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Heart Energy

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In the previous blog David Brown talked about the heart and its condition in relation to compassion and love. He explained how we can make sure we keep our own heart in good order. He talked about our feelings and emotions and the link they have with the heart.  He felt compelled to discuss this in the light of the recent killings in Paris. We talk in terms of being “stone hearted” or “broken hearted” and “cold hearted” in relation to emotions. This is because we store our emotions in the heart. The heart keeps our blood pumping around our body but it has a much more important job to do than that.

 

Universal Energy force of nature

The focus of the discussion that David and I are having with our readership is one of energy and the importance of it to the mind, body, emotions and spiritual aspect of the person. We have tried to illustrate the fact that universal energy is impact on all levels of your being and life. No more so than the emotional and spiritual aspect of the person.

We have said in many blogs that we take universal energy into our body and this energy feeds all aspects of our person and being. This may seem confusing, ridiculous, inconsequential or just plain not important to you. This single truth is of immense importance to your life and being. This subtle energy of which I speak, which you can just ignore if you so choose, will do many things for your being and life condition. To understand this fact and to act on it means that you have control over many aspects of your life, health and future.

 

A gift from the Universe

On a physical level this energy is electricity and magnetism but on a spiritual level it is the breath of life itself and a gift from the universe. It feeds your body, your life and being on all levels. David talked in his blog about taking this energy into your heart. I understand that for some people reading this, what he is saying to you may escape you.

In the wake of the Paris atrocities that blog and its message may well seem trivial. There is nothing trivial about that message, it is far more profound a message than it may seem at first glance. We are taught to see ourselves as separate one from the other by society and religion. We are separated on so many grounds. We separate on ideas; ideals, religion, politics, country of origin; ethnicity and skin colour are some of the factors that are used.

 

No Separation

In truth there is no separation between any of us. We are one people, the human people of the human family. That is our connection one to the other. We are one race, the human race. We have one home, the earth. This should be obvious to each of us but it is not so for most of us. Look around at the state we are all in at this point in time. So much hate, anger and killing on the grounds of things that seem important yet are inconsequential when looked at that through the lens of what truly connects us. Religion is not important unless you make it so. How we treat each other is important no matter what we may say or do. How we treat each other as part of the human family is of paramount importance. We have all been thrown into life for a time to live, love and grow. How we live, love and grow is important for at the heart of that importance is compassion for each other. Without human feeling and connection there can be no compassion.

 

Compassion starts with empathy

Compassion starts in the hearts of men. It is through empathy and seeing the other person as part of you that we have compassion. Seeing the humanity in the other person does not start and end in the intellect but it is more about a feeling in the heart of mankind.  When we connect heart to heart what do religion or ideas matter? We are connected by a greater force than any of those. We are connected through the energy of the heart.

If we feel others as part of ourselves and love them as ourselves we cannot harm them for we harm ourselves.

It is when we see others as different or less than ourselves that we can do harm. To separate the other person is to separate a part of ourselves. This is what “being spiritual” means. This is what spiritual connection is. It is a connection one to the other through the heart of you.

 

Heart connection is a wisdom and truth

Ideas and teachings come and go. There are some things that are universally valid and therefore unchanging.  Humanity’s connection through the heart is one such wisdom. It is a constant of the universe and will never change for man. When we go to pray, or talk to God or align ourselves with one religion or the other, we are seeking a strengthening of our human connection through God. I do not wish to get into discussion here on what God is or isn’t or if he exists. That is not the point of this blog. This blog is explaining there is a universal energy that ties us all together, and we can draw on this energy to strengthen our own connection to each other.

We must look to the condition of our own hearts first and condemn others if we must second. I read an article this week about a Muslim lady who was attacked verbally by a man who brought her to tears. How is this man any different from the terrorists? He was terrorising a woman who was peacefully and lawfully going about her daily life in her own country.

I remember and lived through racial abuse in the past in Britain. We have moved past that time and we should all be proud of that. We should all pat ourselves on the back for our own tolerance and sense of humanity. Britain has come such a long way. I have not walked down any British street for decades and been racially abused. To all of my country men and women who have worked hard so that I can have done that, I would like to say a personal and special thank you.

