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The Universe Influences

ThinkstockPhotos-177794827Mind body connection

There are many books on the market that talk about the mind and body connection or the mind and life connection. Books such as the Secret and authors such as Louise Hay have used and shared this mind- life, mind- body understanding. Hypnotherapy is a practice that centres on those connections and uses them for the benefit of the client’s health and well-being. The connection between mind and body and mind and life is very well understood by health and well-being professionals.

We also have a connection to the Universe. We are the Universe. We are not separate from the Universe. Every moment of every day we have a profound connection to the totality of the Universe. If you consider yourself separate from the Universe please answer this. Where did you come from? What made you? What are you made from?


You are energy

You are energy through and through. You are made of the stuff of the universal stars. You are no different to them. You have your place amongst them. They are energy and so too are you. The Universe came into being a long time ago and we can say it has a life of its own. It too lives and breathes as you do. Stars come and they go. The Universe experiments with energy on many levels, life forms come and go depending on how successful they are within the universal experiment. You are made of the stuff of the stars. The universe created you to live and breathe. It created you to live a life. Life can be challenging. Many things both good and bad happen within a life. People cross each other’s paths, sometimes those meetings and crossing are good and happy ones with fulfilling outcomes. Other times they are not so. If they are considered good or bad it will depend on the view points and agendas of those doing the analysis. Each person has free will and choice. Each person has a mind of their own. Each person has thought patterns and processes. These thought patterns and processes are unique to the individual. The individual ultimately gets to choose how they think. Their thought processes help them to make sense of the world and understand it to a degree.


Your life influence

It is not commonly understood by the general public that there is a mind connection with life itself. We think from the point of view that thinking and action will bring about a result.  It is true that thinking, decision and action will do that.  Results will be gained efficiently by using thinking decision and action and should not be underestimated as it plays an important role in taking the individual forward in a chosen direction. However what is not as easily understood by people in general is that they have another field of influence upon life. This is an energetic one. We can bring situations or people in our direction by our energetic connection to life and the Universe on all levels.


The Universe thinks and heals itself

The Universe is a thing. It lives, breaths and thinks. It has consciousness throughout. Human beings are also energy with consciousness. We too are energy that thinks. It is like two heart beats, the universal heart beat and the human heart beat. They can beat in synchronisation or out of synchronisation. So we can be conscious and energetically in tune with the Universe or out of tune with the Universe.

We all have influence on our lives, the lives of others and our thoughts and decisions through physical interaction, conscious thought and energy interaction and manipulation. There is an energy that permeates the Universe that influences everything. It is the catalyst that fires the Universe on all and every level. This energy is called Universal energy. It is known by many names and every culture has a name for it. It’s made up physically of a combination of electricity and magnetism. It is electromagnetic energy. It permeates all life on all levels. It is a carrier or information. It carries thoughts, ideas and beliefs around and throughout the Universe. It is a universal telegraph wire. It carries information everywhere. This background energy is known to science and they are calling it “The field”. Esoteric people and healers have called it Universal energy, Chi, Ki, Psychic, and Pranic energy amongst other names. It has been known to man for many thousands of years and the Chinese have understood its healing properties and how to exploit them for five thousand years.


Transferring Universal information

Everything you think and feel is carried into the world as energy. It is carried around the earth and out into the Universe on the back of Universal energy. Your thoughts are transferred through Universal energy to all parts of the Universe. We have all heard of the Aboriginal people of Australia and the fact that they have telepathic abilities. If what I have said holds water and it does, then this is a perfect explanation to those abilities.

You have both connection to and influence upon the Universe. You are part of the Universe and a part that makes up the totality of the Universe. Your thoughts and actions and deeds add to or take away from the Universe. You are important to the Universe. There is a responsibility to the Universe by you to it. Whether you consciously acknowledge that responsibility or not is your free will and choice.


Your Universal life

The Universe acknowledges you and the life it gave you. It will interact with you on many levels. It gave your life to you and in time it will take that life back. How you live that life is your free will and choice. If you interact with the Universe consciously, this is too your free will and choice. It is for you to understand that the choice is yours and you can exercise it at will. The Universe will respond to your thoughts and actions. Not with fire and lightening but with situations, people and circumstance to your ultimate benefit.

