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The Universe Influences

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There are many books on the market that talk about the mind and body connection or the mind and life connection. Books such as the Secret and authors such as Louise Hay have used and shared this mind- life, mind- body understanding. Hypnotherapy is a practice that centres on those connections and uses them for the benefit of the client’s health and well-being. The connection between mind and body and mind and life is very well understood by health and well-being professionals.

We also have a connection to the Universe. We are the Universe. We are not separate from the Universe. Every moment of every day we have a profound connection to the totality of the Universe. If you consider yourself separate from the Universe please answer this. Where did you come from? What made you? What are you made from?

 

You are energy

You are energy through and through. You are made of the stuff of the universal stars. You are no different to them. You have your place amongst them. They are energy and so too are you. The Universe came into being a long time ago and we can say it has a life of its own. It too lives and breathes as you do. Stars come and they go. The Universe experiments with energy on many levels, life forms come and go depending on how successful they are within the universal experiment. You are made of the stuff of the stars. The universe created you to live and breathe. It created you to live a life. Life can be challenging. Many things both good and bad happen within a life. People cross each other’s paths, sometimes those meetings and crossing are good and happy ones with fulfilling outcomes. Other times they are not so. If they are considered good or bad it will depend on the view points and agendas of those doing the analysis. Each person has free will and choice. Each person has a mind of their own. Each person has thought patterns and processes. These thought patterns and processes are unique to the individual. The individual ultimately gets to choose how they think. Their thought processes help them to make sense of the world and understand it to a degree.

 

Your life influence

It is not commonly understood by the general public that there is a mind connection with life itself. We think from the point of view that thinking and action will bring about a result.  It is true that thinking, decision and action will do that.  Results will be gained efficiently by using thinking decision and action and should not be underestimated as it plays an important role in taking the individual forward in a chosen direction. However what is not as easily understood by people in general is that they have another field of influence upon life. This is an energetic one. We can bring situations or people in our direction by our energetic connection to life and the Universe on all levels.

 

The Universe thinks and heals itself

The Universe is a thing. It lives, breaths and thinks. It has consciousness throughout. Human beings are also energy with consciousness. We too are energy that thinks. It is like two heart beats, the universal heart beat and the human heart beat. They can beat in synchronisation or out of synchronisation. So we can be conscious and energetically in tune with the Universe or out of tune with the Universe.

We all have influence on our lives, the lives of others and our thoughts and decisions through physical interaction, conscious thought and energy interaction and manipulation. There is an energy that permeates the Universe that influences everything. It is the catalyst that fires the Universe on all and every level. This energy is called Universal energy. It is known by many names and every culture has a name for it. It’s made up physically of a combination of electricity and magnetism. It is electromagnetic energy. It permeates all life on all levels. It is a carrier or information. It carries thoughts, ideas and beliefs around and throughout the Universe. It is a universal telegraph wire. It carries information everywhere. This background energy is known to science and they are calling it “The field”. Esoteric people and healers have called it Universal energy, Chi, Ki, Psychic, and Pranic energy amongst other names. It has been known to man for many thousands of years and the Chinese have understood its healing properties and how to exploit them for five thousand years.

 

Transferring Universal information

Everything you think and feel is carried into the world as energy. It is carried around the earth and out into the Universe on the back of Universal energy. Your thoughts are transferred through Universal energy to all parts of the Universe. We have all heard of the Aboriginal people of Australia and the fact that they have telepathic abilities. If what I have said holds water and it does, then this is a perfect explanation to those abilities.

You have both connection to and influence upon the Universe. You are part of the Universe and a part that makes up the totality of the Universe. Your thoughts and actions and deeds add to or take away from the Universe. You are important to the Universe. There is a responsibility to the Universe by you to it. Whether you consciously acknowledge that responsibility or not is your free will and choice.

 

Your Universal life

The Universe acknowledges you and the life it gave you. It will interact with you on many levels. It gave your life to you and in time it will take that life back. How you live that life is your free will and choice. If you interact with the Universe consciously, this is too your free will and choice. It is for you to understand that the choice is yours and you can exercise it at will. The Universe will respond to your thoughts and actions. Not with fire and lightening but with situations, people and circumstance to your ultimate benefit.

Benefit comes in many textures. Some rough and some smooth. What you may feel benefits you may not be the same thought and understanding to the Universe. However, it is not the point of living to give you a hard time to punish you. We are strengthened by being stretched. We always have the Universe’s ear when things are unbearable to us. Speaking your truth, thoughts, wants, needs and desires to the Universe is not seen as selfish but a necessary part of your right and growth. The Universe hears you. A word of caution here: please be careful of what you ask for. Harmful thoughts, deeds, and desires always have repercussions. We are all human and sometimes each of us may fall a little short. This is part of our learning and growth. To set our own boundaries of good and right is a good thing. To understand that our desires affect others is a good thing. To abuse our position in the world is a bad thing. Harm to others deliberately done is not acceptable to the Universe and should not be acceptable to you. Fairness and love is a good starting point in any situation. Selfishness, harshness and greed will not be seen well. You may have selfish and harmful desires in the short term as they may be part of your growth and growth to others. What feels bad to us we seldom engage in twice by choice. Basically what I am saying is this: we grow by experience and sometimes we do not get things correct. No one is perfect, we are perfecting ourselves daily. It also must be said that others feel our energy and thoughts by way of energy and if they feel bad, we will be seen in that light by those who engage with us.