 

Taking care of freedom

Let’s all take care. Let’s all take care of each other and keep this the country we all wish to live in. Let’s keep our sense of humanity for that is part of what the terrorists hate about us; our wish for tolerance of each other because they have none. Freedom is an important part of a healthy human being. Being free to think and act in a loving and kind manner and to add positivity to life and the lives of others.

Let us make sure we keep our humanity and do whatever we need to do to stop this madness from taking a moment more of our precious lives. Life should be about love and laughter not killing and hate.  To keep the love in our own hearts healthy use meditation or just contemplation and bring in good energy into the heart.

Peace and Love Lynette.

In our next blog we are going to share a life changing meditation with you.

 

 

Life is a two way street

Life is a two way street

Life is a two way street

Life is interactive.

It is a two way street.

If you wake up in the morning in a bad mood, all you see in your day is the stuff that angers and irritates you- the good stuff does not touch you.

If you wake up in a good mood, you see only joy and the bad stuff runs off you like water off a ducks back.

It is not that you are creating Reality- Reality is Reality. It is that you are creating YOUR reality.

You buy a new car and suddenly you see the make and model everywhere. You didn’t notice it before. Now you do because you are aware, because you made a conscious choice.

The signals from the world, from the Universe, are always the same. There has always been this number of Range Rovers around- the question is ‘Why did you not notice?’

If the signal from the world, from the Universe, is always the same, why do you notice some things and ignore others?

It is all there to be felt, seen, heard and touched, why are you missing the bits you are missing?

I believe it is about conscious choice and intention.

Before I get into that, I want to explain an idea that may make it clearer to understand.

An Ocean of Waves

Science tells us that every atom in the universe has a vibration. As it vibrates it sends out endless waves into the space. So in truth, the Universe is a massive ocean of waves.

When we picture this idea we assume for the most part that it is the atoms creating the waves- I think this is true, but only PART of the story. Because waves also create the atoms. Reality is interactive, a two way street.

The environment around you plays as much a part in creating you as you do in creating the environment. You create a living space at home that is calm and relaxing. That calm and relaxing space in turn calms
and relaxes you.

Your enthusiasm for a subject makes others enthusiastic which loops back to you and feeds your passion.

The more I look at life, the more I see this two way street. Nothing is in isolation, everything is connected.

Science tells us this connection is generated by waves. Waves interact- if the waves are in sync you feel a harmonious connection. When out of sync you feel discord and disharmony. You are always connected. You are always interacting.

Free Choice

As conscious beings we have free choice. We have the freedom to choose our thoughts and intentions. In short, we are able to influence the waves we generate and send out into the world.

When your waves interact with the waves of the world around you, you feel harmony or discord depending on your environment.

So, when you give out the waves of a bad mood, you inadvertently draw your attention to things that are harmonious to this bad mood. Good mood vibrations irritate you because they are not harmonious with your bad mood vibration. Your bad mood deepens!

To change this cyclic state of affairs requires conscious choice from you- actively choose a good mood.

Discover the things that bring you joy and create a relationship and connection to them that you can access whenever you need to. Build and cultivate the connections in your mind, body and spirit that will make it easier over time to feel joy over fear and contentment over discord. Experiment with it.

It requires consistent effort because the nature of the universe is fluid- it’s shape and form will change very fast in any direction as long as the intention is strong and consistent enough to influence the waves within and around you.

Gandhi said ‘Be the change you want to see in the world’. I believe what he meant by that in the context of waves, vibration and science is that by giving off the vibration of joy, peace and love your waves will interact with people’s vibrations of joy, peace and love, amplify them and bring that into consciousness. In turn they will feed it back to you in an ever growing loop.

Yes, choose your environment and the people you interact with carefully- they influence your being and your vibration. Also, manage your vibration, your intention, your conscious thoughts and notice the impact it has on your environment and the people in your life. You can choose to create a better life and a better world. The science points us to this truth that sages, masters and teachers have told us across space and time- that life is an interactive experience, a two way street.

