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Energy in the Spotlight

Connection puts us all in the Spotlight

Connection puts us all in the Spotlight

Connection is one of the keys to spirituality. You cannot truly connect unless you open your heart and mind to another- we call it empathy. It is about seeing some one where they really are, how they are truly being in that moment and feeling that in our self- the pain, love, sorrow and joy.

This connection breeds compassion, an understanding that allows healing and forgiving. You practise this on one another and you can practise it on your self.

Everything is a reflection. Seeing pain in others when you are connected brings about pain in your self. Witnessing joy in others when you are connected ignites joy within you. I think we should be prepared to go either route for life is full of both.

To become aware of this connection makes you think twice before you act. It has that affect on me- I may do it anyway, and then it is a more thoughtful, mindful act. It may cause pain and then my apology is more heart felt and genuine because I felt it more deeply.

Seeing things as energy breaks down the imaginary boundaries between them. Without boundaries we are naked, raw and vulnerable. Without boundaries we are reflections of each other in real time- we bleed together, cry together, laugh together and dance together. This is humanity living together in the great River of Life.

When I was a child, I went on a school trip into London. On the underground I saw a tramp on a platform and in my naivety I stood staring at him. A business man saw me do it and said to me “we did that to him”. I felt terrible, guilty and sad. To this day I do not know what he truly meant by that. Perhaps now I have an answer- that without connection, how can we ever hope to help our self and each other and make the world a better place? And, in the tradition of all self growth, the answer becomes another question.

I saw Spotlight recently, a movie about the tale of The Boston Globe’s exposure of child abuse in the church in the late twentieth century. So sad to think these men of power did so much harm. Men who are supposed to be connected to God and doing God’s work, just as Islamic suicide bombers claim to be connected to God and doing God’s work. In my opinion this is the opposite of connection for no connected human being could do this. Why? Because they would feel the pain they cause. The reflected mirror would seer their eyes, burn their hearts and their ears would shatter at the sounds of the screams of pain, guilt and anger. No, these are empassioned people on a crusade not thinking about how their actions are hurting themselves and the world.

And so I ask you not to put your hearts and souls into the hands of people you presume and expect to have your best interests at heart. Instead, be discerning, let your connection and intuition lead you to make insightful decisions regarding your spiritual health and well- being.

Emotion in the Body

Have you wondered what people mean when they refer to the mind- body connection?   How does this relate to energy? What role does energy play in this connection between body and mind?

One of the key forces of the mind is emotion, feelings that flow through the mind and body created by the release of hormones, neurotransmitters and other chemicals that affect the body and mind in a myriad of ways. These chemicals are released as a response to events and situations that occur in your life. There are many chemicals for the body to choose from. Which ones you choose are determined by your beliefs and values, so that you might be anxious about the prospect of talking in public because you believe it to be a threatening situation, or you might be excited by the idea because it is thrilling to be sharing your ideas to a group of people. The quickening heart, the shortness of breath, the strained voice are all symptoms of one emotional response. The steady beat of the heart, the calm breathing and the conviction in your strong voice are the symptoms of a different response. Neither emotion is right or wrong. It is just how you feel about it. Those feelings create an emotional response in your body. This cascade of events occurs because the mind and the body are connected.

Energy and emotion

Emotion is energy in motion (e- motion). All things are energy and all energy flows. Emotion is a particular energy flow that is part of the human experience bringing you the highs and lows of living. Emotions can be joyous and painful. That joy and pain is felt most keenly when it flows, as it courses through your body and you experience that flow of energy. Sometimes that flow can be over- whelming as you feel the intensity of it. The joy of loving and feeling loved and the pain of bereavement are two more common examples. These emotions are sometimes so powerful that you cannot stop them flowing.

Some times in your life you might have been taught not to express your emotions. As children it is common to be told not to cry or not to be so silly, to grow up when upset or not to display anger. These restrictions are sometimes cultural and can also be because the people around you cannot handle these emotions themselves and so feel uncomfortable with them. In a desperate effort to control the situation, children are told by parents to stifle their emotions.   Humiliation at school by peers can be a powerful learning ground for suppressing emotion.

When energy is trapped

So what is really going on inside of you when this happens? From the point of view of energy, the emotion you are feeling in that moment is energy in flow creating a response in your body that generates anger, sadness, jealousy or whatever, manifesting certain behaviour- you cry, shout, scream etc. When told to stop, you try to stem that flow, stopper it like a cork in a champagne bottle or holding tight onto the lead of your dog when it is trying to get away. This takes effort and energy of it’s own and the body tightens to contain it. Muscles stiffen to hold on to the energy as it tries to flow. Because the energy is contained, the bodily response subsides. Perhaps unknown to you, the energy is still inside you, trying to flow and held back by your body through muscle tension.