 

Interacting with the Universe

We can ask the Universe for direct and positive input into our lives, health, and living situations. The Universe responds to those requests. We interact with the Universe every moment of the day and do so largely without conscious thought on the matter. If we give our interaction conscious thought and conscious interaction we have more of an influence upon outcomes.

We think things into being on either an energetic level or a physical level. For anything to come into being it must be preceded by a thought first. When I learnt how to design many decades ago one of the things that were drilled into me by the design process is the fact that change happens by my conscious thought. An idea comes into being by thought first then execution second. Along the way in the execution process the idea can be changed manipulated and honed. It is the same with the manipulation of energy. We have a thought or an idea and that is then communicated to the Universe and then the Universe responds by moving energy to bring it into being.

Whatever you want or wish for and even if it seems impossible; tell the Universe what it is. Ask the Universe to move situations in your direction to bring about the change that you desire. For your life to go in a certain direction you have to bring about the physical change or you have to ask the universe to do it for you. What the Universe will do will show you how to make the change by bringing people, ideas, or situations in your direction. Sometimes and more often than would be supposed it will just drop things in your lap. You can ask for many things from the Universe and material things are amongst those that can be asked for. They will not always be granted but if you don’t ask you probably will not get it unless you physically do it for yourself. The Universe makes the path to what you want and need easier and smoother for you.

 

Steering your life

You have a life that you can steer in this direction or that, according to your own desires. The Universe has a role in that life as it gave it to you. You are part of the Universe and it has a vested interest in you and your life. Day by day you live and grow and the Universe helps you to do that. It supplies the ingredients for life.

So what are your desires and wishes? Whatever they are as you think them whisper them to the universal forces and ask those forces for a direction toward them. The Universe points the way forward.

The fog lifts hope for the future

164Number 6 in Lynette’s series

 

 

I was ill for a long time as I have said in previous blogs. I recently reconnected with an old friend who asked me, “When you were teaching me all of those years ago where you unwell?” “Well yes of course I was” I said. I asked her if I was any different and she said “Yes, I had a lot more energy”. A fibre myalgia client said to me that people just do not understand how ill one is with this illness. Fibre myalgia and M.E. are similar illnesses. “If you had a hand or arm missing people would see your pain and difficulty. Because the pain you feel is internal they can’t see it and so don’t understand the levels of physical pain you are coping with”, she said. This is very true and I would support that entirely.

There is a mental fog that is attached to this illness and the sufferers mental thinking is diminished for the duration of the illness. Some days it is worse than others of course. I found that the things that were so easy in the past were difficult on every level. Anything physical was hard and anything that required my mental capacity was also difficult as my brain just would not work properly.

I am a trained artist and designer and all of my life from my childhood I have used my creative capacity. When I was ill it was almost impossible for me to do anything creative. For about half a decade I did pretty much nothing but sleep. I could not paint, draw or design and it all felt lost to me. I read a lot during those times when I had a break in my illness. That reading took my on a new path. One that I had contemplated years earlier, but had set aside for my first love art.

My love of art started when I was a baby. My mother drew for me a cat. I must have been no more than eighteen months old as I know I was still being carried by her. I never forgot that day she drew the cat. There are times, days, circumstances, people and moments that touch us. They are the jewels of our life. Illness diminishes our capacity to engage fully with life. Both illness and life are experiences. My experience with illness has changed my life. That experience now helps me to connect to others who are going through the same or similar and help them on a road of recovery. For many people illness is a temporary inconvenience. For some it marks the end of their life and for others a road that has to be accepted and endured. Illness can be embraced, endured or fought. It is up to the individual and their circumstances what path is taken. There is no right or wrong way to emotionally deal with illness. The individual decides. I fought my way back to well health. I looked for those answers that would enable me to go home back to myself.

That road home challenged me on many levels. It took me from my own temporary resignation to my horrible situation to a deeper understanding of the human body, life, spirit, soul, and the forces of nature and the universe. Would I change anything? That is a difficult question to answer. I hated being ill and loosing every aspect of myself and self-respect. It is difficult to live with oneself, in illness. I looked in the mirror and I did not see Lynette for years. The strong feisty lady who rolls up her sleeves and gets on with it had gone. The struggle she endured during those ill years was immense on all levels, emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. It was a hard horrible time.

