurtures that part of us. God is the ultimate energy force that houses the best in us or the light side of us. Not the dark side of the human nature. If we follow a spiritual path we wish to enhance the best side of us. That bit that is nearest to the universal perfection that we have.

Life itself is the ultimate spiritual journey. Life takes us from the universal source of life and then sends us back to it. We are on a journey of return from the moment we are born. We are thrust into life and we are given people who are our parents and wider family and we accept that situation and get on with what comes our way from that experience. We then are trust even more into the living experience and made to learn many things and are schooled by our social systems in one way or another. We start our development of the soul from the moment we are born. The situation to which we are born into starts that development for us. We are on our spiritual journey. We are working our way back home already. To be on spiritual journey you do not have to be religious or non-religious you just have to be living. Living is the ultimate spiritual journey. It is the return home for all of us with a lot of hassles and joys thrown in to make it interesting and stretching.

A spiritual journey is not about being good or bad. It is not about being the light or dark it is about a return home. How we choose to return home and with what kind of information on our spirit USB stick is our choice. The source of life gets to look it over and it will be happy or sad at the information stored on that spirt USB. The source of life needs you to experience life and no two lives are ever the same. We are all different people having our own personal human experience. There are rules to life, for life would be chaos without rules, and so the source gives some rules for us to follow. However, if we choose to follow those rules or not is up to us as above all we must experience. At the end of life we get to make our case for the life we lived. We are all on a journey of the spirt no matter what. The path we take and if we take a spiritual path on that journey is up to us. Free will and choice is at the heart of the universal desire for you. You get to choose many things each and every day.



Religion sheds light on the way back home. It highlights the rules to that return, or at least that is what it is supposed to do. It is there to remind us that there is a home and we are not here forever just a time and then we return home. The universe is home and the universe is what we return to. All religions give their personal explanation on how the universe is organised. It does not matter what religion you choose or if you choose none at all. You will return home one day and you will have lived a life long or short good or bad. You will return home with experience and development of your soul.

Religion or no religion a spiritual path or not is up to you and always should be your choice. So what bit of you do you most wish to nourish? Is it the soul, the spirit, the mind, or the body? We all get to choose our focus.



Reiki treatmentNow let us finally go back to the very beginning of this blog and discuss Reiki. We have now come full circle. A spiritual path nurtures the spirit and spirituality is the practice of nurturing the spirit and  the soul. Living itself could be said to be the ultimate spiritual journey as it nourishes both the soul and the spirit to some capacity. Reiki is a spiritual practice and so it nurtures the spirit of the person. It enhances the practitioner’s spirit, because they connect to the source of the spirit. That is where the energy of life comes from and it is that energy that the practitioner connects too. It is that energy that the person both the practitioner and the patient or client engages with. That energy feeds the person on all levels. It feeds the body, the soul, the mind, the emotions and the spirit of the person. It enhances the person on all levels of their being. That is why it is a spiritual practice and that is why it is the very best it can be, and to be a spiritual practice does not make it less than but more than. Reiki is very effective and this is its effectiveness. Reiki connects to the source of life and it connects the person to that source, both practitioner and patient also. Reiki draws energy from that source.

We all get to choose both our focus and our path in life. We all get to choose many things each day. We get to choose if we bother to think about things and analyse things or not. All aspects of the person are important as is the method of feeding and nourishing each aspect that we choose. Each choice is a road ahead and a way forward, a method of engaging with life itself. Each choice we make is an opportunity to enhance the many aspects of ourselves.

What will you choose today? You have at the heart of your being free will and choice to do as you please.

The Continuation of Life


I am sure that many people will have had the usual round of New Year’s greetings at the stroke of midnight, seeing out the old year and welcoming in the New Year. Dubai saw the old year out with an unfortunate fire that spread through one of its tall hotels. Mercifully no one was seriously hurt. However the fire did put a slight dampener on the celebrations as they had to be little scaled down due to the unfortunate occurrence. The following day I am sure would have seen many people who were connected with the hotel and the incident either as employers, employees or residents, dealing with the devastation that the fire would have left. A great deal of loss of one sort or another would have followed such an incident.