Over to you

What are your thoughts and experiences of life as a two way street? We’d love to hear about your experiences and work together in creating a supportive environment for learning and enquiry about science and spirituality. Please post your comments below.

Health and Success in the New Year

529745947O.K., so the mince pies have been eaten and you have stuffed your face with as much turkey, Christmas pudding and cake as you could humanly manage. You washed it all down with as much alcohol as your liver would allow, without sending you to A&E. It is now after News year’s eve, where you partied to the wee hours and you now feel sick and want to throw up. To be fair, you have not yet, but you really do feel like it and your skin is looking a funny shade of green. Not to mention your throbbing head.

Your body isn’t looking good. Very bloated and round. You are trying to convince yourself that the mince pies got worked off on the short walk to the party, but somehow it does not cut it. Alright admit it you have eaten too much and it is now showing in the poundage of your body and you drank too much and you are green. Fat and green to sum it up, so now what?

Well there is the New Year’s resolution of course. Get fit, get healthy and you could join the local gym. But you have done that before and the enthusiasm does not last past the beginning of February. This is called after festivity depression; a reality check after the revelry.

It is good to have a good time and Christmas is just the best time for that as so many people are up for the party. Life has to be full of good and happy things as they are the most fulfilling to us. However, should we really be partying until we go green? Maybe a lighter shade of something more appealing would be better. Being excited and loosing ones inhibitions can be a good thing sometimes. We all have our shyness’s and insecurities at any age. So alcohol is good for that. It will take that away for a short time and allow a freedom in the moment.

However, the freedom was short lived; you now understand this as you stand in front of the mirror looking at your unappealing green pallor. You could have saved yourself all of this by not engaging in the fun and not being at the festivities or participating. There is no fun in that either. So what is the answer? May I suggest moderation?

If you were moderate you could have enjoyed it all without feeling sick and going green, with a fat body and a throbbing head. This sounds like brutal advice, and it is to be fair. This was something I learnt a long time ago. Moderation is the key to a happy life. Satisfy your taste buds but don’t pile on the pounds with large quantity. Large quantities of anything will have a negative effect on your health or oppress you in time.

Last year at about this time I met a really lovely young man. He came to me as a client for therapy. He had a cocaine addiction and he looked so ill. As a mother and a caring individual my heart went out to him as he said to me, this started as a party and now it is a nightmare.

Often we make our own nightmare. Part of life is joining in the party. The ultimate party is life itself of course, and so we have to weigh a great deal up. We have to weigh up what is the right path for us as individuals. If we look down the road just a little bit we can be more controlled and thoughtful about the decisions we take.  The party seemed a good idea at the time, and maybe it was. However in hindsight was it? Your party was your making. A long, healthy and happy life needs a wee bit of control on our part and appropriate decisions made for our future anything if we are to have one at all. Life is a learning journey and none of us have all of the answers at any one time. We learn many things along the way in life as we develop over time. It is good to have fun at any age but don’t pay for it with your life, or quality of life. That is too high a price for a party.

May 2015 be peaceful, content and filled with the good things of life for you.

All the best for the New Year, Lynette.

Christmas Reflection

A gift is a token of our mutual connection

A gift is a token of our mutual connection

What a beautiful time of year this is, the festivities are almost over and now we have time for reflection. Christmas is a time for reflection on Christ’s message which is one of peace and to have a giving nature, and the Jewish festival of Chanukah is the festival of light and a celebration of god’s power and grace.

In the darkness and cold of winter, light and peace bring warmth and brightness to our hearts.

This time of year holds a serious message for us all and I think these festivals represent the core of the human condition and the giving nature of the Universe.

The candles and lights remind us of the human spirit, and that the human spirit has its own light. The Universal source is the source of that light, it nourishes that flame within.

The giving of presents and the acts of sharing and reflection remind us that it is important to have gratitude within us. Nothing in life is our right; we must carve life out for ourselves. Life gives us what we need as long as we engage in life appropriately.  We seek out gifts to thank people for being part of our lives and for sharing with us.