I came through it stronger, wiser, and clearer in my understanding of many aspects of life, more knowledgeable and more skilled. So my difficult time gave me something. It took something and gave me something else in return. So, would I change it? Probably not on balance, I think. I am still here with a somewhat different outlook on life. To be honest I am grateful to the universe for all it has given me over the past sixty years of my life. What is a little bit of fog between the universe and I?

The Continuation of Life

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I am sure that many people will have had the usual round of New Year’s greetings at the stroke of midnight, seeing out the old year and welcoming in the New Year. Dubai saw the old year out with an unfortunate fire that spread through one of its tall hotels. Mercifully no one was seriously hurt. However the fire did put a slight dampener on the celebrations as they had to be little scaled down due to the unfortunate occurrence. The following day I am sure would have seen many people who were connected with the hotel and the incident either as employers, employees or residents, dealing with the devastation that the fire would have left. A great deal of loss of one sort or another would have followed such an incident.

We look to the New Year to bring us new and better things, emotionally, financially, physically, and health wise. In reality our life does not begin a new as the old year passes. Our life is a continuation of events, one event building upon another. Accidents such as fires are due to poor decision making. I do not know what caused the fire in Dubai. It was possibly an accident. Accidents happen all of the time, people take a wrong turn, make a wrong decision, may have been carless in an action, decided something without care, all of these things may bring about an accident.

Our choices and decisions fashion future outcomes. Lives are built one day at a time one decision or choice at a time. If you feel that 2015 was not a good year for you, then ask yourself what you did in 2015 to ensure that 2016 is that very good and prosperous year that you desire. Our life is not something that just happens to us. We create our lives one day at a time one decision at a time.  At the end of your life you will look back over those days that made your life and what you will see is a pattern. A thread that runs through your life. Whatever ill that you may feel has happened to you that you don’t like, you have the power to change it. A desire to change the pattern is the first step to change. The next step is action. Change can sometimes happen in an instant. However more often than not change is slow, but slow change is change and will take the person forward on a new path to their desire.

Everyone suffers painful events.

Everyone suffers painful events.

Everyone suffers painful events. Bad life experiences are not particular to you however you may feel. They are particular to everyone. Everyone suffers some pain in their life at some point in their life. Pain is a part of life as is joy also. Everyone has something of life’s mix. Each person will experience both pain and pleasure within their life. One experience must be balanced by the other. We are here to live and grow. We live to experience, and we are not here to have pleasure alone.  Struggle is at the heart of living, as is love, laughter and happiness also.  All conditions exist and all conditions go to make a life. A balanced life is a healthy mix of it all. I have no idea if 2016 will bring you the things that you desire and be a good one for you. Only you will know if your 2016 was a good one or not as you are the person who will get to experience it. Once it is done you will look back over 2016 and decide what you feel it was.

Many things will have touched your year. It may have been romantic love and the pain that can go with that. With each passing relationship we learn something about life and our self. If someone walks away don’t take it personally, you were not right for that person and neither were they right for you. It was just a miss match, but a valuable experience. Take stock and know that you were the best that you could be at this time. Annalise the situation and find the reason for the closure of the relationship. Did the relationship just come to a natural conclusion with no real fault on either side? There will be a lesson to be learnt so look for the lesson.

Finance always has its positives and negatives. We all need financial security. I have always found the remedy for lack of money is earn more spend less and save at least 10% of earnings. This seems such a simple philosophy. Life is rarely that simple as life always throws its twists and turns. However I have found that to be sound financial planning.

Greif comes to each of us given time. We all lose people as loss is a part of the condition of living. We live and then we die. Death will come to each of us given time. Everything dies. Everything passes in time. There is movement to life. Life moves. Life is energy and energy moves. There is a natural order in that. The death of the physical body is one thing but the soul of the person transcends life. I am a spirit medium and there is a real comfort in that knowledge for me. I know  many people  find comfort in that understanding.

When a family member passed two years ago she had not been gone two days and she came through to talk to me via a friend who is a medium also. My friend did not know my relative had died. It was quite a shock for us both as she invaded out telephone conversation. However it was also nice as being newly deceased was not going to stop her getting some things sorted before her funeral.

 

All conditions are a part of life.

All conditions are a part of life.

All conditions are a part of life. There is a thread that runs from one situation to another always. Examine the thread of your life and you will learn a lot about change.

I would like to wish all of our readers a very happy New Year and thank you all for supporting our blogs for the past few years. I hope you have enjoyed them, however  if not I hope that they have at least challenged you or stirred your thought in some way. 2016 will see the publishing of my New book “Feel the Power” and I hope that you should be inspired to buy it. Both David and I wish you a very Happy and peaceful New Year.

 

The Spiritual Message of Christmas

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Have you ever thought about the spiritual message of Christmas? Do you wonder what Christmas is about and that it might be about more than eating and drinking?