Benefit comes in many textures. Some rough and some smooth. What you may feel benefits you may not be the same thought and understanding to the Universe. However, it is not the point of living to give you a hard time to punish you. We are strengthened by being stretched. We always have the Universe’s ear when things are unbearable to us. Speaking your truth, thoughts, wants, needs and desires to the Universe is not seen as selfish but a necessary part of your right and growth. The Universe hears you. A word of caution here: please be careful of what you ask for. Harmful thoughts, deeds, and desires always have repercussions. We are all human and sometimes each of us may fall a little short. This is part of our learning and growth. To set our own boundaries of good and right is a good thing. To understand that our desires affect others is a good thing. To abuse our position in the world is a bad thing. Harm to others deliberately done is not acceptable to the Universe and should not be acceptable to you. Fairness and love is a good starting point in any situation. Selfishness, harshness and greed will not be seen well. You may have selfish and harmful desires in the short term as they may be part of your growth and growth to others. What feels bad to us we seldom engage in twice by choice. Basically what I am saying is this: we grow by experience and sometimes we do not get things correct. No one is perfect, we are perfecting ourselves daily. It also must be said that others feel our energy and thoughts by way of energy and if they feel bad, we will be seen in that light by those who engage with us.


Interacting with the Universe

We can ask the Universe for direct and positive input into our lives, health, and living situations. The Universe responds to those requests. We interact with the Universe every moment of the day and do so largely without conscious thought on the matter. If we give our interaction conscious thought and conscious interaction we have more of an influence upon outcomes.

We think things into being on either an energetic level or a physical level. For anything to come into being it must be preceded by a thought first. When I learnt how to design many decades ago one of the things that were drilled into me by the design process is the fact that change happens by my conscious thought. An idea comes into being by thought first then execution second. Along the way in the execution process the idea can be changed manipulated and honed. It is the same with the manipulation of energy. We have a thought or an idea and that is then communicated to the Universe and then the Universe responds by moving energy to bring it into being.

Whatever you want or wish for and even if it seems impossible; tell the Universe what it is. Ask the Universe to move situations in your direction to bring about the change that you desire. For your life to go in a certain direction you have to bring about the physical change or you have to ask the universe to do it for you. What the Universe will do will show you how to make the change by bringing people, ideas, or situations in your direction. Sometimes and more often than would be supposed it will just drop things in your lap. You can ask for many things from the Universe and material things are amongst those that can be asked for. They will not always be granted but if you don’t ask you probably will not get it unless you physically do it for yourself. The Universe makes the path to what you want and need easier and smoother for you.


Steering your life

You have a life that you can steer in this direction or that, according to your own desires. The Universe has a role in that life as it gave it to you. You are part of the Universe and it has a vested interest in you and your life. Day by day you live and grow and the Universe helps you to do that. It supplies the ingredients for life.

So what are your desires and wishes? Whatever they are as you think them whisper them to the universal forces and ask those forces for a direction toward them. The Universe points the way forward.

The fog lifts hope for the future

164Number 6 in Lynette’s series



I was ill for a long time as I have said in previous blogs. I recently reconnected with an old friend who asked me, “When you were teaching me all of those years ago where you unwell?” “Well yes of course I was” I said. I asked her if I was any different and she said “Yes, I had a lot more energy”. A fibre myalgia client said to me that people just do not understand how ill one is with this illness. Fibre myalgia and M.E. are similar illnesses. “If you had a hand or arm missing people would see your pain and difficulty. Because the pain you feel is internal they can’t see it and so don’t understand the levels of physical pain you are coping with”, she said. This is very true and I would support that entirely.

There is a mental fog that is attached to this illness and the sufferers mental thinking is diminished for the duration of the illness. Some days it is worse than others of course. I found that the things that were so easy in the past were difficult on every level. Anything physical was hard and anything that required my mental capacity was also difficult as my brain just would not work properly.

I am a trained artist and designer and all of my life from my childhood I have used my creative capacity. When I was ill it was almost impossible for me to do anything creative. For about half a decade I did pretty much nothing but sleep. I could not paint, draw or design and it all felt lost to me. I read a lot during those times when I had a break in my illness. That reading took my on a new path. One that I had contemplated years earlier, but had set aside for my first love art.

My love of art started when I was a baby. My mother drew for me a cat. I must have been no more than eighteen months old as I know I was still being carried by her. I never forgot that day she drew the cat. There are times, days, circumstances, people and moments that touch us. They are the jewels of our life. Illness diminishes our capacity to engage fully with life. Both illness and life are experiences. My experience with illness has changed my life. That experience now helps me to connect to others who are going through the same or similar and help them on a road of recovery. For many people illness is a temporary inconvenience. For some it marks the end of their life and for others a road that has to be accepted and endured. Illness can be embraced, endured or fought. It is up to the individual and their circumstances what path is taken. There is no right or wrong way to emotionally deal with illness. The individual decides. I fought my way back to well health. I looked for those answers that would enable me to go home back to myself.

That road home challenged me on many levels. It took me from my own temporary resignation to my horrible situation to a deeper understanding of the human body, life, spirit, soul, and the forces of nature and the universe. Would I change anything? That is a difficult question to answer. I hated being ill and loosing every aspect of myself and self-respect. It is difficult to live with oneself, in illness. I looked in the mirror and I did not see Lynette for years. The strong feisty lady who rolls up her sleeves and gets on with it had gone. The struggle she endured during those ill years was immense on all levels, emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. It was a hard horrible time.