Life is an exchange of human interaction and what greater gift is there than the meaningful exchange of time, energy and experience to enhance the lives of all concerned?

The use of light when celebrating festivals the world over is a testament to the power of love and compassion that resides in the human heart and at the core of the Universal Spirit.  It is celebrated the world over, and for a short period it is in the fore front of our minds.  It can only be a good thing to have light and peace and giving in the fore front of our minds each year to reacquaint us all with those concepts.

Our lives are full of modern wants and needs.  However, perhaps we should ask ourselves is this the point of life, or is there a more fundamental and real point to existence? The Christmas message is one of gratitude, knowledge, understanding, hope, joy and peace to all. Christ came to light the way for us all and so that we would know what the light is and we would carry that light in our hearts always.

It is always pleasant to receive a gift from a treasured family member or friend. The gift is just a token of something more. It is a token of their connection to us and us to them. The human story is one of connection and that we are all bound together in our humanity. We should be truly grateful for those that bind us close to them. We should always remember to show gratitude for the love that is given to us by others. Our life would be the less without it. In the Chanukah story, god showed devotion to humanity by keeping the ever- lasting light alight even though there was not enough oil to keep it burning.  The wise men traveled far to honour the Christ child and in that act they showed us humility for Christ’s message, the Christmas message, the message of the light.

David Brown and Lynette Avis

Life on Life’s Terms

Sometimes you lead, sometimes life leads- this is the balance to the dance of life

Sometimes you lead, sometimes life leads- this is the balance to the dance of life

Many of us wish to live life on our terms.  We like to feel we are in control and that we are calling the shots.  Life experience tells me this may not be the only way to live.  Like all things in life, nothing ever flows one way.  Even a river has sections where the water flows up- stream and eddies swirl.  Our relationship with life is a two- way process.  It is not just about what you want, for there are terms and conditions to the life you have and the life you want.  In life, to have “X” you also have to have “Y”, the two go hand in hand.  It is the law of balance.  It is the law of the universe.

You start by stating your intention, and then the universe starts to work to make that intention a reality.  So what does that actually mean?

Well, experience tells me that growth is required. If you are to enter this new phase in your life you have to grow to allow it to happen.  If you want to earn more money, you have to grow to be able to earn that money.  If you want to attract different people into your life you have to grow and explore new areas of life and yourself.  Then the choice is back to you.  Will you grow in that direction?  Will you face the challenge?  If so the balance equation begins to shift and the balance in your life changes.

Life’s demands mean that you live on life’s terms, which has always been the way.  Life on your terms gives the illusion of security and certainty.  Life on life’s terms gives the impression that you are not in control.  I would say that both views are an illusion.  In truth it is a dance.  You and life choreograph the life dance together and so you must learn to trust.

You must trust yourself for there are times when you must lead.  And you must learn to trust life, for sometimes life will lead and you must trust that life has your best interests at heart.  Otherwise you will resist and the dance becomes a tense and stressful thing.

We all go through periods when we struggle to trust.  You feel alone and isolated which is a separation you have created.  You have stepped away from life.  Life continues to dance with or without its partner, tempting you in, encouraging you to step back in and embrace the most beautiful dance partner you could possibly imagine.  So dance with life, my friend, enjoy its beauty and flow and challenging steps.

And when your trust is complete you will know that there is a support network around you to guide and protect you, just like the bird that trusts there will be air beneath its wing or the new born trusts there will be milk from its mother.  The universe will provide all that you need, just not necessarily what you were expecting…… but that is a whole other topic!

No ones Perfect

509075791Perfection, what a perfect word! If you say it, it seems to roll off the tongue so nicely. It has an ease. We could say it has its own perfect vibration.

My father asked me

To be perfect- what does that really mean? Is it achievable? When I went to school perfection was encouraged. I did not understand why it was encouraged. It all just seemed to be taxing and challenging to me. To be honest as a child I could just not be bothered to deal with the subject of perfection. At that time in my life I was happy with whatever was the easiest option for me. I wanted an easy life. Why run harder and faster. That only puts a strain on the body. I hated sports with a passion. One day whilst watching Tennis my father posed the question to me. What sport do you like? It was not posed as a question but as a statement.  I asked him, what do you mean?  He said to me, you don’t like any.