Christmas shares a number of common features with other festivals from other religions and cultures? Many religions and cultures have a common spiritual message contained within their festivals. Many festivals have similar practices the relevance of which have been lost over time to common understanding. Light is a common theme to many faiths and festivals. On a very practical note light can represent warmth and comfort against the harsh cold and darkness of long winter evenings.

 

Christmas also coincides with the winter solstice, December 21st, the point of transition at which the year draws to a close in the rhythmic cycle when nature sleeps and begins the slow awakening towards growth, warmth and summer.  Light is an important theme in the winter solstice as the transition of the seasons are being celebrated and witnessed. I believe there is a deep spiritual message contained in the concept of light that is not simply restricted to Christianity, but also to Judaism (Hanukkah), Hinduism (Diwali), Paganism (Winter Solstice) and other faiths and traditions across the world. Throughout Christian history, in an attempt to be embraced by many people, the church drew on parallels between non-Christian ideas and Christian concepts and made them their own. One example of this is Easter, where pagan ideas of the Easter bunny and Easter eggs have become as big a part of the celebration as the Christian message. It is my opinion that Christmas is no exception. The spiritual concept that so many people across the globe and throughout time have embraced during this time of year, of light being a beacon of hope and change amongst the darkness, the stale, materialistic and self- absorbed ways of old and entrenched traditions.  It is easy to get confused by dates and think that because these festivals do not fall on the same dates as each other and often do not fall on the same date each year according to the Christian calendar, that they are not related.  Reviewing these festivals and the messages of these festivals we can consider whether they might be spurring people towards similar spiritual developments and understandings?

 

The story of Hanukkah is the tale of the destruction of the Jewish temple by the Syrian King Antiochus and the miracle of the light that burned in the temple, representing the presence of God, while the Jews went about the task of making the temple holy again after Syrian occupation. This is a story of good over evil, of freedom over tyranny and of the light of hope and enlightenment over the darkness of ignorance and narrow- mindedness.

 

Jesus’ story is very similar in that Jesus was born in a time of Roman domination in The Holy Land during which the Jewish hierarchy was rigid in its interpretation of the Jewish Law. The star that led the Three Wise Kings to Jesus’ birth heralded a change for the state and the religion of the region.  Jesus himself became a beacon and light of hope for people who suffered under the tyranny of the Roman Empire and Jewish control.  Jesus marked a change towards love, forgiveness, compassion and tolerance and taught a different way to the status quo. Of course the star has great symbolic meaning to Christians. It led the way for the Kings and Jesus is the light that leads the way to God.

 

The story of Diwali has it that it is the celebration of the marriage of Lakshmi with Lord Vishnu. In Bengal the festival is dedicated to the worship of Kali (the goddess of creation and destruction).  Everyone forgets and forgives the wrongs done by others. There is an air of freedom, festivity and friendliness everywhere. This festival brings about unity.  It instils charity in the hearts of people.

 

According to the BBC website, Pagan traditions were born from ancient people’s life outdoors. “The seasons and weather played a very important part in their lives. Because of this many ancient people had a great reverence for, and even worshipped the sun. The Norsemen of Northern Europe saw the sun as a wheel that changed the seasons. It was from the word for this wheel, houl, that the word yule is thought to have come. At mid-winter the Norsemen lit bonfires, told stories and drank sweet ale.

 

The ancient Romans also held a festival to celebrate the rebirth of the year. Saturnalia ran for seven days from the 17th of December. It was a time when the ordinary rules were turned upside down. Men dressed as women and masters dressed as servants. The festival also involved decorating houses with greenery, lighting candles, holding processions and giving presents.

 

The Winter Solstice was celebrated in Britain long before the arrival of Christianity. The Druids (Celtic priests) would cut the mistletoe that grew on the oak tree and give it as a blessing. Oaks were seen as sacred and the winter fruit of the mistletoe was a symbol of life in the dark winter months. It was the Druids who began the tradition of the yule log. The Celts thought that the sun stood still for twelve days in the middle of winter and during this time a log was lit to conquer the darkness, banish evil spirits and bring luck for the coming year.”

 

There are many common themes of good and evil; light and dark; the light overcoming the darkness, destruction and creation; the emergence of the new order from the old order and rebirth. As with all spiritual messages and practice, these themes and ideas encourage us to look within to evaluate ourselves and how we are measuring up as beacons of light or dark. With respect to personal energy, this time of year is a time of contemplation and reflection. It is a time for each of us to look within and seek our own personal rebirth of new insight and understanding. I hope that this festive season leaves you renewed, having reached new perspectives that lead towards your growth and fulfilment in this New Year.

 

 

Doctors Help

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Number 4 in Lynette’s health series

Diagnosis M.E.

When I was diagnosed with M.E. it was a welcome relief. To be honest, even though I had heard the term M.E., I did not know much about the illness. I had heard in the 1980’s that young successful people would go down with the illness due to overwork.