I came through it stronger, wiser, and clearer in my understanding of many aspects of life, more knowledgeable and more skilled. So my difficult time gave me something. It took something and gave me something else in return. So, would I change it? Probably not on balance, I think. I am still here with a somewhat different outlook on life. To be honest I am grateful to the universe for all it has given me over the past sixty years of my life. What is a little bit of fog between the universe and I?

Creating Space

The air was thick with water and I was covered with a fine film of condensation.  The scene was almost ghostly or other worldly.

The air was thick with water and I was covered with a fine film of condensation. The scene was almost ghostly or other worldly.

In Wales on one of my many walks in Nature, I discovered a beautiful waterfall, with the most astounding tree growing on the edge of the pool that was at the base of the falls.  All the branches of the tree were growing away from the falls creating an imbalanced shape which was striking.  What was clear to me was that the spray from the falls had created a great force on the tree and the branches had only developed on one side of the trunk. The tree responded to the force by leaning away from the falls.  I marveled at the power the force of the flowing water, gravity and the spray can have.

It also struck me how a living thing can change how it grows in accordance with its environment and conditions.

These forces are simply waves.  The water flows over the falls creating wind and spray as it falls and hits the water pool at the bottom.  These waves have direction and speed that influence the environment around it.  The waves of energy carry the water droplets far through the air creating a dampness that supports prolific moss growth that hangs off every branch and rock in the area.  The air was thick with water and I was covered with a fine film of condensation.  The scene was almost ghostly or other worldly.

Waves require space to move.  In previous blogs we have discussed how waves interact and in that interaction create patterns.  These patterns in turn create form.  I think the walk I described above is a stunning example of interaction of waves creating beauty and can be used as a metaphor for our lives.

We must have space. There must be room for exploration so that we can grow.  If our lives are full with every moment accounted for in a rigid and organised way there is no room for spontaneity or new experience.  Some people like the comfort of this, but for others it is stifling.  In truth, there can only be growth if there is space.  Like our tree, the branches of our lives only grow where there is space to fill.

With space comes interaction and with interaction comes the creation of all.  If I interact with people I can create something magic with them.  Sometimes interactions with others are painful.  All experience has its purpose and it is all learning.

Scientists tell us the universe is continuously expanding.  This means there is ever more space being created. It has to be filled with something.  Space is our opportunity for new experience, growth and learning.  It can deepen our understanding of our self, others and life itself.  Had I not created the space in my life to go for that walk, I would never have stumbled upon that tree and I would not be able to share the experience and thoughts that I had with you. You have kindly created the space to read this.  Thank you. I hope you have found it thought provoking.  I invite you to share your experiences of creating space in your life for something and the learning that has come from that in the comments below.  Life is about the magic moments however small those moments are.  It is the depth of knowledge and understanding about life that they give you that counts.

Beyond Religion

Compassion is beyond religion- it goes to the root of our humanity & nature.

Compassion is beyond religion- it goes to the root of our humanity & nature.

Gandhi said that he was a Christian, Hindu, Muslim, Jew and Buddhist.  It implies a devout connection to principles that encompass all world religions, without a commitment to any particular religion.  No one can say that Gandhi did not embrace principles of respect, love and compassion in the actions in his life.  He believed in these principles.  He used them as the guiding principles in all his actions, not least during his non- violent protest of British presence in India and its subsequent independence.  He inspired Martin Luther King in his quest for equality for all peoples across the world in a non- violent form.

These men lived for their causes.  Their respect, love and compassion can never be destroyed.  That lives on for respect, love and compassion are founding principles of the universe.

Karen Armstrong, a former nun and founder of the Charter of Compassion, has researched the world’s religions extensively and she has distilled the common thread that links them all: compassion (see her TED talk: My Wish: The Charter for Compassion).  She uses this principle as the founding concept of her charter that encourages individuals, communities and nations to use compassion in their daily lives to improve the world (www.charterforcompassion.org).

Compassion comes from connection- to the universe, to the planet, to the animals and to our fellow human beings and humanity at large.  With that connection we understand that we are all one, from the same source.  If we respect other people we respect our self and if we hurt another we hurt our self.  That has been the message of great leaders such as Jesus, Buddha, Mohammad, Gandhi and Martin Luther King throughout human history.

Humanity separates one from the other on many issues and factors. Humanity will separate on the grounds of colour of skin, race, religion, politics and location to name a few. These things are not important, but humanity makes them so. We are all bound through a golden thread, and that thread is our humanity itself. We are all one family of human existence.

Living one’s life with compassion is a choice and each individual has free will to do so. Intellectually understanding the concept of compassion is good but truly making compassion part of our own living experience on every level is even better.