I hated sport

This was true enough. I did not like doing them or watching them or even hearing about them. It was all hard work to me and therefore totally unenjoyable. Now as an adult I think what a waste. Also what a huge lesson I have learnt in life. With effort comes perfection. With hard work comes self-satisfaction and learning. These are some of the pieces of gold that life has to offer. It took me until my late teens and early twenties to understand the power of work and effort.

Work oh no

What I did not realise about work was this, that it is through work of any kind that we have an opportunity for perfection. Every time we engage with it we have an opportunity to perfect a skill, an interaction or production of something, either within ourselves or outside of ourselves.

It is not just about money but more than that. It is the perfection of the self through time, effort and experience. It is the nourishment of the self that leads to perfection. Perfection is something that we can all strive for but in reality is not achievable. We gain from the pursuit of perfection the rewards that are there to be had not from the attainment of perfection.

Perfection is not possible

Attainment of perfection is not possible, as people perceive perfection differently even though they may be observing the same circumstances. Perfection is subjective, and even if it is agreed upon by many at a particular time, the goal post will always change, both inside and outside of the self. So by who’s definition is perfection perfect anyway? The purpose of striving for perfection is to gain experience. The masters of music, art, dance, acting and sport have a depth and breadth of experience that allows them to get close to that pinnacle of perfection and they may even touch the summit, for a moment, and then it is gone.

If I had run around and pursued a life of sport I would have had a positive outcome no matter how much or little I put into it. Or how much or little of it I did, as it has its own rewards. I would have improved my physical fitness and maybe gained some increased self-esteem perhaps.

I spent my time drawing and painting instead and still gained a lot from that. So in reality I gained anyway. I just gained from something other than sport. I had my own vehicle for seeking perfection.

 

The Power of the Crowd

The Power of the Crowd creates an atmosphere all its own

The Power of the Crowd creates an atmosphere all its own

What an incredible summer of sport 2014 has been.  The World Cup in Brazil, Wimbolden and The Commonwealth Games in Glasgow.  The highs and lows, the passion and excitement and the power that the spectators feel as they become drawn into the competition as the event unfolds.  Nowhere was this talked about more than during the athletics at the London Olympic Games in 2012, when all the members of Team GB spoke about the power of the crowd cheering them on towards unprecedented success, particularly during Super Saturday, August 4th, when Jess Ennis, Greg Rutherford and Mo Farah all got Gold Medals.

So what is this power of the crowd?  How is it that so many people can be drawn into such excitement, that can help raise the performance of the athletes themselves?  It does not just affect the people at the venue, but also the folk watching on TV, even around the globe.

Fascinating research at The Global Consciousness Project (http://noosphere.princeton.edu/) may have the answer.  Based at The Institute of Noetic Sciences at Princeton, it studies the effects of group dynamics on random number generators (RNGs).  Put simply, these RNGs flip coins thousands of times a second and store the results- either heads or tails.  Left alone and over many repetitions these RNGs will produce a ratio of 50- 50 (half heads and half tails).  But this random behaviour can be affected by people thinking more about heads or tails.

The research started with individuals, but later they tried it with small groups of people, and found that those groups who shared bonds, such as couples, siblings and long- term friends, influenced the machines more dramatically than those that did not share those bonds or individuals.  Over many years, the project has found significant effects on RNGs by groups of people who are in some way in synchrony and therefore powerfully connected through their conscious attention.  What brings about this synchronous behaviour can range from local effects at opera and classical music events, to global effects seen at the OJ Simpson trial and Lady Diana Spencer’s funeral.  It appears to suggest that humans have the ability to synchronise and increase the effect of their collective focus.

Perhaps that is what happens at some incredible sporting events such as Super Saturday.  Certainly there was a collective excitement at The Wimbolden Men’s Final in 2014 that may have helped to spur the players on to greater endurance and performance.

