I have noticed that these words have been banded about more frequently in recent years but until now I have struggled to place them in a context of a universe of flowing energy that sits right with my understanding. They are referred to in books such as The Secret and The Celestine Prophecy Trilogy and by Deepak Chopra to name a few as if to imply that there is no apparent chance involved- that there is some background mechanism drawing these seemingly unrelated events together in a coordinated and meaningful way.
The Oxford English Dictionary’s definition of coincidence is “remarkable concurrence of events apparently by chance” while the World English Dictionary defines synchronicity as “an apparently meaningful coincidence in time of two or more similar or identical events that are causally unrelated”.
I work with subtle energy and have seen time and again the manner in which life situations shift and flow in different (and often in seemingly unrelated) ways as changes in attitude, understanding and response have far- reaching implications. I am reminded of a client whose attitude to life consistently brought him to unfulfilling relationships, little satisfaction and poor results in work and study as well as an unhappy living environment. Once working through the barriers that blocked the healthy energy flow in his mind, body and life he turned his entire life situation around in weeks: he improved his grades from D’s and C’s to B’s and A’s, resigned from his previous job and began searching in earnest for something more suitable and fulfilling, moved to a beautiful ground floor apartment that was more appropriate for his son to visit and began a new relationship with a woman he felt was supportive of his continual growth and development.
My interpretation of this client’s situation is simply that the energy of his mind had been flowing in a way that was limiting and led to identical or similar outcomes, but once that energy flowed in new, empowering and life enhancing directions, his life began to blossom and bloom in ways he had only dreamed. To him the transformation was remarkable. To me it was the inevitable result of background mechanisms powered by shifts in energy flow from negativity to positivity and from limiting to empowering beliefs. To him it was coincidence (or synchronous). To me it was redirecting valuable energy from pathways that brought pain and unhappiness into pathways that meant he could “live the life he’d imagined” and at the same time reap unexpected and seemingly unrelated benefits in the bargain.
So what are these “background mechanisms” of which I speak? Science tells us that everything is connected- all things are attracted to everything else in the universe through the force of gravity. If everything is connected, then there is a relationship between all things in the universe. Therefore, nothing is unrelated, nothing occurs by coincidence and events are not synchronous. They simply appear to be so because we are unaware of the relationships between things or events. These connections form an invisible network through which energy flows. The strength of that energy relates to the strength of the connection- we may be aware of our connection to our children in the room next door, but unaware of our connection to some distant star in a neighbouring galaxy. We tend to relate to these connections in an emotional way and indeed, emotion is a form of energy flow brought about by some connection between us and another. We feel strong emotion when we have a powerful connection with someone- the energy surges and that energy can be directed towards anything we choose as long as we create a strong connection to it. The client I mentioned earlier redirected the energy of his thinking and in so doing changed his relationship and the strength of his connection to his son, work, studies, home environment and significant relationship. Such internal changes may have other unforeseen affects- he may enter into a more fulfilling career path, command a greater salary and more responsibility, become a more inspiring role model for friends and family (not least his son) and someone upon whom others can rely.
There may be health benefits, both mental and physical. A mind more intimately connected to and in harmony with, its environment is more calm and centred. Therefore stress and its effects on health will be limited. The calmness he feels will also affect the people around him, making him more likely to have friends and fulfilling relationships, make him more likely to be hired by a new company or promoted in his existing one. The possibilities are endless and unknown at the moment, but I do not believe they are unrelated.
Finally, what if we are making stronger connections with things we are not aware of, so that we attract into our lives the things we need to be able to take the next step forward? What if those things are there all the time but we did not notice them- opportunities missed because we did not see them? By shifting the way we think, redirecting the energy of the mind, we strengthen new connections and become aware of new choices- things we were oblivious to beforehand.
From birth I have had limited strength and movement in one of my shoulders. I have worked hard not to allow this to be an issue as I have always been active and not wanted to use it as an excuse for being unable to do something. In the main that has been the case, but it has only got me so far. Recently I found the compassion to give myself a break about it which seemed to coincide with a deluge of commercial opportunities that have profound financial and business- related benefits. Whether the self- compassion opened the connection to the opportunities or the opportunities were a chance for me to express self- compassion I do not know. What I do know is that my life is flowing in new and fascinating directions that I had not envisaged- the kind of excitement that comes from embracing life’s opportunities and feeling the flow of energy of life all around me.