I had a bacterial infection that almost killed me as it had made me very unwell. The doctors could not sort the bacterial infection out easily and on closer inspection on my overall health they came to a diagnosis of M.E.  When I received the diagnosis of M.E., I had no understanding of what that illness would mean to my life in the coming years ahead.  I suffered a great deal under the umbrella of that horrible illness. There were days of pain, where every bone and muscle in my body hurt. My body just did not work anymore. Something had been switched off and I just could not switch it back on. My energy levels did not exist anymore and I felt constantly sick and ill. If I ate I felt ill and if I did not I felt just as unwell. However I felt constantly hungry and I just never knew what to do to make myself feel comfortable. This went on for many years day after day.

No hope

The trouble with M.E. in those days was the illness was not understood and there was no medical cure or way forward with the illness. It is much the same today also. The medical profession do not know what to do to treat the illness, or how to cure it.  Doctors know what a horrible illness this is but the public by and large did not then and still do not understand what this illness means to the sufferer, by and large.  Although it is getting a little better as many people now  know a friend acquaintance or family member who has suffered with M.E.  I am sad to say that not much has changed over the years and there is little hope for the sufferer.

No help available

The medical profession did not give me any help with my illness as there was none to be given. I am sure if there had been something available I may well have been offered it. Nothing was ever offered to me as a help to my situation.

I remember going to the doctors many times over the years feeling very weak, ill and helpless and knowing that my symptoms were a result of my illness and there would be nothing that they could offer by way of help.  I went to see them anyway. I am not sure why. Maybe it was because as a symptom of my M.E. I would get infections almost weekly and have to have antibiotics all of the time. I hated having to go to the doctor and I hated the antibiotics even more.  That is just ridiculous I know, but it was about the emotional struggle of the whole situation and not the doctor or the medicine that I really hated.

There are so many illnesses that cannot be helped or cured. We think often of doctors as magicians that will wave a magic wand and make us better.  Very often that is indeed the case, but not always so.  They do the best they can within their circumstances and that which is available to them. That does not always help when we feel very ill.

In the end I gave into my illness as that is all I could do at the time. However in time I decided  I just would not give a moment more of my time to this horrible illness and I looked for a solution. I found my solution. Mine was in rest and Reiki. It helped me get my health back and my life back on track.

Holistic Support

Holistic therapies are being taken much more seriously by the medical profession as they are coming to understand the emotional support as well as the therapeutic and healing help that they can offer the patient alongside their own conventional treatments.

A colleague of mine said recently, that a doctor had said, they did not refer their patients for holistic therapy because that made them feel as if they had failed. Well my response to that is this: If you have given your best to your patient how can you have failed them? Therapists are duty bound to refer their clients to their GP if it is a condition that is outside the scope of their therapy. They have to give treatments that are supportive of any treatment the G P is giving.

Holistic benefit

At the end of the day it is the patient/client’s health and well-being that is the most important factor and not the pride of the therapist or the doctor in question. I did not have any such complaint with my doctors. I did not feel they failed me at all. They did not offer me holistic therapy. I have no idea on their policy with such practice.

I have a client who I helped last year. She came to me with an illness her doctor could not help with and within six weeks I had improved her illness so much so that she hardly suffers with it at all now. She can get on with her life and has just a very slight relapse from time to time. In time I feel that may well go as well.

Holistic therapy can offer a great deal of benefit to many conditions and many people. My client said to me that when I was suggested to her, she wondered what I could do that the doctors had not done or could not do. Well holistic therapies approach health from a different stand point. We look at the energy condition of the body and not the body as a machine. It is not better or worse than what the medical profession does it is just a different way at coming at the problem, and sometimes that is what is needed in some conditions.

Reiki made me better

My doctors were very patient with my illness but could not help me. I thank them for their time and patience as that helped me emotionally, and that emotional help was something of a support to me. However, Reiki made me better.

If you wish to find a Reiki practitioner in your area, go to the UK Reiki federation website. http://www.reikifed.co.uk/ or visit www.thelivingenergy.co.uk

Beyond Religion

Compassion is beyond religion- it goes to the root of our humanity & nature.

Compassion is beyond religion- it goes to the root of our humanity & nature.

Gandhi said that he was a Christian, Hindu, Muslim, Jew and Buddhist.  It implies a devout connection to principles that encompass all world religions, without a commitment to any particular religion.  No one can say that Gandhi did not embrace principles of respect, love and compassion in the actions in his life.  He believed in these principles.  He used them as the guiding principles in all his actions, not least during his non- violent protest of British presence in India and its subsequent independence.  He inspired Martin Luther King in his quest for equality for all peoples across the world in a non- violent form.

These men lived for their causes.  Their respect, love and compassion can never be destroyed.  That lives on for respect, love and compassion are founding principles of the universe.

Karen Armstrong, a former nun and founder of the Charter of Compassion, has researched the world’s religions extensively and she has distilled the common thread that links them all: compassion (see her TED talk: My Wish: The Charter for Compassion).  She uses this principle as the founding concept of her charter that encourages individuals, communities and nations to use compassion in their daily lives to improve the world (www.charterforcompassion.org).