I do not subscribe to any religion in particular. I do not feel I need to do so. I know that I am a product of the universe in which I live and which created me. I know that through that I have a connection to the universe and that it is possible to consciously strengthen my connection to it.  I can do it through prayer, meditation and attunement. These all enhance spiritual connection.  All of these methods will strengthen my connection to the universe and deepen my feeling of connection to and compassion for all that exists. A Charter of Compassion maybe a good step forward.

There is nothing wrong with subscribing to a set of principles dictated by a particular religion; however we can live our lives as a good a decent person even if we do not. That is what I try to do. I try to be a good person rather than subscribing to principles laid down by any religion.  There is an argument that religion is the basis of our moral behaviour, but I believe there is a moral code built into us by nature itself.  This can be seen in animals’ behaviour and many instances of compassion that they too have been seen to display.

We can respect everyone as that is a choice and decision we make. Love and compassion grow out of respect. Respect first, love and compassion follow. No one needs to love anyone. We all need to behave with respect and kindness. That is what makes the world safe. Love is a very personal emotion. Love for another person will grow out of their actions to us. Love cannot be conjured up out of thin air. We earn love by our own kind and respectful actions to others. We can respect each other as fellow human beings. We can show compassion and kindness by choice.

We cannot love all human beings all of the time. However we can respect them and behave with compassion regardless of how we feel about them. We can offer them water when they are thirsty and food when they are hungry, and clean clothes or some finance if they need that.  There merely needs to be respect for their humanity to do that.

We all have a place in life and have to live together and find peace and harmony amongst ourselves for this existence to work for the whole. How best can we do that? To respect my fellow man means that I do not harm him. I allow him the freedom to live his life in peace and hope that he has the grace to do the same for me.

In recent weeks we have witnessed the Charlie Hebdo shootings in Paris, France.  We have to learn that we cannot kill each other just because we do not agree with each other.  If we do not agree with each other we can at least respect the other person’s right to life and their point of view, even when we think they are very wrong.

A person must have a desire to respect others.  Without that there can be no love and compassion. Respect comes from understanding the necessity and validity of behaving and living in harmony with those principles. There must be a benefit for them. The benefit is harmony and personal safety.

Compassion, respect and a deeper understanding of our place in the universe as well as our role in the universe are the foundation of these actions.

The message of love and compassion is preached by religion, but religion is not its source.  Compassion can be seen in nature.  There is no religion in nature, save the religion of living in harmony with the natural forces of the natural world.  I subscribe to that principle, to live in harmony with the natural forces of the earth and the universe.

God is the natural forces of the earth and the universe.  World religions are divided on God’s true nature and it is not my purpose to enter into a debate about that here.  My idea of God embraces all the world’s religions’ visions of God.  I may not agree with the details, but I respect the views each religion has on God.

There is a natural order to life of which we are a part. All religions have a purpose and that purpose is to light the way to God, higher spiritual connection and those higher forces of the universe. Their purpose is also to give us an understanding of what life is and our purpose within this life. This can be achieved without the aid of religion just as easily, if a person has the mind to do so.

Understanding ones place in the order of life and your personal spiritual path helps to kindle respect and compassion for everyone regardless of religion and other people’s beliefs. It is important for us all to live in tranquillity both with our self and fellow man.

We have a connection to God and the universal forces. God is the universe. Our connection to each other stems from that source of power. The universe created us and we are part of it. We are always part of that source however we can become emotionally disconnected from it. We can also be unaware of its true power and influence on us. We can draw on this great power of the universe for strength, guidance, spiritual and emotional sustenance. We can use it to show us the true nature of respect, love and compassion.

Through desire anyone can consciously enhance their connection to all of the universal forces which will in turn show the way to a life of respect, love and compassion.

No ones Perfect

509075791Perfection, what a perfect word! If you say it, it seems to roll off the tongue so nicely. It has an ease. We could say it has its own perfect vibration.

My father asked me

To be perfect- what does that really mean? Is it achievable? When I went to school perfection was encouraged. I did not understand why it was encouraged. It all just seemed to be taxing and challenging to me. To be honest as a child I could just not be bothered to deal with the subject of perfection. At that time in my life I was happy with whatever was the easiest option for me. I wanted an easy life. Why run harder and faster. That only puts a strain on the body. I hated sports with a passion. One day whilst watching Tennis my father posed the question to me. What sport do you like? It was not posed as a question but as a statement.  I asked him, what do you mean?  He said to me, you don’t like any.

I hated sport

This was true enough. I did not like doing them or watching them or even hearing about them. It was all hard work to me and therefore totally unenjoyable. Now as an adult I think what a waste. Also what a huge lesson I have learnt in life. With effort comes perfection. With hard work comes self-satisfaction and learning. These are some of the pieces of gold that life has to offer. It took me until my late teens and early twenties to understand the power of work and effort.

Work oh no

What I did not realise about work was this, that it is through work of any kind that we have an opportunity for perfection. Every time we engage with it we have an opportunity to perfect a skill, an interaction or production of something, either within ourselves or outside of ourselves.