Science tells us there are fields of energy that we can tap into.  As a result, we can be influenced by these fields and in turn can affect them.  It is a two- way process that means our presence has an impact on the environments we are in.  It is a complex interaction, but what is clear is that it can become very potent when people are thinking in a synchronous manner.  In negative situations, perhaps this collective affect has been shown in Nazi Germany in the 1930s and 1940s and in Rwanda in the 1990s.  In sport, this affect often shows itself in a very positive light, bringing out the best of people, not just in their sporting performance, but in their behaviour and good will towards their fellow men.  The power of the mind is great and the power of the collective mind appears to be greater still.

Mind- Set is Everything

Mind-Set is Everything: what you imagine colours your reality.

Mind-Set is Everything: what you imagine colours your reality.

 

In researching for my own general interest and specifically for our second book “Feel the Power”, I have come across some fascinating scientific research that spans psychology, neuroscience, quantum physics and anthropology. It amazes me that such diverse disciplines can actually point towards the same reality, namely to discover the truth about our living universe and our role within it.

The power of the mind is an important aspect of this research, because human beings interact with the universe through our minds. Here is one such experiment conducted by Shlomo Breznitz that I read about in The Holographic Universe by Michael Talbot (1996, Harper Collins Publishers, ISBN: 0586091718).

I quote directly from the book (pages 87- 88): Breznitz “had several groups of Israeli soldiers march 40 kilometers (about 25 miles), but gave each group different information. He had some groups march 30km, and then told them they had another ten to go. He told others they were going to march 60km, but in reality only marched them forty. He allowed some to see distance markers, and provided no clues to others as to how far they had walked. At the end of the study Breznitz found that the stress hormone levels of the soldiers’ blood always reflected their estimates and not the actual distance they had marched. In other words, their bodies responded not to reality, but to what they were imaging as reality.”

Isn’t that amazing? It was what the soldiers thought they were doing that had the most powerful effect on their bodies, not what actually happened. What they imagined had a physiological affect on their bodies which in turn affected their performance. It begs the question: What is it that you are imagining that affects your body and therefore your performance at work, in your relationships and in life generally?

How are your thoughts affecting your health, the way you approach and manage stressful situations or the manner in which you interact with others? The old adage “Mind over Matter” has been given new meaning and science is presenting us with countless examples of this across many fields of research. This blog series will look at some of these experiments which I hope will challenge some of your thoughts and perceptions about yourself and the world around you and perhaps encourage you to question some of your beliefs that may be holding you back from achieving your full potential and experiencing life in its fullness and beauty.

 

 

 

Miss Stress Ball

Illness Why Me?

Illness Arrives
Illness is a funny old thing. It arrives on our doorstep one day and it seems often to have come out of know where. Illness happened to me like that. I was vacuuming the house one day and I had the most horrible pain at the back of my head. It made me stop what I was doing momentarily. I did worry for a moment but then let the thought go. I thought to myself that either this was nothing or it was the pre curser to some horrible illness. I had always enjoyed good health and so why would that change? I was thirty six and with life ahead of me and full of ideas for my future. Ill health was not on my agenda. When is it ever for anyone?

Some weeks later, I started to feel some pain in the right side of my face. I did not know what it was I just knew that I was in a great deal of pain. I went to my doctor prescribed anti-biotics and de-contestants. I did not know then that this was the very beginning of one of the worst periods of my life. Often when people become ill this is the truth. Their lives, as mine did, take a huge turn for the worst.

Unwelcome Inconvenience
Illness presenting itself in our lives is always unwelcome and a huge inconvenience. We often think of the beginning of our illness starting the moment we felt ill. However this is seldom the truth. The truth is more likely to be that the illness started years before. Its roots will have been in the past. It will have quietly entered your life and your body and the energy will not have necessarily been noticed by you.

Illness is a slippery customer. It seldom enters with bells and whistles to alert you to its presence. It enters quietly and then gets to work on you. It works its way into your life and body. In fact, the beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world around us are entwined with our life and our body. There is no way to separate them. When we become ill most of us become the victim. We say why me? What did I do to deserve this?