We look to the New Year to bring us new and better things, emotionally, financially, physically, and health wise. In reality our life does not begin a new as the old year passes. Our life is a continuation of events, one event building upon another. Accidents such as fires are due to poor decision making. I do not know what caused the fire in Dubai. It was possibly an accident. Accidents happen all of the time, people take a wrong turn, make a wrong decision, may have been carless in an action, decided something without care, all of these things may bring about an accident.

Our choices and decisions fashion future outcomes. Lives are built one day at a time one decision or choice at a time. If you feel that 2015 was not a good year for you, then ask yourself what you did in 2015 to ensure that 2016 is that very good and prosperous year that you desire. Our life is not something that just happens to us. We create our lives one day at a time one decision at a time.  At the end of your life you will look back over those days that made your life and what you will see is a pattern. A thread that runs through your life. Whatever ill that you may feel has happened to you that you don’t like, you have the power to change it. A desire to change the pattern is the first step to change. The next step is action. Change can sometimes happen in an instant. However more often than not change is slow, but slow change is change and will take the person forward on a new path to their desire.

Everyone suffers painful events.

Everyone suffers painful events.

Everyone suffers painful events. Bad life experiences are not particular to you however you may feel. They are particular to everyone. Everyone suffers some pain in their life at some point in their life. Pain is a part of life as is joy also. Everyone has something of life’s mix. Each person will experience both pain and pleasure within their life. One experience must be balanced by the other. We are here to live and grow. We live to experience, and we are not here to have pleasure alone.  Struggle is at the heart of living, as is love, laughter and happiness also.  All conditions exist and all conditions go to make a life. A balanced life is a healthy mix of it all. I have no idea if 2016 will bring you the things that you desire and be a good one for you. Only you will know if your 2016 was a good one or not as you are the person who will get to experience it. Once it is done you will look back over 2016 and decide what you feel it was.

Many things will have touched your year. It may have been romantic love and the pain that can go with that. With each passing relationship we learn something about life and our self. If someone walks away don’t take it personally, you were not right for that person and neither were they right for you. It was just a miss match, but a valuable experience. Take stock and know that you were the best that you could be at this time. Annalise the situation and find the reason for the closure of the relationship. Did the relationship just come to a natural conclusion with no real fault on either side? There will be a lesson to be learnt so look for the lesson.

Finance always has its positives and negatives. We all need financial security. I have always found the remedy for lack of money is earn more spend less and save at least 10% of earnings. This seems such a simple philosophy. Life is rarely that simple as life always throws its twists and turns. However I have found that to be sound financial planning.

Greif comes to each of us given time. We all lose people as loss is a part of the condition of living. We live and then we die. Death will come to each of us given time. Everything dies. Everything passes in time. There is movement to life. Life moves. Life is energy and energy moves. There is a natural order in that. The death of the physical body is one thing but the soul of the person transcends life. I am a spirit medium and there is a real comfort in that knowledge for me. I know  many people  find comfort in that understanding.

When a family member passed two years ago she had not been gone two days and she came through to talk to me via a friend who is a medium also. My friend did not know my relative had died. It was quite a shock for us both as she invaded out telephone conversation. However it was also nice as being newly deceased was not going to stop her getting some things sorted before her funeral.


All conditions are a part of life.

All conditions are a part of life.

All conditions are a part of life. There is a thread that runs from one situation to another always. Examine the thread of your life and you will learn a lot about change.

I would like to wish all of our readers a very happy New Year and thank you all for supporting our blogs for the past few years. I hope you have enjoyed them, however  if not I hope that they have at least challenged you or stirred your thought in some way. 2016 will see the publishing of my New book “Feel the Power” and I hope that you should be inspired to buy it. Both David and I wish you a very Happy and peaceful New Year.


Heart Energy

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In the previous blog David Brown talked about the heart and its condition in relation to compassion and love. He explained how we can make sure we keep our own heart in good order. He talked about our feelings and emotions and the link they have with the heart.  He felt compelled to discuss this in the light of the recent killings in Paris. We talk in terms of being “stone hearted” or “broken hearted” and “cold hearted” in relation to emotions. This is because we store our emotions in the heart. The heart keeps our blood pumping around our body but it has a much more important job to do than that.