It is not just about money but more than that. It is the perfection of the self through time, effort and experience. It is the nourishment of the self that leads to perfection. Perfection is something that we can all strive for but in reality is not achievable. We gain from the pursuit of perfection the rewards that are there to be had not from the attainment of perfection.

Perfection is not possible

Attainment of perfection is not possible, as people perceive perfection differently even though they may be observing the same circumstances. Perfection is subjective, and even if it is agreed upon by many at a particular time, the goal post will always change, both inside and outside of the self. So by who’s definition is perfection perfect anyway? The purpose of striving for perfection is to gain experience. The masters of music, art, dance, acting and sport have a depth and breadth of experience that allows them to get close to that pinnacle of perfection and they may even touch the summit, for a moment, and then it is gone.

If I had run around and pursued a life of sport I would have had a positive outcome no matter how much or little I put into it. Or how much or little of it I did, as it has its own rewards. I would have improved my physical fitness and maybe gained some increased self-esteem perhaps.

I spent my time drawing and painting instead and still gained a lot from that. So in reality I gained anyway. I just gained from something other than sport. I had my own vehicle for seeking perfection.


Alive, Well and full of Good Vibration


We are all alive in this moment. However how alive is alive? Each person must put effort into their lives to gain the most from it. It is not that living is hard that is the problem or that the effort that is put into things goes un-noticed. It is really the quality of that effort that is the key. If we put a low quality of effort into our projects then less will ensue from that effort. Effort and quality of effort has its own particular vibrational signal.

For instance everything has a vibration and all things have a particular quality of vibration. Laughter has a high vibration and sadness has a lower vibration. If we attack our lives and days with laughter and happiness then we bring a high lighter vibration to all of our situations. Laughter and lightness is expansive and it is engaging to all. Whilst misery is engaging to no one as it is contractive.   Think about it, how many miserable people do you like to be around? Not many I bet. We are only around these people for a short a time as we can manage. These people bring our own mood down and are draining to us. Everything has a vibration. All people places and things, including emotions and states of being have their own vibration.

Happy People

Who likes to be around happy people? Hands up! Everyone does. That is because these people feed our own energy system and raise our vibration. They mostly have a positive impact on us. We all like to be at happy social occasions as they feed out soul. However there are some people who do not like to be around happy people. This is usually because they feel out of their comfort zone due to shyness or social awkwardness, or perhaps because they are out of sorts themselves. These people either feel resentful of happy people being happy as they are not in that place themselves.  Or they just find them tiring due to the high energy levels that happy people exude.  This will be the case if the person is physically ill with low energy levels usually.  Rest, peace and quiet will be more likely what you need.

If you are emotionally depleted and just a little out of sorts then happy people are what you need. They will raise your low vibration and be infectious to you. They will have energy for you to sap as they will be giving off energy in abundance.  Have you ever met a person who was a little fed up or even depressed and after talking to them you found yourself feeling low on energy or emotionally drained? Well there is your reason. They sapped your energy levels.

However if you are very unwell or really very lacking in energy happy energetic people can be more draining to you in the short term. As maybe what you need is just rest and peace and quiet. As I said before everything has its own vibration and we are affected on all levels of our lives by vibrations and the quality of each and every vibration.

Social Gatherings and Personal Vibrations.

People who do not like to be amongst vibrant people tend to hate social gatherings. These tend to be people who find engaging with others difficult. The difficulty of social engagement lays in the differences in vibrational levels of the people. If a person has a weak vibration then they will be less likely to like being around people with a strong vibrational signal. They will feel engulfed by that as well as perhaps threatened by it. People who are shy have a weak vibrational signal. Think about it, most of us have encountered someone who’s shy. Close your eyes and think about that encounter. Were you intimidated by that person? No you were not. They were non-threatening and maybe you found their demeanour a little irritating and maybe even pathetic depending on who they were and the circumstances of the encounter.  Don’t get me wrong I have had my moments of shyness as probably many of us have.

These attributes can be overcome with a little self-confidence, experience and knowledge. Shyness has its own vibration and it is a weak vibration. What is required is a change in mental state to raise the vibration of the person. All vibrations are responded to by others who are feeling that vibration. In the main most people find social gatherings especially family gatherings a blast and love to be invited to such gatherings.

Raise the Vibration

It is partly to raise our own vibration and to make ourselves feel good, that we all go to social gatherings. We can also raise our own vibration by just thinking of happy things. Good memories of past happenings and occurrences will do the trick and raise our vibration. The brain does not know what is real and in this moment or in the past. It does not differentiate between happy things that have actually happened to us and happy things that we have seen and understood. So you can make anything up and your brain will accept it as true for you. I am happy right now. Say it and tell yourself it often and it will become true for you in reality. You will raise your vibration and you will understand the truth of what I am saying here to you now. In time you will feel happier and other people will respond to you in a positive happy way. Life will change and that change may be fast or slow but positive happy thoughts will bring positive change.