You know this if you have ever relived a past experience- the emotion resurfaces as if the event had just happened- powerful and emotional. Over many years, with repeated events such as these, the body becomes increasingly tense, limiting movement, strength, breathing, posture, digestion, presence and preventing relaxation that allows the body to act naturally. With so much emotion trapped in the body, the mind also becomes tense, as it has to monitor the muscles that are trapping this energy and make sure nothing gets released. Over time, this takes up more and more of your energy, splitting your mind and body, making it harder to focus on the present and relax into the moment.

Restricted energy in motion manifests as tension throughout the body

Restricted energy in motion manifests as tension throughout the body

The consequences of this learned behaviour over time can be severe. As well as reducing emotional range because you do not allow yourself to express more than just mild emotions, the mind and body become tight, increasing stress, accelerating the aging process, reducing learning and adaptability, preventing flexibility and agility of body and mind and affecting health as well as well- being.

When you release energy

How do you release this trapped emotion? What is most important here is to do so in a safe and appropriate way. Sometimes it might be important to seek professional support in dealing with emotions that are otherwise challenging to handle and work through. Meditation can be an excellent method for releasing tension and becoming mindful of your feelings when that emotion is released. Yoga too can be a brilliant method for stretching out tension throughout the body, creating calmness and relaxation in mind and body. Massage, reflexology, acupuncture and shiatsu are all methods of relaxing the body and therefore the mind as part of a programme to bring the mind and body into balance and towards well- being. There is another energetic advantage to relaxing body and mind and allowing the energy to flow through you rather than be trapped inside: that is connection. When relaxed you are more connected, more present and open to the fullness of the moment. Here you connect not just to your self, but to the world and humanity. Through doing this work, you reconnect to your natural state, connected to the expansive whole of the universe.

Over to you

How do you experience the mind- body connection? How do you allow your emotions to flow? What can you share about stifling and suppressing emotions? We’d love to hear from you and share in the discussion about energy, so come on over and post your comments in the box at the bottom of the page.

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Alive, Well and full of Good Vibration

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We are all alive in this moment. However how alive is alive? Each person must put effort into their lives to gain the most from it. It is not that living is hard that is the problem or that the effort that is put into things goes un-noticed. It is really the quality of that effort that is the key. If we put a low quality of effort into our projects then less will ensue from that effort. Effort and quality of effort has its own particular vibrational signal.

For instance everything has a vibration and all things have a particular quality of vibration. Laughter has a high vibration and sadness has a lower vibration. If we attack our lives and days with laughter and happiness then we bring a high lighter vibration to all of our situations. Laughter and lightness is expansive and it is engaging to all. Whilst misery is engaging to no one as it is contractive.   Think about it, how many miserable people do you like to be around? Not many I bet. We are only around these people for a short a time as we can manage. These people bring our own mood down and are draining to us. Everything has a vibration. All people places and things, including emotions and states of being have their own vibration.

Happy People

Who likes to be around happy people? Hands up! Everyone does. That is because these people feed our own energy system and raise our vibration. They mostly have a positive impact on us. We all like to be at happy social occasions as they feed out soul. However there are some people who do not like to be around happy people. This is usually because they feel out of their comfort zone due to shyness or social awkwardness, or perhaps because they are out of sorts themselves. These people either feel resentful of happy people being happy as they are not in that place themselves.  Or they just find them tiring due to the high energy levels that happy people exude.  This will be the case if the person is physically ill with low energy levels usually.  Rest, peace and quiet will be more likely what you need.

If you are emotionally depleted and just a little out of sorts then happy people are what you need. They will raise your low vibration and be infectious to you. They will have energy for you to sap as they will be giving off energy in abundance.  Have you ever met a person who was a little fed up or even depressed and after talking to them you found yourself feeling low on energy or emotionally drained? Well there is your reason. They sapped your energy levels.

However if you are very unwell or really very lacking in energy happy energetic people can be more draining to you in the short term. As maybe what you need is just rest and peace and quiet. As I said before everything has its own vibration and we are affected on all levels of our lives by vibrations and the quality of each and every vibration.

Social Gatherings and Personal Vibrations.

People who do not like to be amongst vibrant people tend to hate social gatherings. These tend to be people who find engaging with others difficult. The difficulty of social engagement lays in the differences in vibrational levels of the people. If a person has a weak vibration then they will be less likely to like being around people with a strong vibrational signal. They will feel engulfed by that as well as perhaps threatened by it. People who are shy have a weak vibrational signal. Think about it, most of us have encountered someone who’s shy. Close your eyes and think about that encounter. Were you intimidated by that person? No you were not. They were non-threatening and maybe you found their demeanour a little irritating and maybe even pathetic depending on who they were and the circumstances of the encounter.  Don’t get me wrong I have had my moments of shyness as probably many of us have.