Universal Energy force of nature

The focus of the discussion that David and I are having with our readership is one of energy and the importance of it to the mind, body, emotions and spiritual aspect of the person. We have tried to illustrate the fact that universal energy is impact on all levels of your being and life. No more so than the emotional and spiritual aspect of the person.

We have said in many blogs that we take universal energy into our body and this energy feeds all aspects of our person and being. This may seem confusing, ridiculous, inconsequential or just plain not important to you. This single truth is of immense importance to your life and being. This subtle energy of which I speak, which you can just ignore if you so choose, will do many things for your being and life condition. To understand this fact and to act on it means that you have control over many aspects of your life, health and future.


A gift from the Universe

On a physical level this energy is electricity and magnetism but on a spiritual level it is the breath of life itself and a gift from the universe. It feeds your body, your life and being on all levels. David talked in his blog about taking this energy into your heart. I understand that for some people reading this, what he is saying to you may escape you.

In the wake of the Paris atrocities that blog and its message may well seem trivial. There is nothing trivial about that message, it is far more profound a message than it may seem at first glance. We are taught to see ourselves as separate one from the other by society and religion. We are separated on so many grounds. We separate on ideas; ideals, religion, politics, country of origin; ethnicity and skin colour are some of the factors that are used.


No Separation

In truth there is no separation between any of us. We are one people, the human people of the human family. That is our connection one to the other. We are one race, the human race. We have one home, the earth. This should be obvious to each of us but it is not so for most of us. Look around at the state we are all in at this point in time. So much hate, anger and killing on the grounds of things that seem important yet are inconsequential when looked at that through the lens of what truly connects us. Religion is not important unless you make it so. How we treat each other is important no matter what we may say or do. How we treat each other as part of the human family is of paramount importance. We have all been thrown into life for a time to live, love and grow. How we live, love and grow is important for at the heart of that importance is compassion for each other. Without human feeling and connection there can be no compassion.


Compassion starts with empathy

Compassion starts in the hearts of men. It is through empathy and seeing the other person as part of you that we have compassion. Seeing the humanity in the other person does not start and end in the intellect but it is more about a feeling in the heart of mankind.  When we connect heart to heart what do religion or ideas matter? We are connected by a greater force than any of those. We are connected through the energy of the heart.

If we feel others as part of ourselves and love them as ourselves we cannot harm them for we harm ourselves.

It is when we see others as different or less than ourselves that we can do harm. To separate the other person is to separate a part of ourselves. This is what “being spiritual” means. This is what spiritual connection is. It is a connection one to the other through the heart of you.


Heart connection is a wisdom and truth

Ideas and teachings come and go. There are some things that are universally valid and therefore unchanging.  Humanity’s connection through the heart is one such wisdom. It is a constant of the universe and will never change for man. When we go to pray, or talk to God or align ourselves with one religion or the other, we are seeking a strengthening of our human connection through God. I do not wish to get into discussion here on what God is or isn’t or if he exists. That is not the point of this blog. This blog is explaining there is a universal energy that ties us all together, and we can draw on this energy to strengthen our own connection to each other.

We must look to the condition of our own hearts first and condemn others if we must second. I read an article this week about a Muslim lady who was attacked verbally by a man who brought her to tears. How is this man any different from the terrorists? He was terrorising a woman who was peacefully and lawfully going about her daily life in her own country.

I remember and lived through racial abuse in the past in Britain. We have moved past that time and we should all be proud of that. We should all pat ourselves on the back for our own tolerance and sense of humanity. Britain has come such a long way. I have not walked down any British street for decades and been racially abused. To all of my country men and women who have worked hard so that I can have done that, I would like to say a personal and special thank you.


Taking care of freedom

Let’s all take care. Let’s all take care of each other and keep this the country we all wish to live in. Let’s keep our sense of humanity for that is part of what the terrorists hate about us; our wish for tolerance of each other because they have none. Freedom is an important part of a healthy human being. Being free to think and act in a loving and kind manner and to add positivity to life and the lives of others.