Look for the things that will feed your soul and make you happy. Look for people who are on that high vibration and are positive and happy to feed your soul. Settle for nothing less than that which will enhance your situation. We all meet people who are in a down or depressed state from time to time. Please share this knowledge with them and try to get them to do affirmations each day. I am happy fulfilled and in a good space….that kind of thing. Train your brain and get these people to train theirs. I know depression is an illness but it is also a choice for some people.  Take active steps to alleviate states of depression with positive actions and thoughts.

We all from time to time become down for one reason or another but there is no need to feed these states. There is a lot that we can do personally to change our mood. Life does not just fall into our laps. Or at least for most people it does not. So we all have to go out there into life and carve it for ourselves. This takes time effort and self-belief on our part. That is a story for another day. The message for today is know that you can change your mood by raising your own vibration.


Modern man loves his machines!

Modern Man

506976185Modern Man

Life is just great. What a great time to be living in. When I was a child I would think to myself that I was so pleased that I was born at the time that I was. We have cars and aeroplanes; we have electricity and machines to help us. We have plenty of food and nice clothes. We have hot running water and bathes. I thought that modern life in the 50’s Great Britain was just that, great. I was especially happy that I was not a child of the Victorian times who would have worked in a factory or in a field. I had the privilege of going to school and being educated and at the weekends spending time with my sisters and parents. Times change and expectations change.


By today’s standards we did not really have that much in the days of my youth. Even though aeroplanes existed I had never been on one. I did not know anyone personally that had in those days. My parents had never been on one and no one I knew had either. The first person that I personally knew that did go on one was a friend at school when we were about 12 and she went to Spain for a two week package tour.

If I think back to the time that I grew up in the 50’s and 60’s and how life for me existed then and how it is now, I can see how things have changed. I am sure my mother and grandmother would have said the same throughout their lives. My grandmother was born in 1902 I think and my mother was born in 1927. Both women saw a lot of economic and social change in their time. My grandmother would have seen the birth of the aeroplanes and electricity in the home, electrical appliances, radio, TV, telephones and much more. She saw two world wars and women’s role in society change from one of subservience to men to fighting for equality alongside the men at work and in the home.


Life changes as does our expectations along with the passing of time. Modern man loves his machines. There are so many now that we all simply must have. The one I write this on is one of my favourites my little lap top that is so compact and light. I use it to keep in touch with the world. I communicate with friends across the globe.

I write blogs, books and emails on it and I just do not know where I would be without it. If it were taken away from me how would I survive? I recently purchased a tablet and in fact I have two. I have a kindle tablet and a cheap tablet also. I did not purchase an expensive one as I was not sure how the thing would fit into my life. To be honest it has not. My kindle I just use for reading and downloading books. As for the ability to use the net on it, I just don’t.  Am I missing something I wonder some times? I see other people glued to their smart phones and tablets and I just have no use for either. We are all different even in our use of technology. Technology is a good thing.  It brings us a great deal of ease.  I have to admit that sometimes I wonder at what cost and if we don’t pay too much for the price of a gadget.


We all work harder than we have ever done in modern times. Many of us push ourselves to limits that the mind and body were not designed for. Human beings are quite robust and we don’t break easily. I do see many miserable faces out there in life these days. Not everyone has a smile on their faces. Technology is meant to enhance life and make it better than it has ever been. There are so many people striving for a dream. Each person has their own dream. They each have their own idea of what makes the perfect life. Some dream of owning a Lamborghini and others dream of the latest most expensive handbag whilst others dream of the dream career or job or home. The perfect life dream is something different to each person. We are all individual.

Our life is full of choice and courses. We can choose one thing over the other. We all have collective choice and individual choice. Why do we the individual choose one thing over another? For the most part we choose what will benefit us the most. Benefits come in many shapes and sizes. There are as many benefits to be had as there are choices to make. The beautiful red shoes feed and satisfy the emotions whist the dream job sustains a family and their wellbeing.  Choice seems to bring its own problems. Modern man does have choice but at what cost to his life? If we visit any corner of the industrialised west an array of goods line shop shelves in every area of society. How much does each individual need to own to satisfy their desire for choice and abundance? Each person has a desire for abundance as abundance offers security of life in some respects.


Is modern man happy? Does our way of life sustain us? We are told that in the west we are overweight and eating poorly. We are told that we are blighted by heart disease and cancer. Why is this? We eat too much of the wrong things in the West and we sit too much and do not move our bodies enough. We drive our cars too much and do not use our legs enough. What is the answer? I just don’t know. Do you?



Stress and Strain

Stress Free

Stress Free

 The life of inner peace being harmonious and without stress is the easiest type of existence.