These attributes can be overcome with a little self-confidence, experience and knowledge. Shyness has its own vibration and it is a weak vibration. What is required is a change in mental state to raise the vibration of the person. All vibrations are responded to by others who are feeling that vibration. In the main most people find social gatherings especially family gatherings a blast and love to be invited to such gatherings.

Raise the Vibration

It is partly to raise our own vibration and to make ourselves feel good, that we all go to social gatherings. We can also raise our own vibration by just thinking of happy things. Good memories of past happenings and occurrences will do the trick and raise our vibration. The brain does not know what is real and in this moment or in the past. It does not differentiate between happy things that have actually happened to us and happy things that we have seen and understood. So you can make anything up and your brain will accept it as true for you. I am happy right now. Say it and tell yourself it often and it will become true for you in reality. You will raise your vibration and you will understand the truth of what I am saying here to you now. In time you will feel happier and other people will respond to you in a positive happy way. Life will change and that change may be fast or slow but positive happy thoughts will bring positive change.

Look for the things that will feed your soul and make you happy. Look for people who are on that high vibration and are positive and happy to feed your soul. Settle for nothing less than that which will enhance your situation. We all meet people who are in a down or depressed state from time to time. Please share this knowledge with them and try to get them to do affirmations each day. I am happy fulfilled and in a good space….that kind of thing. Train your brain and get these people to train theirs. I know depression is an illness but it is also a choice for some people.  Take active steps to alleviate states of depression with positive actions and thoughts.

We all from time to time become down for one reason or another but there is no need to feed these states. There is a lot that we can do personally to change our mood. Life does not just fall into our laps. Or at least for most people it does not. So we all have to go out there into life and carve it for ourselves. This takes time effort and self-belief on our part. That is a story for another day. The message for today is know that you can change your mood by raising your own vibration.

 

Energy Therapy- Reflexology (Part 4)

Reflexology dates back to Ancient Egypt, India and China ad was introduced to the West in 20th century.

Reflexology dates back to Ancient Egypt, India and China ad was introduced to the West in 20th century.

A brief history of Reflexology

According to the Association of Reflexology website, “Whilst the art of reflexology dates back to Ancient Egypt, India and China, this therapy was not introduced to the West until Dr William Fitzgerald developed ‘Zone therapy’. He believed that reflex areas on the feet and hands were linked to other areas and organs of the body within the same zone.

In the 1930’s, Eunice Ingham further developed this zone theory into what is known as reflexology. Her opinion was that congestion or tension in any part of the foot is mirrored in the corresponding part of the body.”

The Theory of Reflexology

There are different schools of thought as to how manipulating the feet and hands can affect the wellness of the rest of the body.  One idea is that the nerve endings in the feet and hands are connected to particular organs and regions of the body.  Stimulating these nerves through massage can have a balancing effect on the organs or glands to which they are connected. Meridians are another way in which the feet and hands are connected to other parts of the body.  These are lines that run through the body along which Chi (the universal energy force) flows.  In Taoist tradition the belief is that free- flowing, unblocked Chi means the body is balanced and healthy physically, mentally and spiritually.

The truth is probably a mixture of these schools of thought.  Because nerve endings and meridians terminate in the hands and feet, a reflexologist is stimulating both nerve endings and meridians and affecting and influencing both. Perhaps the school you ascribe to depends on the belief system with which you feel most comfortable?  Personally I am happy with both the western, medicine based explanation of nerve endings and the eastern, Taoist theory of meridians.

Either way, Reflexology theory states that applying pressure to certain points on the hands or feet affects the energy flow of the body in some way.  The role of the practitioner is not to cure, diagnose or prescribe, but rather to help the body to restore its balance naturally.  That is why the practitioner takes a holistic view of the client’s health and tailors each treatment to the client’s individual needs, taking into account both physical and non-physical factors that might be affecting their wellbeing.

My Reflexology practitioner, Natasha Sharpin, works from The Salus Wellness Clinic in Cambridge, UK, a treatment centre for many complementary therapists near the city centre.

My Reflexology Session

The session started with some basic questions about health and personal details.  As I answered, Natasha took notes.  I began to relax as the soft music playing on the iPod and the calming environment began to take its hold.  This seemed to coincide with more probing questions about diet, overall well- being and even dreams that I have.  Although Natasha knew that I was in her treatment room to be able to write a piece for our blog, she asked to come to the session with an issue that I would like help in resolving.  I have always suffered from tension in the neck, shoulders and stomach areas and wondered if Reflexology could help.