Let us make sure we keep our humanity and do whatever we need to do to stop this madness from taking a moment more of our precious lives. Life should be about love and laughter not killing and hate.  To keep the love in our own hearts healthy use meditation or just contemplation and bring in good energy into the heart.

Peace and Love Lynette.

In our next blog we are going to share a life changing meditation with you.



Paris Atrocities

ThinkstockPhotos-497189328At the time of the recent atrocities in Paris on November 13 2015, I was assisting on a training week. The participants of the training week and I spent part of the Saturday morning analysing the emotions that came up for the participants. We found that as well as the usual feelings of anger, hopelessness, powerlessness and despair, the events also brought up within us feelings of compassion and ideas about the power of human connection. I think that for there to be acts of kindness, humanity and compassion, there needs to be a connection to one’s heart. Being totally connected to one’s own heart facilitates connection to the hearts of other people.


When we are truly connected through our hearts one to another, there is no way acts like those of 9/11 or November 13th 2015 in Paris can ever happen as the connectivity one to the other and true love of humanity does not allow for it. Heart energy plays a huge role in compassion. To freeze the heart is to stem the flow of life giving energy that keeps the body healthy, and the person whole and connected.


Acts of terrorism come from frozen hearts. No one is born with a frozen heart and so it has to be gained over time. We have to ask ourselves what brings a person to this frozen place of a cold heart? How does it happen? With each person who gains a frozen heart the world becomes a progressively colder place.


We cannot let this happen!


We have to ask ourselves what will this do to our personal lives and health or the health of the planet if we allow the progression of an ever colder and disconnected humanity.


Opening our hearts and freeing its free flow of loving energy is essential. Free flow of loving energy is how we will heal the world. Not by bombing each other and blowing each other up. Negative or positive energy flow goes deeper than global issues. This goes to the core of our being and our humanity. I believe in the power of energy. It is a non-emotional force without morality or ethics. We give it those labels. What energy has is vibration, specific signatures that attracts more of the same. War breeds war. Hate insights hate. There is much fear in the world and the only thing that will combat it is a concerted effort towards love which resides in the energy of the heart.


This is my personal call to you to you to ask you to do one thing every day that may scare you! I am asking you to love in the face of fear and hate. Together let us halt the tide of fear and hate. This current situation of increasing hate that is growing on both sides may seem hopeless, and you may feel powerless.


Yet I promise you this: if we fail to connect to our hearts and allow the energy of the heart and love to flow there, there will be nothing to counter the growing momentum of fear and hatred in the world.


In our book Nourish the Flame Within, we talk at length about such themes of love and hate and there are meditations that connect you to your heart energy. By working on drawing energy into your body from above, you can power up the energy in your heart. Your heart is the place of emotion and your connection to others.  A healthy heart on all levels will ensure our connection to each other.


On my training weekend of which I spoke I opened my heart to the pain people must be feeling around the world with regards to the current situation of separation and hate that is playing out in terrorist atrocities. Normally I would not publically comment on these political acts but this time I felt compelled to do so.


We must all dig deep as the growing tide of anger takes us forward. We must all examine the condition of our own hearts and our position on humanity. For this situation will get worse before it gets better and each of us must make sure we stand on the side of good. Love, kindness and human connection is the only true good, for anything less than that must surely be negative and therefore wrong as negativity breeds negativity. None of us can ensure anyone but ourselves stays true to love and humanity. So let’s start with ourselves and see how the wave we create can change this terribly negative situation to one of love, human connection and hope!

Isolation and Loneliness

029Number 5 in Lynette’s “My Story”, series.


Illness is hard work

Illness is no easy task. Most people will be ill at some time in their life. Illness is a part of the living condition. Our bodies are wonderful things they will keep us well for the most part as long as we give them the conditions to do so. When we become ill it can be a tough road. Illness can highlight the shortcomings of ourselves, life, situations and people around us.

We would all like to think that when we become ill there will be good friends and family around to support us in our time of need. This is not always the case for many people. Even if we do have good people around us they may not have the skill ability or time to give us all that we may need to make us feel supported. This lack of support whether it is real or felt can be an added burden and stress to the person who is ill in a time of need.