~~Norman Vincent Peale~~

A stress free life

Life How do we find a stress free life? Is this an impossible dream for us all? Is there any part of our lives that is truly stress- free? I am not so sure that there is. For is I look at our entry to life all I can see is stress. The mother is certainly stressed, the baby about to be born must be stressed for he or she is about to be thrown out of its cosy existence into a world unfamiliarity. It has spent the past nine months very cosy and warm and nourished thank you very much. So why should it want to be thrust into life at all. If we look around the delivery room there will be a few anxious midwives rushing around doing the things that mid wives do at these times of uncertainty and new delivery. Calming the parents to be the best they can and stabilising their own nerves I am sure. The very thought of that environment is stressful. Of course there is joy to follow for when the little chaps or chap-ess arrives there can be nothing but joy.  The poor little thing enters a world of stress and joy and then is slapped on the bottom for good measure.

More stress

Well this is the start of life for human beings and there is much of more of all that to follow in the years ahead. Stress and joy, to come in life and not in the same measure unfortunately. No one knows how the little new little person’s life will be. We all wish the new born the best and hope its life will be a good one. There is such hope pinned on the new born for its parents want it to be the embodiment of all of their hope and dreams.  A lot is placed on the shoulders of the new arrival. Already it has to live up to the parents expectations and it has only just arrived. No one tells the poor thing that this will be its start to life and if they did the child would probably say no thanks to life.

The start of life is not easy and it does not get any easier for as we travel through our lives and the twists and turns that it throws in our path life can sometimes be crushing for many people.

Of course not every one’s life is a crushing affair for many if not most it is an OK affair that is travelled through with a reasonable amount of dignity and grace. There are many lives and many kinds of people living those lives. All are different one from the other all have both the people and the lives. Do we make our life or does our life make us? I think that is an interesting question. In the industrialised west life is a fast paced noisy existence for all.

Life in the fast lane

As most people in industrialised  societies live their lives in the city, noise, people and stress are unavoidable. Life is fast paced and about productivity in all things. The cry of the city is fast more and more. It does not matter how fast you are you must be faster still and there is no end to the striving for an ever increasing pace in all things. I wonder to what cost this fast paced life we all must live is. For whom does it serve? Does it serve the person living this fast paced life does it truly serve society at large? I wonder this often and I am not sure I have the answer to this question. For it is true that the industrialised life we all live brings benefits to us but is that at a large price. Well time will tell of course if all of this stress will have been worth it. When I was a young child of the fifties modern medicine was the golden child of the twentieth century. It was going to eradicate disease and put all to rights. Well I am not sure that it has. It has done marvellous things of course we all are in no doubt about that. Many diseases that were the blight of the nineteenth century have almost been removed totally and that is a good thing.

Life of ease

If I look around at life I do not see this life of ease that was the promise of the twentieth century. Machines and objects were to bring us ease. The vacuum cleaner, the car, the electric lawn mower all are labour saving devices. People are as stressed and worried about life as they always were. They are still worrying about their economic position personal, national and global.

In amongst all of the financial uncertainty that we have all endured in over the past few years I see many stressed uncertain people trying to make sense of their lives life in general and what will happen to them in the future. I think rightly so, for who wants an uncertain future. Who wants to feel that they may lose their home or not be able to put food on the table?

An Interesting ride

I have seen many things come and go, mainly prime ministers and world leaders. Some have been good and some have been bad. Some have shouted for fairness equality and change and others have shouted for the status quo. All have had something to say on how life should be organised for the masses to the best effect.

Well it has been an interesting ride watching and listening I must say. However it seems to me that things do not change so much really. The same issues tax us all. We want to go about our lives unhindered in relative safety and peace. We want our basic needs met and a holiday or two on top. We all want normal things but those things come at a price. Those things come through the daily grind. The daily grind can do just that grind at you and grind you down if you let it.


So if life does not change much and we can expect the same amounts of stress what do we do? What is the trick to a stress free life? The first trick is to understand that stress is a necessary part of life.. The next is to learn to manage the stress that life throws at you. Now this is the tricky one. For how do we do that? Well what I can tell you is there are tools that you can learn to help with stress.  Things like meditation and hypnosis are good ways of managing stress. As well as breathing correctly and taking adequate sleep and rest. All help with levels of stress. The best one is to avoid stress as much as possible be walking away from stressful situations and not causing stressful encounters to be in your life. For stress causes many illnesses. It does so slowly over many years mostly. You will not notice the effects of stress on a day to day basis, but it builds up within the body slowly eating away at your health and vitality turning you into a grey shadow of your former self.  Oh how horrible!

I am sorry to paint such a picture which is not at all pleasant but neither is ill health. There are many ways to combat stress and each person must find the one that suits them the best.  Relax and do something nice and just don’t take life to heart or it may hurt your heart.