Compassion comes from connection- to the universe, to the planet, to the animals and to our fellow human beings and humanity at large.  With that connection we understand that we are all one, from the same source.  If we respect other people we respect our self and if we hurt another we hurt our self.  That has been the message of great leaders such as Jesus, Buddha, Mohammad, Gandhi and Martin Luther King throughout human history.

Humanity separates one from the other on many issues and factors. Humanity will separate on the grounds of colour of skin, race, religion, politics and location to name a few. These things are not important, but humanity makes them so. We are all bound through a golden thread, and that thread is our humanity itself. We are all one family of human existence.

Living one’s life with compassion is a choice and each individual has free will to do so. Intellectually understanding the concept of compassion is good but truly making compassion part of our own living experience on every level is even better.

I do not subscribe to any religion in particular. I do not feel I need to do so. I know that I am a product of the universe in which I live and which created me. I know that through that I have a connection to the universe and that it is possible to consciously strengthen my connection to it.  I can do it through prayer, meditation and attunement. These all enhance spiritual connection.  All of these methods will strengthen my connection to the universe and deepen my feeling of connection to and compassion for all that exists. A Charter of Compassion maybe a good step forward.

There is nothing wrong with subscribing to a set of principles dictated by a particular religion; however we can live our lives as a good a decent person even if we do not. That is what I try to do. I try to be a good person rather than subscribing to principles laid down by any religion.  There is an argument that religion is the basis of our moral behaviour, but I believe there is a moral code built into us by nature itself.  This can be seen in animals’ behaviour and many instances of compassion that they too have been seen to display.

We can respect everyone as that is a choice and decision we make. Love and compassion grow out of respect. Respect first, love and compassion follow. No one needs to love anyone. We all need to behave with respect and kindness. That is what makes the world safe. Love is a very personal emotion. Love for another person will grow out of their actions to us. Love cannot be conjured up out of thin air. We earn love by our own kind and respectful actions to others. We can respect each other as fellow human beings. We can show compassion and kindness by choice.

We cannot love all human beings all of the time. However we can respect them and behave with compassion regardless of how we feel about them. We can offer them water when they are thirsty and food when they are hungry, and clean clothes or some finance if they need that.  There merely needs to be respect for their humanity to do that.

We all have a place in life and have to live together and find peace and harmony amongst ourselves for this existence to work for the whole. How best can we do that? To respect my fellow man means that I do not harm him. I allow him the freedom to live his life in peace and hope that he has the grace to do the same for me.

In recent weeks we have witnessed the Charlie Hebdo shootings in Paris, France.  We have to learn that we cannot kill each other just because we do not agree with each other.  If we do not agree with each other we can at least respect the other person’s right to life and their point of view, even when we think they are very wrong.

A person must have a desire to respect others.  Without that there can be no love and compassion. Respect comes from understanding the necessity and validity of behaving and living in harmony with those principles. There must be a benefit for them. The benefit is harmony and personal safety.

Compassion, respect and a deeper understanding of our place in the universe as well as our role in the universe are the foundation of these actions.

The message of love and compassion is preached by religion, but religion is not its source.  Compassion can be seen in nature.  There is no religion in nature, save the religion of living in harmony with the natural forces of the natural world.  I subscribe to that principle, to live in harmony with the natural forces of the earth and the universe.

God is the natural forces of the earth and the universe.  World religions are divided on God’s true nature and it is not my purpose to enter into a debate about that here.  My idea of God embraces all the world’s religions’ visions of God.  I may not agree with the details, but I respect the views each religion has on God.

There is a natural order to life of which we are a part. All religions have a purpose and that purpose is to light the way to God, higher spiritual connection and those higher forces of the universe. Their purpose is also to give us an understanding of what life is and our purpose within this life. This can be achieved without the aid of religion just as easily, if a person has the mind to do so.

Understanding ones place in the order of life and your personal spiritual path helps to kindle respect and compassion for everyone regardless of religion and other people’s beliefs. It is important for us all to live in tranquillity both with our self and fellow man.

We have a connection to God and the universal forces. God is the universe. Our connection to each other stems from that source of power. The universe created us and we are part of it. We are always part of that source however we can become emotionally disconnected from it. We can also be unaware of its true power and influence on us. We can draw on this great power of the universe for strength, guidance, spiritual and emotional sustenance. We can use it to show us the true nature of respect, love and compassion.

Through desire anyone can consciously enhance their connection to all of the universal forces which will in turn show the way to a life of respect, love and compassion.

Enjoy the little things

Enjoy_the_little_things_photoI watched a movie the other day set in England during World War 2. Two men are discussing the possible outcomes of the war when one of them says “no matter how long it lasts nothing will ever be the same again. We will be changed forever because of this war.”

Now don’t worry, I am not going to go on about war and it’s horrors, though there is no doubt the outcome of war changes our lives beyond measure.