Many people become ill and do not have the necessary emotional and practical support around them. This will be detrimental to recovery as it will be an additional burden on the body with added stress and will not aid recovery. I remember how unsupported I felt when I was ill. I had family around me my husband and son, but my son was in his teens and struggling with his own issues as teenagers do. My husband did the best he could to hold the fort, he worked and did long hours traveling to London from our home each day. He was up early and home late and then there was a teen age son, a house, and a wife that was unwell to support. He did not have much energy left for himself. They were our difficult times as a family.

So I really can empathise with anyone who is in this situation. I felt cut off, alone and lonely much of my time in those days. I struggled with my illness and tried to do my best for my family. My illness was one of depleted energy and pain, I had M.E. Obviously any added burden to an illness will not be good for the person in the long run. Stress can be detrimental to health and so to add stress will not be good for the recovery of the person.


Laughter is a good tonic for people who are unwell. It is a good tonic for the well and unwell alike. It raises the vibration of the person and this helps to promote well health. We all have a vibration to our body. Everything has a vibration.  When our body is well it vibrates at well and positive, and when we are unwell it vibrates unwell or negatively. We can change this vibration or encourage it to change in many ways. Laughter helps to do this. Think of people who are unwell and think about how they feel. Now bring to mind the thought of people who are well and full of energy and think about how they feel. The unwell and the well feel different to be around. People who are unwell tend to sap energy and can make you feel depleted and the well and vibrant person does the opposite. They help to energise you.

Chi/ Ki energy

As a Reiki master I know that when people are unwell they seek to be exposed to chi energy. We know in the core of our being that this energy is health giving. Chi/Ki energy is electro-magnetic energy that occurs naturally in the body. Energy probationers use this energy to good effect in healing many health conditions of the body. Find yourself a good energy practitioner. We can impact our vibration by energetic healing such as Reiki, cranial sacral therapy, hypnotherapy, and acupuncture to name a few. All of these forms of healing will or can change the vibration of the person to the well vibration or well state depending on the knowledge and effectiveness of the practitioner involved. Obviously there is an element of skill and knowledge to the use of these therapies.

In the Company of others

Being around others who are well and in cheerful disposition will help the person who is unwell. These people vibrate at the well vibration and happiness can be transferred. We have all been around happy people and sad people at some time. Or we have been around positive people and negative people. All sorts of personalities and people cross our paths in life. Each personality and disposition will have an influence on our own. If we are around people who  are sad or negative this will reduce our own vibration as we start to be effected by them and start to mirror their vibration, or what they are radiating. I am sure many of you have walked into a gathering of people and their mood was very up and cheerful and immediately it raised your feeling of wellbeing. We all like parties or gatherings that are going with a swing or good vibration. Equally we may have walked into a gathering of people and just felt the energy of the room flat or negative. Something was going on but we did not necessarily know what but just felt it. None of us like being in or part of negative or flat gatherings. They make us feel flat or negative and serve to lower our mood or vibration.

Self- help

  1. If you are unwell, try your best to keep your spirits/vibration up. This will be beneficial to you in the long run. It will add a positive vibration and therefore you will not add any further negativity to the body at a time when it has enough of it to deal with.
  2. Be amongst cheerful positive people they will raise your vibration and this will be of help to you.
  3. Consider energy healing. This is the part of healing that modern medicine does not deal with. Energy healing adds to the body a vital health giving ingredient which speeds up healing in the sick and unwell.

Caring for the unwell

If you are looking after a person who is ill or you have ill people to deal with try to keep their vibration/mood high this will aid and speed up their recovery. It may lighten your load also.

If you know someone who is ill and isolated try to be kind and help in whatever way you personally can. Sometimes a bunch of flowers, putting their dustbins out or a smile and a wave will lighten their load and raise their vibration. One day it may be you that needs your vibration supported by others. We don’t know if one day it may be ourselves that needs help and support with illness.

Stay healthy, stay happy, be supportive to the unwell.


Giving the Christmas Message


 Seasons Greetings,

Christmas is more than a time of giving.  We all rush around in a mad frenzy choosing and buying gifts for our family and friends for the big day.