Miss Stress Ball

Illness Why Me?

Illness Arrives
Illness is a funny old thing. It arrives on our doorstep one day and it seems often to have come out of know where. Illness happened to me like that. I was vacuuming the house one day and I had the most horrible pain at the back of my head. It made me stop what I was doing momentarily. I did worry for a moment but then let the thought go. I thought to myself that either this was nothing or it was the pre curser to some horrible illness. I had always enjoyed good health and so why would that change? I was thirty six and with life ahead of me and full of ideas for my future. Ill health was not on my agenda. When is it ever for anyone?

Some weeks later, I started to feel some pain in the right side of my face. I did not know what it was I just knew that I was in a great deal of pain. I went to my doctor prescribed anti-biotics and de-contestants. I did not know then that this was the very beginning of one of the worst periods of my life. Often when people become ill this is the truth. Their lives, as mine did, take a huge turn for the worst.

Unwelcome Inconvenience
Illness presenting itself in our lives is always unwelcome and a huge inconvenience. We often think of the beginning of our illness starting the moment we felt ill. However this is seldom the truth. The truth is more likely to be that the illness started years before. Its roots will have been in the past. It will have quietly entered your life and your body and the energy will not have necessarily been noticed by you.

Illness is a slippery customer. It seldom enters with bells and whistles to alert you to its presence. It enters quietly and then gets to work on you. It works its way into your life and body. In fact, the beliefs we hold about ourselves and the world around us are entwined with our life and our body. There is no way to separate them. When we become ill most of us become the victim. We say why me? What did I do to deserve this?

I Caused my own Illness
Sometimes the answer is plenty. For illnesses such as M.E. which I suffered from for many years, I can say that I did plenty to deserve all that my body put me through, although I did not know it at that moment and would find out the truth of this many years later. If someone had told me then that I had brought this illness on myself and it was my own fault I would not have believed them. Because as far as I knew about ill health it just happened, with no rhyme nor reason to who it struck down.

It certainly struck me down for it took me many years to recover my health. This was the beginning of a miserable time that was to last more than a decade and took me to places within myself that I did not know existed.

Worry and Burnt Candle
I had burnt my candle at both ends and I worried myself into the ground. That is a sure way to health disaster. This time led me on a journey and one that led me to learn lots of things about maintaining good health. If only I had known then all that I now know with regards to maintaining health. I could have avoided many years of horrible health and pain. Well we live and learn. I sure did.

This horrible health experience led me to write Nourish the Flame Within, in the hope that others will not suffer my fate, and go down the road of health doom and disaster.
The story continues with……….
Illness set in the past

To find the reason for my illness we would have to go far back into my youth.

Biblical Rain and Misery

Rain and Floods

The ancient peoples of the earth understood and thing or two about life. They understood that they were a part of a greater whole. Recently in Britain we have had nothing but rain. Of course Britain is known for its rain. It has always been a standing joke both inside and outside of Britain. “The Rain”.

The message has always been if you are come to Britain bring your umbrella with you. In fact I stayed in a hotel once in Wales that gave complementary umbrellas to the guests as a way of enticing them into the hotel on weekend packages. Well that free umbrella has long gone but it was useful along the way.

The misery that floods incur is not to be underestimated. I live about 12ft or so from the edge of a river. I could not be much nearer. When my river rose during the recent rain we stepped outside one morning to find water over spilling onto the bank and heading in our direction. My neighbours and I were not happy. Luckily for us all it did not do more than that. All of the housed were safe. However, not so for so many people in Britain as devastation has travelled across the United Kingdom and the West Country has been very badly affected indeed.
Some people in Britain have been hit by flooding year after year in recent times. I watched people on the news give their thoughts and feelings to the interviewers about their plight with the rain, floods and devastation that has gripped their lives. It has been called floods of Biblical proportions. I can hear the wind picking up and threatening more rain as I write this.

Rain of Biblical Proportions and God’s Displeasure
Religious books are full of stories that tell us what happens to insignificant man should he step out of line and incur god’s displeasure, or even just the earth’s. Have we brought this in some way on our own shoulders? I have watched the weather patterns seemingly change over the years. Now I am no expert on these thing and the experts themselves seem not to be entirely in agreement. Some say global warming and some say not.

The Debate Goes on
The debate goes on with not real conclusion amongst any of us. May be we all have too much of a vested interest in keeping things as they are so we ignore the signs of erosion of the earth’s balance. We all talk in terms of our newest gadget or fashion item or what we simply must own next. At what cost to us all perhaps? We also talk about the endangered species of the earth due to our own expansion and greed. Maybe what we should all be worrying about is another species. Not the tiger or the elephant, although I fully support them both and their miserable plight. Maybe there is a more important cause to worry about, an animal that needs our help more. Ourselves! Perhaps we too are an endangered species. Not by numbers but by our own stupidity and actions.