I Caused my own Illness
Sometimes the answer is plenty. For illnesses such as M.E. which I suffered from for many years, I can say that I did plenty to deserve all that my body put me through, although I did not know it at that moment and would find out the truth of this many years later. If someone had told me then that I had brought this illness on myself and it was my own fault I would not have believed them. Because as far as I knew about ill health it just happened, with no rhyme nor reason to who it struck down.

It certainly struck me down for it took me many years to recover my health. This was the beginning of a miserable time that was to last more than a decade and took me to places within myself that I did not know existed.

Worry and Burnt Candle
I had burnt my candle at both ends and I worried myself into the ground. That is a sure way to health disaster. This time led me on a journey and one that led me to learn lots of things about maintaining good health. If only I had known then all that I now know with regards to maintaining health. I could have avoided many years of horrible health and pain. Well we live and learn. I sure did.

This horrible health experience led me to write Nourish the Flame Within, in the hope that others will not suffer my fate, and go down the road of health doom and disaster.
The story continues with……….
Illness set in the past

To find the reason for my illness we would have to go far back into my youth.

Life Engagement

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Life Engagement, Personal Intention, and Passion are all important. I see people today engaging in life through their mobile phones and their tablets. In a coffee shop the other day there were four separate couples with their heads in their phones and they never once spoke to their partners. I understand it is a generational thing, but I do hope that they engage with life and feel the excitement and thrill of living more fully, so that they are drawn into the joy of being alive. We deepen relationships with others through interaction. We can communicate at a distance but the more we focus on a task or a person the more fully we will connect.

Mechanical force
I understand that life is about engagement and connection. Business meetings, public speaking, dates, performing arts and sports are most successful when there is engagement, the feeling of presence and charisma that is undeniable and powerful. I teach and practise martial arts. When you perform a block or punch you may think that you are blocking or punching with your hand or your arm. This only diminishes your power and potential. In fact you are blocking and punching with so much more- your whole body is connected to that arm, and with good technique you can amplify the mechanical force of that movement. Good stance and posture, relaxation of the body, fluid motion, accuracy, timing and rhythm all contribute to the power of the movement.

Intention
There is more. There is intention behind that block or punch, the coherence of the mind and body working together to create a powerful movement. There is commitment. In “Feel the Fear and do it Anyway” Susan Jeffers describes an exercise to demonstrate the influence of thoughts on the body. Thinking in a positive mind frame palpably makes the body stronger than a negative mind frame, but she states that this affect is most profound the more the participant commits and feels what they are saying. I have tried this many times, and people are always surprised at the power their thoughts have on their physical being. A block or a punch will be far more powerful when there is commitment and focus on doing the technique. Focussing on fear weakens the body. In martial arts you practice technique to perfect union of mind, body and spirit in a positive and empowered state of being.

Effortless engagement with life
There is also passion that comes from the freedom of doing something effortlessly that is well practised and the subconscious trust and belief that the block or punch will work to defend the body. All these energies coalescing and focussing on the point of the punch or the block mean that you are punching and blocking with your entire being, not just with your arm. To do something with your whole being is to be fully connected and engaged with life. This is an expansive, liberating experience leading to freedom of expression and one’s uniqueness.

Passion
I passionately believe that martial arts are a mirror of life. When you look deeply enough you can take the lessons out of the training hall and apply them to life. And so it is with this…… it is a life- time’s practice to engage and remain engaged with life. To be truly present is to experience the moment entirely, to listen fully, to see clearly and to feel deeply.
In the movie Avatar there is a greeting the Na’ vi people make that I love. They say “I see you”, implying that there is more about you than the physical form I am looking at. There is something deeper.
We can all glimpse the deeper inner beauty of others and when that is sensed there is a realisation of how exciting that inner beauty can be.
Deep engagement with life and others will “Nourish the Flame Within”. When you feel the power of your connection with life it truly nourishes and sustains you. It amplifies passion of all sorts, and that is something worth living for!