It is the time of year that retailers love the most as they do the majority of their business at Christmas. Each year retailers wait with baited breath, as the last sales are totalled. They have sweat on their brow, I am sure of it, whilst they wait to know if sales are up or down. Each year we all get to hear via the media how well or badly the retailers have done.  I am not sure why we should care and especially at Christmas. For retailers Christmas is first and foremost about sales and profit.

I wonder too what Christmas means to the average person as Christ is inched out of his own birthday bit by bit. Some schools are now changing their practise on the nativity and have removed the play from their Christmas activity. Also, some schools have now changed what they call Christmas and are calling it the winter festival instead of Christmas. I feel if that is the case let’s just get rid of the whole thing altogether. If we are not celebrating the birth of Christ, what are we celebrating exactly?

How can Christ be a bad thing? This was a child that was born a special person. Some people are born to be special. Others have to work and become special. Surely if nothing else we should celebrate the specialness. Three wise kings came to celebrate Jesus’s birth. They brought him three gifts. They gave him gold to symbolise his high status, even thought he was of a humble human family. Gold is a special and precious metal given to special people or for special occasions. This was given to him to honour what was special in him.

The second gift that was given to Christ was frankincense. Frankincense is an interesting substance that has been traditionally used for spiritual ceremonies in religion and spiritual practices. It is an aromatic resin. This resin comes from the Boswellia tree.  This resin has a particular and pleasant smell. It smells quite sweet and a little bit musty at the same time. This gift signified the spiritual nature of the child and the special spiritual gift which was his teaching and special message that he would give to the world of man.

The third gift that the kings brought to the Baby Jesus was Myrrh. This too is a resin derived from a tree. This comes from the Commiphora myrrh tree. This substance was traditionally used by people to prepare the dead for burial. This gift signified Jesus’s short life and premature death. The kings were saying this child is special and he would do good work for the world and only have a very short life. The fact that these wise kings travelled far to honour the baby Jesus and brought such well thought out gifts is the reason we give gifts at Christmas. The birth of this special person and what he went onto achieve is the reason we have celebrated Christmas for about two thousand years. I am not sure what will be left if we take Christ out of Christ’s own mass.

Each year at this time we all give and receive gifts. How many of us give gifts as a celebration of Christ’s birth and life? How many of us concern ourselves with the true reason we are celebrating at this time of year? Or is it just that we are all full of the expectation of the material gain, as well as the spirits that we will consume? Is that more important to most of us? Maybe I am getting old and cynical.  Spiritual sustenance is like bread for the body. Good eating and good nutrition. Christ had a spiritual message to enhance our spiritual well-being. Perhaps we should all take a little time out from the mistletoe and wine and reflect inwardly to nourish our flame within. Seems like the most appropriate time of year to do so to me.

I wish you a happy Christmas and the best ever New Year, and would like to thank everyone who has been reading our blogs and supporting our work over the past two years and for being so fab.

Have a great Christmas and don’t consume too many spirits. Stay safe.



Miss Stress Ball

Miss Stress Ball

Miss Stress Ball

The My Story series continues with number three in the series, “Miss Stress Ball”.


I was a very quiet shy child. Life taught me to keep my mouth shut and keep a low profile. I was born in a time when you did not answer your elders and betters back. If you had an opinion you were to keep it to yourself as no one wanted to hear it from a child or teenager. That did not suit me as I was always a deeply thinking person.


I am of mixed race and was born in the 50’s in London, Great Britain. Being mixed race was not an easy thing at that time. At school many of my teachers left me in no doubt that they did not want me in their class on the basis of my colour. Not all teachers where like that, I did have many kinds and lovely people who were my teachers and mentors along the way. However, the first teacher that made it clear to me that I was not wanted as a pupil by her was when I was five and first entered school. She made me cry most days until my mother had enough and went to the school and gave her what for. I remember hearing my mother say to the teacher if my daughter comes home one more day crying because of you, then you will go home crying. My mother was a tough woman.


Some of the children were unkind also and most would not play with me and did not include me. The boy next door threw a stone at me as I passed his house one day on the basis of my colour and called me all sorts of unkind names. The children who played in my street one day would not let me join in their game and said I t was because I was dirty. When I looked at my dress and hands, I showed the children and said no look I am clean. They replied with you are black and not white and you are dirty.