I am looking at a broader perspective. I am asking “How do the moments of life change us and help us experience and grow?”  Reflection and contemplation are the keys I believe. To allow an event into our being so that it effects us. Through interacting with the original event we transform the energy into something new and in turn we are transformed.

This is the nature of growth and evolution. Every movie I watch, each conversation I have I try to take something away that I can work with and transform that idea into something new and in turn growing myself, transforming my thoughts and energy to create a new self- slightly wiser and more experienced than before.

What a gift to be able to give yourself and what a way to be able to be thankful for all the little moments in your life that might otherwise pass you by.

Miss Stress Ball

Miss Stress Ball

Miss Stress Ball

The My Story series continues with number three in the series, “Miss Stress Ball”.

 

I was a very quiet shy child. Life taught me to keep my mouth shut and keep a low profile. I was born in a time when you did not answer your elders and betters back. If you had an opinion you were to keep it to yourself as no one wanted to hear it from a child or teenager. That did not suit me as I was always a deeply thinking person.

Teachers

I am of mixed race and was born in the 50’s in London, Great Britain. Being mixed race was not an easy thing at that time. At school many of my teachers left me in no doubt that they did not want me in their class on the basis of my colour. Not all teachers where like that, I did have many kinds and lovely people who were my teachers and mentors along the way. However, the first teacher that made it clear to me that I was not wanted as a pupil by her was when I was five and first entered school. She made me cry most days until my mother had enough and went to the school and gave her what for. I remember hearing my mother say to the teacher if my daughter comes home one more day crying because of you, then you will go home crying. My mother was a tough woman.

Unkindness

Some of the children were unkind also and most would not play with me and did not include me. The boy next door threw a stone at me as I passed his house one day on the basis of my colour and called me all sorts of unkind names. The children who played in my street one day would not let me join in their game and said I t was because I was dirty. When I looked at my dress and hands, I showed the children and said no look I am clean. They replied with you are black and not white and you are dirty.

My Stresses

These were my personal early stresses in life. Times have got somewhat better with such things. Many people do try hard to be tolerant to all races now. Not everyone has this inclusive mind set even today. Life can be hard and cause us all sorts of stresses. Many of those stresses can start very early in our lives. As a hypnotherapist I know that most people when they come to me for help have had some sort of trauma/traumas at some point in their life. Stress always has a root.

I continued to gather stress as I went through life and as life dealt me many difficult situations to deal with. I had good ones too, but stress builds up in the body as negative energy and has to be removed. The body will accommodate an amount of it but when the sub-conscious mind and body becomes over loaded the person will break down in some way. It could be physical, emotional or even mental.

A Broken Body

My body broke down eventually and I fell into ill health, with M.E. The signs of stress were there in my life in my thirties and my friends joked and called me miss stress ball. I was a person who just would not give in to life and would just fight through the worst of it.

Everyone has a story and reasons why they become stressed. Life is stressful for all sorts of reasons. Stress must be dealt with and we all need to be mindful that we are impactful on each other in the things we do and say to each other. Why add stress to another person’s life. Life itself gives each of us enough of it.

Dealing with stress

I have dealt with my stress and ill health and the two things that help me the most are meditation and Reiki. I use both of those things to keep my stress in check. So effective have they been in my life that I teach these techniques to people when they need to manage stress in their lives in an effective way.  In the book “Nourish the Flame within” that I have written with David Brown I explore meditation and Reiki as means of combating stress.  If you would like to learn more about using Reiki and meditation to combat stress you can get a free e- book from our website or purchase a copy of our book “Nourish the Flame Within.”

 

 

No ones Perfect

509075791Perfection, what a perfect word! If you say it, it seems to roll off the tongue so nicely. It has an ease. We could say it has its own perfect vibration.

My father asked me

To be perfect- what does that really mean? Is it achievable? When I went to school perfection was encouraged. I did not understand why it was encouraged. It all just seemed to be taxing and challenging to me. To be honest as a child I could just not be bothered to deal with the subject of perfection. At that time in my life I was happy with whatever was the easiest option for me. I wanted an easy life. Why run harder and faster. That only puts a strain on the body. I hated sports with a passion. One day whilst watching Tennis my father posed the question to me. What sport do you like? It was not posed as a question but as a statement.  I asked him, what do you mean?  He said to me, you don’t like any.

I hated sport

This was true enough. I did not like doing them or watching them or even hearing about them. It was all hard work to me and therefore totally unenjoyable. Now as an adult I think what a waste. Also what a huge lesson I have learnt in life. With effort comes perfection. With hard work comes self-satisfaction and learning. These are some of the pieces of gold that life has to offer. It took me until my late teens and early twenties to understand the power of work and effort.

Work oh no

What I did not realise about work was this, that it is through work of any kind that we have an opportunity for perfection. Every time we engage with it we have an opportunity to perfect a skill, an interaction or production of something, either within ourselves or outside of ourselves.