Once Natasha was satisfied that I had painted a picture of my general state, she asked me to go over to the treatment chair.  Through a series of slow electrically driven movements, the chair moves you from a vertical position to a near- horizontal pose that is extremely relaxing and makes it easier for the Reflexologist to work with your feet.  Natasha offered me a blanket to keep me warm as I was going to be still for about 45 minutes.  I was fully clothed save for my shoes and socks.  Firstly, Natasha cleaned my feet with an alcohol-free swab and then she began looking and studying my feet!  She started telling me things about my body that I had not mentioned in the earlier part of the session, in particular the tension in my neck and shoulders and in my right hip.  I was intrigued and surprised that so much information could be gleaned from the feet!

The next part of the treatment was the foot work. It was very relaxing and at times surprisingly painful (in that way that you feel it is really doing you good).  For the first few minutes Natasha slowly and precisely manipulated my feet, as she instructed me to breathe in long, slow breaths to aid relaxation.  As the session progressed, the thumb pressure went into some really tender places that corresponded to the areas of tension in my body.  Above and beyond the wonderful sensation of having my feet massaged and the relaxing feeling it left my body in, I felt more aware of the stresses and strains I put my feet under and how this may have an impact on my body as a whole, as well as the reverse effect.  The fact that the effects of stresses that the body is under manifests in the feet should not really be a surprise, as we are fully integrated beings influenced and effected in many subtle and intricate ways.

After the massage session, Natasha and I briefly discussed some of the things I could do to support the benefits of the session in my own time.  These included using a hand reflex point in the heel of the hand below the thumb that stimulates the reflex point to the adrenals leading to reduced stress.  Using strategies of stress relief and tension release have a holistic effect on the body, the perfect complement to the Reflexology session.

Reflection

I found the Reflexology session with Natasha very beneficial.  During the session and after I felt much of the tension in my body significantly reduced and so better able to manage the stress I feel. Although it would be better to have regular sessions to support the body in reaching balance and harmony, as is the case with most health issues, it is not necessarily practical financially or with respect to our busy schedules.  However, being given tips about how to manage my own stress and tension using reflexology means that I am empowered to take control and responsibility for my own health. With that said I did book in for a few weeks later.

Stress and tension are both major contributors to illness.  It stands to reason that learning effective ways to manage one’s stress levels is really important for long term health and well- being.  Rather than reaching for a cigarette, a pint of beer or a glass of wine or even popping pills when we feel stressed, would it not be better for our overall health to learn simple techniques to relax and calm the mind and body? Accessible tricks like the one’s I learned in my Reflexology session really help me manage stress, as well as meditation, going for a walk in the countryside, playing music or doing exercise.  All these things are free or very cheap.  Certainly cheaper than cigarettes and some alcohols and better for you in the long- term.

My Family recently had a health scare.  We have a history of high cholesterol and my brother was recently fitted with stents to keep open some of the arteries leading to his heart.  He had a suspected heart attack and collapsed in his late 50s.  He is well now and learning to manage his diet better to reduce his cholesterol and so reduce the likelihood of a repeat event.  Naturally this shocked me and I felt motivated to look at my diet and life style and see where changes could be made to reduce my own risk of illness related to high cholesterol.

I was staggered at how poor my health was compared to what I imagined.  I was much more over-weight than I imagined, I had high blood pressure and I had high cholesterol levels.  These things had risen so slowly I did not realise my health was in danger.  My brother’s heart attack was the wake-up call I needed.  In six months I had reduced all these symptoms to much healthier levels and I felt so much better for it.  Almost two years later I am still following a healthier life-style, based on a good understanding of my diet, the effect certain foods have on me, exercise as well as ways to manage the stresses I face during my life.

I think therapies such as Reflexology are powerful tools to help manage stress and the symptoms of stress.

Reflexology works better for us if we are prepared to make the necessary health changes as well.  Perhaps the inevitable consequences of aging are not so inevitable after all, if we take control of our life-style early in life and reduce the stress and tension that can lead to age related ailments later in life.  I for one believe in this self- responsibility and I am happy to use Reflexology as a means to help me manage my health and well-being more effectively.  I am looking forward to my next session.

 

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My thanks go to Natasha Sharpin, founder of Reflex- aaah, who kindly gave me a Reflexology session and taught me so much about Reflexology.  Natasha’s details can be found at www.reflex-aaah.co.uk and www.salus-wellness.com.