My Stresses

These were my personal early stresses in life. Times have got somewhat better with such things. Many people do try hard to be tolerant to all races now. Not everyone has this inclusive mind set even today. Life can be hard and cause us all sorts of stresses. Many of those stresses can start very early in our lives. As a hypnotherapist I know that most people when they come to me for help have had some sort of trauma/traumas at some point in their life. Stress always has a root.

I continued to gather stress as I went through life and as life dealt me many difficult situations to deal with. I had good ones too, but stress builds up in the body as negative energy and has to be removed. The body will accommodate an amount of it but when the sub-conscious mind and body becomes over loaded the person will break down in some way. It could be physical, emotional or even mental.

A Broken Body

My body broke down eventually and I fell into ill health, with M.E. The signs of stress were there in my life in my thirties and my friends joked and called me miss stress ball. I was a person who just would not give in to life and would just fight through the worst of it.

Everyone has a story and reasons why they become stressed. Life is stressful for all sorts of reasons. Stress must be dealt with and we all need to be mindful that we are impactful on each other in the things we do and say to each other. Why add stress to another person’s life. Life itself gives each of us enough of it.

Dealing with stress

I have dealt with my stress and ill health and the two things that help me the most are meditation and Reiki. I use both of those things to keep my stress in check. So effective have they been in my life that I teach these techniques to people when they need to manage stress in their lives in an effective way.  In the book “Nourish the Flame within” that I have written with David Brown I explore meditation and Reiki as means of combating stress.  If you would like to learn more about using Reiki and meditation to combat stress you can get a free e- book from our website or purchase a copy of our book “Nourish the Flame Within.”



No ones Perfect

509075791Perfection, what a perfect word! If you say it, it seems to roll off the tongue so nicely. It has an ease. We could say it has its own perfect vibration.

My father asked me

To be perfect- what does that really mean? Is it achievable? When I went to school perfection was encouraged. I did not understand why it was encouraged. It all just seemed to be taxing and challenging to me. To be honest as a child I could just not be bothered to deal with the subject of perfection. At that time in my life I was happy with whatever was the easiest option for me. I wanted an easy life. Why run harder and faster. That only puts a strain on the body. I hated sports with a passion. One day whilst watching Tennis my father posed the question to me. What sport do you like? It was not posed as a question but as a statement.  I asked him, what do you mean?  He said to me, you don’t like any.

I hated sport

This was true enough. I did not like doing them or watching them or even hearing about them. It was all hard work to me and therefore totally unenjoyable. Now as an adult I think what a waste. Also what a huge lesson I have learnt in life. With effort comes perfection. With hard work comes self-satisfaction and learning. These are some of the pieces of gold that life has to offer. It took me until my late teens and early twenties to understand the power of work and effort.

Work oh no

What I did not realise about work was this, that it is through work of any kind that we have an opportunity for perfection. Every time we engage with it we have an opportunity to perfect a skill, an interaction or production of something, either within ourselves or outside of ourselves.

It is not just about money but more than that. It is the perfection of the self through time, effort and experience. It is the nourishment of the self that leads to perfection. Perfection is something that we can all strive for but in reality is not achievable. We gain from the pursuit of perfection the rewards that are there to be had not from the attainment of perfection.

Perfection is not possible

Attainment of perfection is not possible, as people perceive perfection differently even though they may be observing the same circumstances. Perfection is subjective, and even if it is agreed upon by many at a particular time, the goal post will always change, both inside and outside of the self. So by who’s definition is perfection perfect anyway? The purpose of striving for perfection is to gain experience. The masters of music, art, dance, acting and sport have a depth and breadth of experience that allows them to get close to that pinnacle of perfection and they may even touch the summit, for a moment, and then it is gone.

If I had run around and pursued a life of sport I would have had a positive outcome no matter how much or little I put into it. Or how much or little of it I did, as it has its own rewards. I would have improved my physical fitness and maybe gained some increased self-esteem perhaps.

I spent my time drawing and painting instead and still gained a lot from that. So in reality I gained anyway. I just gained from something other than sport. I had my own vehicle for seeking perfection.