It is not just about money but more than that. It is the perfection of the self through time, effort and experience. It is the nourishment of the self that leads to perfection. Perfection is something that we can all strive for but in reality is not achievable. We gain from the pursuit of perfection the rewards that are there to be had not from the attainment of perfection.

Perfection is not possible

Attainment of perfection is not possible, as people perceive perfection differently even though they may be observing the same circumstances. Perfection is subjective, and even if it is agreed upon by many at a particular time, the goal post will always change, both inside and outside of the self. So by who’s definition is perfection perfect anyway? The purpose of striving for perfection is to gain experience. The masters of music, art, dance, acting and sport have a depth and breadth of experience that allows them to get close to that pinnacle of perfection and they may even touch the summit, for a moment, and then it is gone.

If I had run around and pursued a life of sport I would have had a positive outcome no matter how much or little I put into it. Or how much or little of it I did, as it has its own rewards. I would have improved my physical fitness and maybe gained some increased self-esteem perhaps.

I spent my time drawing and painting instead and still gained a lot from that. So in reality I gained anyway. I just gained from something other than sport. I had my own vehicle for seeking perfection.

 

Modern man loves his machines!

Modern Man

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Life is just great. What a great time to be living in. When I was a child I would think to myself that I was so pleased that I was born at the time that I was. We have cars and aeroplanes; we have electricity and machines to help us. We have plenty of food and nice clothes. We have hot running water and bathes. I thought that modern life in the 50’s Great Britain was just that, great. I was especially happy that I was not a child of the Victorian times who would have worked in a factory or in a field. I had the privilege of going to school and being educated and at the weekends spending time with my sisters and parents. Times change and expectations change.

Standards

By today’s standards we did not really have that much in the days of my youth. Even though aeroplanes existed I had never been on one. I did not know anyone personally that had in those days. My parents had never been on one and no one I knew had either. The first person that I personally knew that did go on one was a friend at school when we were about 12 and she went to Spain for a two week package tour.

If I think back to the time that I grew up in the 50’s and 60’s and how life for me existed then and how it is now, I can see how things have changed. I am sure my mother and grandmother would have said the same throughout their lives. My grandmother was born in 1902 I think and my mother was born in 1927. Both women saw a lot of economic and social change in their time. My grandmother would have seen the birth of the aeroplanes and electricity in the home, electrical appliances, radio, TV, telephones and much more. She saw two world wars and women’s role in society change from one of subservience to men to fighting for equality alongside the men at work and in the home.

Expectations

Life changes as does our expectations along with the passing of time. Modern man loves his machines. There are so many now that we all simply must have. The one I write this on is one of my favourites my little lap top that is so compact and light. I use it to keep in touch with the world. I communicate with friends across the globe.

I write blogs, books and emails on it and I just do not know where I would be without it. If it were taken away from me how would I survive? I recently purchased a tablet and in fact I have two. I have a kindle tablet and a cheap tablet also. I did not purchase an expensive one as I was not sure how the thing would fit into my life. To be honest it has not. My kindle I just use for reading and downloading books. As for the ability to use the net on it, I just don’t.  Am I missing something I wonder some times? I see other people glued to their smart phones and tablets and I just have no use for either. We are all different even in our use of technology. Technology is a good thing.  It brings us a great deal of ease.  I have to admit that sometimes I wonder at what cost and if we don’t pay too much for the price of a gadget.

Choice

We all work harder than we have ever done in modern times. Many of us push ourselves to limits that the mind and body were not designed for. Human beings are quite robust and we don’t break easily. I do see many miserable faces out there in life these days. Not everyone has a smile on their faces. Technology is meant to enhance life and make it better than it has ever been. There are so many people striving for a dream. Each person has their own dream. They each have their own idea of what makes the perfect life. Some dream of owning a Lamborghini and others dream of the latest most expensive handbag whilst others dream of the dream career or job or home. The perfect life dream is something different to each person. We are all individual.

Our life is full of choice and courses. We can choose one thing over the other. We all have collective choice and individual choice. Why do we the individual choose one thing over another? For the most part we choose what will benefit us the most. Benefits come in many shapes and sizes. There are as many benefits to be had as there are choices to make. The beautiful red shoes feed and satisfy the emotions whist the dream job sustains a family and their wellbeing.  Choice seems to bring its own problems. Modern man does have choice but at what cost to his life? If we visit any corner of the industrialised west an array of goods line shop shelves in every area of society. How much does each individual need to own to satisfy their desire for choice and abundance? Each person has a desire for abundance as abundance offers security of life in some respects.

Blight

Is modern man happy? Does our way of life sustain us? We are told that in the west we are overweight and eating poorly. We are told that we are blighted by heart disease and cancer. Why is this? We eat too much of the wrong things in the West and we sit too much and do not move our bodies enough. We drive our cars too much and do not use our legs enough. What is the answer? I just don’t know. Do you?